My big boy

My children are getting so big.  It feels like yesterday that they were tiny little babies.  Some of them are growing up faster than others. 

Adam is extremely cool.  Almost too cool to be my little boy anymore.  I have to be very quick about hugging him goodbye in the mornings at school.  No obvious PDAs.  (Whereas Kate will hug me, kiss me, tell me she loves me....)

This weekend Marko and Adam went away on a boys weekend to Durban to go to the Top Gear Car Show. GREAT excitement!  Adam has been looking so forward to it.  

Side note:  It is amazing how different people affect the energy in the house differently.  Things are so much more relaxed and easy when Marko and Adam aren't here.  Adam is always bored / wants a sweet.  He constantly needs stimulation.  I can never sit and relax with Adam around because he will want or need something from me.  Marko on the other hand is happy to sit and watch TV or play games on his iPad but he is super strict*, so when he is around things are a lot more tense. I have to worry about the kids behaving or else he will get cross and when he is cross it isn't fun for anyone, especially not me!!  Between the two of them, it is impossible for me to relax.  But when they aren't here, Max, Kate and I just chill.  It is quite lovely and relaxing.

(In fact, every weekend Marko and Adam go out, to look at cars, or to the mall to walk around, have a coffee etc.  It is a precious two hours or so for the rest of us :) )

Anyway, the boys left on Friday night late'ish (so of course I worry that Adam is going to be tired because the kids never stay up late - I am a firm believer in that kids need sleep and mother needs her time off!). On Saturday Marko sends a picture of Adam at the car show, very sweet. Very excited.  And of course the first thing that goes through my mind is "I see he has his jacket on, I hope he is not too hot. I wonder if Marko said he must wear his jacket. Plus he has a vest on. I hope he will take it off if he is too hot. But what if he loses his jacket! Then Marko will be cross and Adam will be sad". And then I shouted at myself inside my head and said "STOP IT!!". Jeez, I can be a pathetic worrier sometimes (all the time).

Adam has been sending me Whatsapps the whole weekend which are so sweet.  They are such a perfect mix between a big, cool boy and my little boy who misses his mom.  So special.  Also, I can't believe how well he writes!  He writes like a big boy!

(Also - notice how I can't help myself and 'fuss' over him. I am a fart)

It is a strange feeling to watch your children grow up.  Growing up means growing away from me.  Which is good and healthy and important, but it is a little (VERY!!)  sad for me.  I am a very (overly) nurturing mother. I like to baby my children.  Two of my kids love it. The third one is gently, slowly extricating himself away from the apron strings a bit.  Big boy. I am so proud of him and the person he is becoming. 

Here are some pics of Adam at the Top Gear show.

*It is just as well that Marko is 'super strict' as I am super not-strict. If it was just Marko, their lives would be a lot harder.  If it was just me, they would be wild children. So just as well there are two of us around.

Comments

[Liz]

So glad you finally updated! I also feel that my kids are growing up way too quickly and recently wrote about my son on my blog. Like you, I have b/g twins and a younger daughter. I swear they were babies two minutes ago.

http://wisewomenmontreal.com/2014/05/holdingontomylittleboy/

[BiancaW]

Ah - I LIVE 10 minutes from that stadium and we couldn't go. :-( Looks like they had a blast! My boy Bryce sounds JUST like your Adam. Always bored. Always needing entertainment. Grrrr!! I totally understand what you mean when you say it's more relaxing when M&A are out - I feel that way when Dean and Bryce are out! :-) Love them both madly though.