10 Things I love about my husband

One of my girl crushes, ExMi did a blog post on this a while ago, and I have been meaning to do one for ages, but every time I start one, my husband does something so extremely asshole’ish that all fond thoughts dissipate immediately.

However, he is out the house for an hour or so, so I guess the timing is about as perfect as it could be.  Absence makes the heart grow fonder etc.

Those who read this blog, and don’t know Marko and I personally, might assume from my VERY occasional little moans about my husband that Marko and I aren’t made for each other, but they would be very wrong.  I am not sure I could ever find someone more perfect for me. He is my lid (i.e. lid as in ‘every pot has its lid’ – is that a local expression?), my very best friend, my partner, my lover, the father of my children and my darling husband.

This doesn’t mean he doesn’t drive me to drink, he does! He is a stubborn, strict, sulky pain in the arse, but he is MY stubborn, strict, sulky pain the arse and I do love him very much.

So, here are 10 things I love about my husband:

1. He’s got my back. Always.  This is hugely important to me.  I know that Marko is 100% behind me, always. He is always there for me, and always takes my side.  He is my true partner, in every sense of the word
2. I trust him completely. Look, I know one should never say never, but for all the important things in life, I trust him completely.  I know he always has my best interests at heart.
3. He’s funny. Marko might come across quite serious at first, but he has an impish sense of humour – there is NOTHING Marko likes more than to pull a prank on someone. He is very funny.  (Just FYI – he has to work very, very hard to pull a prank on me, I know his tricks by now)
4. He is clever.  More important than looks, power, money etc, ‘clever’ has always been my ‘thing’. I love clever and Marko is very clever. At all sorts of things.
5. He is hot.  Being caught up in the daily grind of work/kids/sleep etc, this is something I don’t notice often enough, but the man is damn hot.  If I had to describe my ideal physical characteristics in a man, Marko would be it.
6. He loves my parents.  This is HUGE for me – I could never be with someone who didn’t love and respect my parents. They mean the world to me and it would be an absolute deal breaker if it was any different.
7. We are remarkably similar in many respects – we have the same attitude towards money, family, punctuality etc etc
8. Yet we are different enough to make life interesting.  We compliment each other, he is strong where I am not, and visa versa.  I think life would be very boring if we were pure carbon copies of each other. Does make for some ‘interesting’ times though.
9. He works bloody hard.  I don’t think I could be with a slacker.  I complain, often, about how hard Marko works and his Calvinist work ethic, but I also admire how much he puts in.  Any employer would be damn lucky to have Marko on his team. Having said that, I could never, ever work with him, or for him.  He is WAY too strict!  Or as we say in Afrikaans, ‘paraat’.
10. He is the father of my children.  This is something that is so big, it blows my mind.  It sometimes makes me mad (how dare HE discipline MY children), but most of the time, it makes me feel humbled that he is my partner in the very thing that is central to my whole world, my kids.

I could actually go on and on.  He really is perfect for me. Make no mistake, he is a HUGE pain, an industrial enema at times, but he is perfect for me.  Sister Mel often says she has no idea how the two most anal, odd people in the world managed to find each other.  And it is quite weird actually, considering we are from such different backgrounds and he is a bit younger than me. But we were obviously meant to be together.

(BTW, we met in a bar, how appropriate.  Although he stopped drinking about 3 weeks after we met (false advertising!!) and I…well, I haven’t really stopped since then.)

Now I better end this off because he comes back and does something so unbelievably irritating that I am forced to kill him and change this list into an obituary.

(PS I do know and realize that I am not the easiest person to live with, as much shit as he gives me, I probably give him too.  Which might actually qualify as point 11 on this list)

Comments

[Kristin]

Wonderful post Tertia! Your relationship with Marko sounds remarkably similar to my relationship with my husband.

[Lindsay]

How special! I am very happily married and I often 'feel sad' for people who don't have a wonderful partner to share their lives with.

[Jo]

I so agree with the "he's MY pain in the butt" part! My Mo is so far from perfect most days. . .but he is perfect for me.

Hugs,
Jo

[beyond]

nice list. i think your readers -those who read attentively- know that you two are made for each other...

[Dana]

I loved reading this - just as much as I love reading your moans about him on occasion. My husband and I have been married almost 16 years, been together for almost 18 (we met when we were both 19) and your relationship with Marko seems so similar to the kind of give and take my husband and I have. I love seeing that in other couples - too many people are either mismatched or not willing to work on things, and I hate seeing that happen - it's so nice to "see" a couple that works.

Congrats on a happy life!

[Tine]

Re #5.... I can't believe I'm confessing this, but I think Marko is hot too!

I normally don't even notice men that way (happily married, couldn't care less how people look most of the time, etc.).

BUT...

Based on the few pics you've posted of Marko, I must agree. He is hot. :)

[maddy]

Awww....that's great!

[tess]

let's back up a little....anyone who has read SO CLOSE...(and there are many of us by now) will be asking...

so you didn't start drinking until you met marko?

[Sister Mel]

It is true, they are perfect for each other. Like they could never be married to any other person. If one pegs, the other one will never re marry, ever.
Odd those 2, anal, workaholics, very tidy, not very social, both very funny, both sarcastic.
Sometimes I wanna give Marko a huge medal for being my sister's husband and sometimes I want to give Tertia one for being Susan's wife. Mostly I want to give them both a medal for creating their precious family and a safe place for their kids to grow up in... love, respect and honour. Now, just missing one ingredient but myself and all clapper readers are doing loads of praying for the cherry on top.

[Netta]

Well done Tertia! Great post! I think we don't say often enough how much we love/like/admire/respect/lust after our partners. It seems to be fashionable to moan about them, but no so much to give them a thumbs-up from time to time.

[Lesley Watt]

I enjoyed this post. It sounds like you are a great match and as for regularly getting annoyed with him, I think most couples that are well matched still do :).

I hope I find someone as well matched to me as that.

[Maggie]

Never commented before, but this post has me in tears. Could have been my list, and I am happy that you are doing this while you have the chance. My hubby passed away in November, and although I think he knew most of the stuff, I never actually said them all aloud. Don't think I'll ever find such a perfect MY lid again. Praying for you and your family.

[Maggie]

BTW, is Marko a Virgo perhaps, and you a Capricorn? Never thought much about the stuff, but I see so many similar traits in people from these star signs, and they are ideally suited.

[Wobs]

Brilliant post! Makes me want to do a list of my own... damn, now you've started me feeling all sentimental about my darling fartbag! ;)

[renee frouws]

very sincere tertia. You know..i think if every married person were to compile a list like this of their spouse..they might actually end up appreciating each other more :-) i think its fabulous!!!!!

[Dolce]

Aaaaaw. I love a little marital romance. It makes me hopeful!

[BiancaW]

You know he is going to read this and get all "I'm the man" on you! :-)

Loved the list - makes me want to do one for my "lid" too.

[Heather]

Great post! My DH and I always say we're the only two people in the world that would put up with the other, so we're together in similar circumstances.

[Annelise]

Good for you Tertia! Great list, and one which could have been mine (still working on #10!!)

Make sure you tell him all this in person - I'm sure you can do it without it sliding too much into romantic mush (which both of you seem to dislike!)

[juliette]

You are so lucky....I am on my own yet again and think this is how I will remain..me and my son Jake. I seem to attract the absolute dregs of society as far as men are concerned...have never known the love and adoration you speak of...lucky you!! Any wonder I am a bitter sarcastic old hag...heheh!!

[sam]

ok