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so sorry. thats really all I can say. hang in there. next week will be better.

I am so sorry! You really must be at your breaking point.

I am so sorry for your loss. She looked so sweet.

And, Happy Anniversary, anyway.

Oh, this is terrible. You certainly have had a very sad week. I am sorry.

Hey, Rebeks told me this morning about your sweet doggie. That is just devastating, I couldn't believe it either. You have been on my mind all day and I knew you would take extra strain with losing the baby you have being trying so hard to be brave about. So sorry about your beautiful dog, how is Shelley? Is she confused? What does Sue say?
Not checking my mails but e-mail Gary.
I wish I could punch grief & loss on its big ugly nose for you.
I love you. LOTS!

Rest in peace, sweet Peter.

I can't believe I am sitting here weeping over the passing of a puppy in South Africa, especially since I am definitely the one who would put money in the jar for the kids before the jar for the dogs. So, so sad. I am truly sorry for your family's loss. Rest in peace, sweet, adorable Peter.

Oh Tertia! I am so sorry!!! :( What a week, mama. Please be so gentle and easy on yourself.

I am so sorry for your loss. Beautiful dog Peter was, and shall be missed.

Oh Tertia,

How much more can you take!?
I'm so sorry.
My heart is in my throat.
So sorry.
Sorry for the stress with Marko. He comes across as the tough one but you can see how very vulnerable he feels under the surface. (esp. about ones that he loves)
I know you're not a hugger but I think the whole family needs to do whatever form of a group hug can work for you. Could you all just sit together on the couch or in bed and just hold each other or just touch toes or not even touch but be all there together really close. Just close your eyes and listen to each other breathing and if you can take the closeness, lean on each other's chests and listen to each heart beating. Just BE there together - ALL together - SAFE - LOVED - STRONG TOGETHER.


Oh Tertia I'm so sorry. It'll be so difficult to see the other pup mourn the loss... let alone getting through it yourself. *sniff*

Aahh man! What a rough week. Thinking of you.

Glad I didn't read this at work. Made me think of our Milo (brown labbie) who died just after my son's birthday last year. And today is an extra emotional day for me, so the tears flowed...

Aww, so sorry. That's a tough one.

T, Im so sorry.
What an aweful week!!
RIP Peter...

Oh I am so so sorry.

I'm so sorry, Tertia. I'm so glad she didn't suffer. Poor sweet pup. :(

Oh dear Tertia, how sad.

There is nothing else to say, you said it all so well yourself. It's a relief to know your sweet little puppy did not suffer. Your children are well adjusted and mature, they comforted you and did not freak out. You have wonderful children and a wonderful husband. I'm glad you see that even when he was at his nerves' end and you, too.

It was all a bit too much for you in the last weeks. I hope very much you will have easier times ahead. I'm neither a hugger nor a kisser but I'm an energy-sender.

Been thru this loss so many times myself and am sitting here with a sick doggie (he fell out of my hubby's truck-back door was opened and he lept out trying to find me) so as I hug my Marley I am glad Peter didn't suffer and is now romping like a silly boy from cloud to cloud. Peter, tell my Clancy and Fletcher I miss them bunches!

RIP Peter

Our heart is with yours today T.


Oh, Tercia. I'm so so sorry dear. This is too much to handle. I'm sorry.

Oh, Tertia, I am really very sorry. That is so very terrible. I will be thinking of you and your family today.

Oops, tears at work, not a good look!

I am so sorry Tertia, you have enough to handle already.


Hi Tertia

I am so, so, sorry about baby Peter. It's really quite tough.

However, please, when you are feeling better give the breader a call. He should not be breading with those parents again, since it is a genetic disease. It is vital that he knows.


sorry about the dog.

yesterday, my marriage died.

So sorry Tertia....

i am so sorry for you loss. how shocking!

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

Author unknown...

Dearest Tertia
I am so very sorry about little Peter. She was a beautiful pup. And I am sorry about everything else too. You've had a rough time this week. I hope that your holiday does you good. Take care.

Oh Tertia, that is heartbreaking. Sweet little Peter, much too young to die but I'm so glad he didn't suffer.

My husband and I aren't great in times of crisis either - and it's something we have to work on.

Thinking of you all, you've been through too much.

Rough, I wish you a break from 'hard knocks' from now on!

