Kate had an upset tummy today ('every time I eat something, I have to poop') so Adam and I went alone to swimming class today. On the way back, he looked up at me with lots of love (as he does often) and squeezed my hand. I told him that I loved him very much (as I often do).
Adam: I love you too mom..... But I am going to marry Troy. (Troy is his BEST friend EVER. He loves Troy)
Me: Oh....dear... but I thought you were going to marry me?
Adam: (very torn) Well, ok, maybe I can marry both of you?
Me: That's ok my boy, you don't have to marry me. I am married to Dad anyway. You can marry Troy if you like.
Adam (much delight) I like Troy
Me: Me too, he is a very nice boy.
A few minutes later
Me: Um, Adam... maybe you should think about marrying a girl?
Adam: NO! I don't want to marry a girl, I want to marry Troy.
Me: Ok, that's fine, you can marry whoever you want.
Troy would make a fine son-in-law. Might have been easier if it was a daughter in law, but I would hate to been seen as an interfering mother-in-law. Troy it is then.
(Still think he should be marrying me as he has promised to do for the last five years, but one can't force these things. Not overtly anyway. I have time to work on him. Marrrrry your motherrrrrrrr!!!)
by the time he gets to marryin' age, you won't want to marry him anymore. by the time you are 60, you would not want a 22-year old. come to think of it, i wouldn't want a 22-year old now. i didn't want a 22-year old when i was 22...
stick with troy. he sounds like a keeper:-)
Posted by: jacki janse van rensburg | 07 September 2010 at 05:37 PM
Too cute. Just wonder why you said he should think about marrying a girl. I know you are all about same-sex couples and supporting them, and an offhand comment like this to a little one already sends the message that hetero relationships are preferred while same-sex can be settled for.
Posted by: k | 07 September 2010 at 05:40 PM
Do you like Troy's parents? Otherwise maybe Adam should stick with you.
Posted by: Slim | 07 September 2010 at 05:59 PM
Dylan went off to golf on Saturday and asked if he could take his gf with, Kristen. Usually, he says, "Mom, Mom - pick a number" - then that's the club he uses to take the shot; or "hey Mom, did you see that shot?", "look at this swing", etc. But, alas, on Saturday - it was all "Kris, pick a number!", "Kris, check out this swing", "Kris, see how far the ball goes".... Good ol' Mom was left to read her book and sip her drink.... forgotten at the back of the green...looking slightly miffed (I might add).... It's a bitter pill to swallow when suddenly you are not their whole world anymore.
Posted by: BC | 07 September 2010 at 06:06 PM
I knew someone would go there. Obviously from earlier blogs you're okay with the gay T.
Anyhoo you better check out Troys folks. Family come with the package even if they're all crazee. And don't give the kid ideas about sticking around. Have you seen the movie failure to launch. That bastard wouldn't move out for anything. A parents worse nightmare.
Posted by: Fenley | 07 September 2010 at 10:39 PM
How very cute!
Posted by: Kristin | 07 September 2010 at 11:11 PM
Oh so now my daughter has been dumped by her cousin!! Not cool! Two more weeks to go!!!!
Posted by: Nina-Number-One | 08 September 2010 at 02:20 AM
Very very cute!! My six-year old is still intent on marrying me and staying in this house FOREVER! :)
Posted by: Lizelle | 08 September 2010 at 09:20 AM
Hey Fenley - re read the comment. I KNOW she's ok with "the gays". That was my POINT. That even as OK with the gays lots of heteros are, things still come out of mouths that people don't recognize as being heterocentric.
Good god.
Posted by: k | 09 September 2010 at 04:56 PM
You are so sweet with your kids. Because of your struggle to have them, they just seem more precious. I love to follow your blog.
Cathy Jo Cress
http://momlovesyoubest.wordpress.com/
Posted by: Cathy Cress MSW | 10 September 2010 at 06:34 AM
I suppose all that swinging at the driving range paid off - Dylan won a cool prize in a competition at Pearl Valley yesterday : nearest the pin using a "flop shot". Very chuffed.
Posted by: B | 10 September 2010 at 02:59 PM
Its Great that You are supporting that same-sex couples..You are very sweet with your kids....http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=diKj68Rb_xk Parents should be loveable to their babies ,that will be a great success to their kids ...
Posted by: Natural Leads | 05 October 2010 at 06:35 AM