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He would have been four today

My son, Ben Albertyn was born this day, four years ago. 

Happy birthday big boy, we miss you.

Posted on 04 January 2008 in Baby Ben |

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So sorry dear Tertia. Thinking of you all and of darling Ben. Hugs.xxxx

Posted by: juliette | 04 January 2008 at 06:45 AM

Thinking of you today. Sending hugs your way.

Posted by: Coco | 04 January 2008 at 06:53 AM

Thinking of you and your's. Happy Birthday sweet Ben.

Posted by: haley | 04 January 2008 at 06:57 AM

Tertia - you and you family are in my thoughts today - especially sweet Ben.

Posted by: Trish | 04 January 2008 at 06:57 AM

*hugs*

Posted by: Jenn | 04 January 2008 at 06:58 AM

I'm always surprised that another year has gone by. I just want you to know that Ben is still very alive in memory for many of us who visit here daily.

I will next month grieve the fourth birthday of my triplet babies that I lost at 25w1d. Just as you write of Ben, the time we spent will forever remain a part of my very being.

Happy birthday precious Ben.

Posted by: Joy | 04 January 2008 at 06:58 AM

Happy Birthday, Ben. xoxo

Posted by: Rebecca | 04 January 2008 at 07:00 AM

Happy Birthday, Ben.

Posted by: Andrea | 04 January 2008 at 07:01 AM

Happy birthday, sweet angel.

Posted by: Judy | 04 January 2008 at 07:18 AM

Your loss is unfathomable. Happy Birthday Ben. Lots of people love you.

Posted by: Type (little) a | 04 January 2008 at 07:33 AM

Happy Birthday, Angel Ben! Love & hugs to you and your family, Tertia!

Posted by: Bev | 04 January 2008 at 07:40 AM

comme la coeur est grand quand tu cherches l’amour de ta vie qui s’est enfui

(all your heart is so big when you are searching for the love of your life).

we remember you, ben.

Posted by: tess | 04 January 2008 at 07:52 AM

My heart goes out to you today.... praying and keeping you and your family in my thoughts today.

Happy birthday Ben!

Posted by: charne | 04 January 2008 at 07:54 AM

Happy 4th Birthday Ben. I'm so sorry Tertia.

Posted by: Babybound | 04 January 2008 at 08:04 AM

Happy Birthday, sweet Ben.

Hugs to you, Tertia.

Posted by: Melissa | 04 January 2008 at 08:19 AM

Happy Birthday, Ben. Tertia, I think of you and Ben (and Luke) often as I was pg w/ my twin boys at the time you delivered. I remember your Ben at times when I look at my boys (who will be 4 in Feb) and I think of how immeasurably lucky I am. You baby boy will not be forgotten.

Posted by: Kathy | 04 January 2008 at 08:42 AM

So sad for you. Lots of love.

Posted by: Lena | 04 January 2008 at 08:49 AM

Happy birthday sweet Ben. I wish you were hear to spend it with your darling mama, daddy, and brother and sister.

Posted by: Robin from Israel | 04 January 2008 at 09:00 AM

Thinking of you, Marko, Ben and Luke today. It is amazing how much Ben looks like Adam -- your children are all beautiful.

Posted by: Cathy | 04 January 2008 at 09:25 AM

I think of your little Ben often, and remembered today as his birthday. You are a wonderful mother to all of your children, the precious ones who are still with you and the sweet ones who could only stay a little while. Love to you and Marko both today.

Posted by: goodsandwich | 04 January 2008 at 09:27 AM

thinking of ben...

Posted by: mijk | 04 January 2008 at 09:40 AM

Happy birthday to your big boy. HUGS to you.

Posted by: Melany aka Supermom | 04 January 2008 at 09:51 AM

Thinking of you today, Tertia. Much love.

Posted by: Patty | 04 January 2008 at 09:59 AM

Besh wishes Tertia. Treasure your memories.

Posted by: Michele | 04 January 2008 at 10:17 AM

Happy birthday little Ben. My thoughts are with all of you.

Posted by: V | 04 January 2008 at 10:23 AM

You know my thoughts are with you all, and how much you are loved. Ben and Luke have given us so very much through your voice and love.

xoxo

Posted by: Boulder | 04 January 2008 at 10:25 AM

Happy Birthday dear boy. Thinking of you, Tertia.