Hi T

So sorry to read about your poor little baby. My eyes just watered when I read your post as I know exactly how it feels. I agree with Heike about speaking to the breeder... and also, I would get Shelley tested (if that is at all possible).

Lots of love

{Hugs} to you T and your family! So glad that Peter had you as her "Mom" - caring and loving. Happy Annivesary for yesterday too! Stop shouting and start loving! You deserve it!

I'm so very sorry. Pets are the family you choose and love unconditionally. They become vital members of your family that love you unconditionally irrespective of what you've said or done. Take care of yourself and your family at this really sad time.

Oh Tertia, my heart just breaks for you and everything you are having to deal with right now.

As I have said before - draw strenght from your precious, precious Adam and Kate.

Hang in there.

Strength - I meant strength. Oops

How sad, Tertia. I'm so sorry.

Dearest T,

I'm so very sorry for your family's loss. Peter deserved to live her life with a loving family, and it is really touching to know how much she was loved in her short time with you. I'm also glad that you have answers about the circumstances of her death so that you don't have to fret anymore than you already have and will over it.

Have you considered having her sister looked at by the vet to see if there are any signs she has the condition? Also, does your breeder offer any type of health guarantee? I don't ask out of callousness over money, but most breeders here in the US do offer these types of guarantees and will often offer another pup from the next litter or some compensation so that you may consider brining another pup from another set of parents back in to the house to join her Shelley when/if you feel up to it.

Again, I'm so very very sorry. I have loved my dogs more than most people and know how much it hurts to lose one.

Love & kisses to you all.

Oh Sh!t. I'm so sorry.

Oh, Tertia -- my heart is just breaking for you . . . the mind fuck of a doomed pregnancy and now poor Peter. I cannot think of ANYONE that deserves more of a break right now than you. I do not know where you get your strength -- you really are marvelous.

I hope you (and your family) find peace in the days ahead -- no drama, no craziness, no loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

I'm so, so sorry. What a shame. Hugs to you.

So sorry for your family's loss Tertia. Thinking of you all.

so sorry about your doggie, Peter - so sorry about the loss of your pregnancy. thinking of you.
Melanie - East London

oh tertia.
i am very very sorry to hear about floppy sweet peter.
love you.

Oh, my dear. I am so sorry, Tertia. I imagine that the unexpected discovery and subsequent loss of this pregnancy is magnifying everything right now and poor Peter's death is really the last thing that needed to happen. This is me hugging you. You're in my prayers.


Sjoe, what a week. My heart is sore for you in two ways - for the pregnancy that was lost and for poor little Peter. {{{HUGS}}}

Oh sweetie, what a week.


Oh Tertia, I'm so sorry you've had to endure this now.
Please know that you are in my thoughts, today, and many days.

Poor dear Tertia, what a horrible week for you. I'm so sorry all of this happened. We all know you loved those dogs.

If you can manage two more stressy things before your holiday starts: talk to your breeder about what happened and see about getting Shelly checked out. Maybe the breeder will even foot the bill for the check-up.

(Hugs to RainbowW as well...I've been there. It'll get better.)

I am so sorry for all of you.

Tertia - been reading for a long time...never replied until now. I am so sorry for the loss of Peter. :(

I am so sorry for your loss.

Oh Tertia, I'm so sorry! What an awful thing to have happen, especially on the heels of other tragedy.

It sounds like Marko was also knocked for a loop, with his very emotional response. He sounds very vulnerable right now - suggesting that the kids be vigilantly watched, lest some tragedy befall them. Bless his heart...

I'm so glad your FIL was willing/able to help you by taking Peter to the vet for autopsy. That's NOT a task just anybody can handle. Very kind and brave of him to do that for your family.

What a terrible week. And it's only half over! Sheesh.

I hope you can envision Peter playing with (pestering? LOL) Chili in Heaven, and this new little baby joining it's brothers and sisters on the clouds... babies and puppies romping in the sunshine, waiting for the day when Mommy and Daddy will join them, in peace for ever and ever.

Much love,

Two weeks after losing our triplet babies to PTL, my beloved dog of five years had to be put down. It absolutely sent me over the edge. All the grief I was stuffing (though much remained unstuffed) came out. RIP Peter...so glad you spent your days with such a loving, aweseome family.

I am so sorry. We had a golden die the same way, it is just heartbreaking. So glad to hear she didn't suffer and you have the answer. Thinking of you.

What a terrible week you've had! I'm so sorry....

What a cutie pie. I'm so sorry. It is so hard to have to say goodbye to pet - they are like your family members, aren't they? I'm sending you a non-hug hug.

I'm so sorry. It must have been such a shock.
This exact same thing happened to my mom's Golden Retriever. He was only 2 yrs old.

Hi Tertia

Sorry to hear about Peter. It is terrible when a dog dies. We had a British bulldog puppy last year, a thoroughbred and he only lived for 6 months. He had all kinds of diseases of skin, stomach and mouth. He was my son's puppy and it was terrible that he died. It seems that street dogs, braks are far more resilient than pure breds. Needless to say I haven't got another dog since then, we only have our pavement special which we adopted from the SPCA 6 years ago. My thoughts are with you during this difficult week.

Happy anniversary anyway. Please take a romantic night out with your hubby. I'm sure it will do you a world of good.

Take care
Dom x

Oh, honey, I just wanted to add my thoughts with the others. Am so sorry this week has happened to you. And I understand completely about Marko yelling. My normally quiet husband used to yell at the kids if they got hurt, usually that he had warned them about that particular activity. I finally came to understand, as you have, that he was afraid that a greater harm would come to us. But that yelling sure didn't help!
If it gives you any comfort at all, Peter did not suffer. Puppies with SAS do not slow down over time, they simply stop, without pain. I have witnessed it and as painful as it was for the people involved the puppy was there one minute, gone the next. It was if someone flipped a switch. I promise. To be honest, if that were not the case I simply would not have mentioned it. Please let the breeder know, as it is inherited, give her a copy of the necropsy report and have Shelly checked out ASAP for your peace of mind.
(Hugs without actually touching!)

Oh Tertia, I'm so sorry for your losses. Your precious babe and your precious Peter.

Dear Tertia
I am a long time lurker. Your blog has helped me through so much and I hope you know that you have a community of friends that are thinking about you and your family.
Its ok to be sad and cry ... Peter was loved.
I hope your kids are ok.
Take care and have some wine :)
Lotsa Hugs (but not the physical hugs, the cyber hugs = lol)

Oh, Tertia. I'm so sorry. What a sweet little golden you had and a terrible thing to happen to her. :(

Oh Tertia,

My heart goes out to you and your family. I'm so sorry for the loss of your lovely Peter.

Oh, Tertia. I'm so sorry for all of you.

Oh my God, Tertia. I'm so sorry.

This is one of those "batting a thousand" weeks. Sheesh. Bottles of wine in your general direction.

I'm so, so sorry, Tertia. I'm so sorry. My family sends condolances to your family and will think good thoughts about sweet Peter.

I'm so sorry for yet another loss. I am sure it is a relief that your sweet pup didn't suffer.

I'm so very sorry, Tertia. xxx ooo

heart breaking along with you...so sorry.

Oh, I am so sorry for everything you have gone through lately.

I'm so sorry. Crying for you. This just really gets me.

I am so so sorry. What an overwhelmingly sad week for you and your family...sorry doesn't seem to say enough. Much love to you.

I'm so sorry.

I am so sorry Tertia. I lost my 3 year old mini daxie Amber, just a few weeks ago , and I was devastated. We only realise how much joy we get from our doggies when they are not there anymore.
Big hugs to you and your family.
Mands xx

I am so sorry :(

I'm so sorry to hear about your little puppy. We have had many pets over the years, and I've been through things like this before, and it just plain sucks.

I can't fathom, though, why in the world your husband would yell at you about it? Tell him to go suck his toe.

((HUGS)) to the James Bond girl and her kiddos!

Oh, how horrible. Your poor doggie, your poor family. Poor Rose and you and Marko. I feel for you so much. She was a beautiful puppy.

When I was small I had a puppy die from heart failure too. I was heartbroken; it was my first understanding of what death meant. But there is definitely some comfort in knowing that it was a heart defect, unpreventable, nothing you could have done, and that she went quickly and painlessly. Rest in peace, sweet baby Peter.

we lost a puppy to the same disease -- it was heartbreaking. he was romping around in the snow with his friend, the neighbor's dog, and literally just dropped dead. so tragic. i'm so sorry it happened right now, when your plate is so full of other emotional coping. happy anniversary, tho.

I am so, so sorry

I am sorry for you and the puppy. Still, I have mixed feelings reading your post and have linked to it in our blog.

See, your puppy died of the CHD our baby has. SAS is a serious heart defect in humans too. It requires open heart surgery to correct and it is not a very successful surgery because the problem has a tendency to recur.

I am glad your puppy had a happy (young) life and you didn't notice him suffering.

His naps in the kennel were probably because he had less stamina due to his heart condition.

Oh my shattered nerves!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I can't believe it, how unbelievable! I can't believe your week! I know how much I love my George and have tears streaming down my face.
Your strength is unreal!
Lots of love.

Oh, poor all of you. Poor Peter - I am glad she died quickly and painlessly. That breaks my heart.

My husband and I fight through grief and frustration too, both processing similar emotions so differently. Our anniversary was Monday. Maybe couples have astrological signs for their anniversaries like people do for birthdays? Anyway, I am sad that you and Marko had to fight at all and sorry for your loss of Peter.

I god T I am so sorry! What a heart breaking day! I hope that the kids are dealing with all of this ok. Please know that you are all in my heart today! She was an absolutly beautiful girl!

I am so sorry for you and your family...How terrible but at least he did not suffer.

Much love..

Oh, no. I am so, so, so very sorry. I hate to suggest this but it might be worth you having the vet check Shelley as well. If it's bad news, it might be better to find out that way rather than another terrible shock.

So sad. I'm crying over here reading this. It's so hard to lose a pet, my thoughts are with you.

I'm so sorry. It is hard to lose any pet, but particularly hard to lose such a sweet, little one and so suddenly. And the tears are a strange thing. I didn't cry when my mother died, and when we lost our 17-year old cat, who was MY cat, really a one person cat from the get-go--I cried for a week off and on. Broke down at the vet's office, which was the first time they have seen me visibly upset, through 20 years of cat/dog tramas. Just let yourself grieve, whatever form that takes, and let the kids know that it is okay to be sad that Peter is gone. And know that we are all grieving with you and sending you lots of virtual hugs.

I'm so, so sorry!

I'm so sorry Tertia. It's very sad. There's a wonderful book by Judith Viorst about a little boy whose dog dies. It's called "The Tenth Good Thing About Barney." It will make you cry more but you and your little ones and Markoe could read it together.


I'm so sorry about sweet Peter.


Oh Tertia so sorry to hear about your dog. That is just so sad. BUT I must advice you to call the breeder. There are a number of things you should/could do, one being you should get your money back, or another dog. But mostly they need to not breed the two dogs together again. This is hereditary and repeat breeding is negligence on the breeder’s part. Having breed labs we had a list of things ‘checked’ before we’d breed our female. For labs the most important being the hip displacia.

OK don’t want to write a book here but do please call the place you got him from and let him know what happened. Not sure if it’s a big deal or not, but when we had an eye issue with one of our pups we split the vet bill to ‘fix’ the problem.

Take care and remember when you see a rainbow think of peter.

I'm so sorry about sweetest Peter. You've probably already made the appointment, but you can take Shelley in for an echo and see if she has CHF, so you and Marko don't have to unnecessarily worry.

As per Adam and Kate, I presume they weren't inbred so there isn't any reason to assume that they have any form of genetic heart failure. :-) Peace my friend!

Oh Tertia, am so so sorry. What a week you have all had.

Tertia, I am so sorry. Our sweet lab died suddenly, the same way, days before her second birthday. Your post had me in tears as I remember that day like it was yesterday. My husband and I still cry when we think about how she was robbed of her life, she was too young, just as your Peter was.

With love.

Tertia -

I am such a crap lurker much of the time but had to respond to this sad sad post.

You poor thing - what a lot of terrible shit is raining down on you and your family. Poor little puppy. You gave her a great short life I know.

I had a puppy that dropped dead from a malformed heart about 20 years ago. She was called Fifi and she was a tiny Alsation cross. She was five months old - the vet didn't didn't spot the malformation when she went for her puppy shots. I was gutted of course. Your post has really reminded me of that time.

I'm so sorry Tertia. For this and your other loss. Life is sometimes just too bloody rough.

Sending love and best wishes from England.

Tertia, so sorry for the tough time you've been having. You are in my thoughts and prayers. All my love. xxx

I'm so sorry, Tertia. Thinking of all of you today.

Happy anniversary, too.

How very sad. I'd be devasted if my little puppy died. I'm so sorry.

I am so sorry. I am not even a 'dog person' but that made me cry....


What a difficult week you have had... :`(

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