Posted by: Jodie | 04 January 2008 at 11:01 AM

Happy Birthday Angel Child!

Hugs to you and your family today Tertia.

Posted by: SCY | 04 January 2008 at 11:07 AM

Happy Birthday Ben. Tertia, hugs & strength to you xxx Ben, Luke, Adam & Kate are very lucky to have a wonderful mother like you.

Posted by: Carly | 04 January 2008 at 11:14 AM

Happy Birthday Angel. Tertia and Marco, Adam and Kate lots of love to you all.

Sue xxx

Posted by: SueLash | 04 January 2008 at 11:36 AM

Happy Birthday, Ben! You sure have left some beautiful footprints on this planet. :-)

Posted by: Ute | 04 January 2008 at 12:14 PM

Happy Birthday Ben!

(((hugs)))

Posted by: Veronica | 04 January 2008 at 12:36 PM

I have thought of you, Marko & Ben so much over the past week. I have no words but know that I send love!

Posted by: Lindsay | 04 January 2008 at 01:50 PM

Happy Birthday to precious Ben and Luke!
Thinking of you today - and understanding how raw it STILL feels on anniversaries!!
"Know that your angels look down from heaven above, and with each ray of sunshine, they send you all their love!"
(Good thing you live in sunny SA and not the UK, or else you would be wondering where the love was ......v grey and miserable here at the mo.... :) )
Love Kirsty & co. in the (very grey) UK

Posted by: kirstyphysio | 04 January 2008 at 01:52 PM

Happy birthday Ben

Loving memories of one so dear,
Treasured still with a love sincere,
In your hearts he is living yet,
You loved him too dearly to forget.
................................

The candles are lit,
but no song will be sung.
No laughter, no roars, of my little one
who would have been four.

If you only knew the plans
that would be made by your dad and me
The cake to be baked...
The presents wrapped...
and all the funny party hats.

The pictures taken by your dad,
or course,
As loving friends fill the house.

All of this is not meant to be,
since you were taken away from me.
No birthday cake...
No presents unwrapped...
No pictures of you in your party hat.

But the candles are lit,
Never go out.
For they burn forever in my heart.

Author unknown

Posted by: Babyamore (Trish) | 04 January 2008 at 01:54 PM

Today, I will hold you in my heart.

Posted by: blackbird | 04 January 2008 at 02:12 PM

Happy birthday, Ben. And hugs to Mama.

Posted by: Kimberly | 04 January 2008 at 02:21 PM

*tears* How I wish Ben was still in your arms, Tertia. How I wish we could be enjoying his birthday celebration today, complete with a gaggle of 4-yr-olds.

Thank you (as always) for sharing your intensely personal story, Tertia. You have made the world a better place.

Happy birthday, dear Ben! I hope you are watching from Heaven, and can feel how much your family - and each of us! - loves you.

Posted by: Woody's Girl | 04 January 2008 at 02:43 PM

Four years... a big boy. Happy birthday Ben! And a big hug for you and Marko, T.

Posted by: Emma | 04 January 2008 at 02:52 PM

Thinking of you today Tertia. Ben will always be remembered.

Posted by: Lisa | 04 January 2008 at 02:57 PM

Happy Birthday sweet boy.

Much love to all of you.

Posted by: Becky | 04 January 2008 at 04:08 PM

Happy 4th birthday little Ben.

Peace and comfort to all your family today.

Posted by: leigh | 04 January 2008 at 04:14 PM

thinking of you today. happy birthday to sweet ben.

Posted by: polly | 04 January 2008 at 04:21 PM

Tears, and hugs, dear one.

Posted by: louise | 04 January 2008 at 04:40 PM

Sending you a big hug, dear Tertia.

Posted by: Dana | 04 January 2008 at 04:43 PM

Happy Birthday, Ben!

Tertia, you and your family are close to my heart today....

Posted by: Beth | 04 January 2008 at 04:44 PM

Happy Birthday, Ben. And lots of love to you, Tertia, and your family today.

Posted by: Julie | 04 January 2008 at 04:45 PM

Happy Birthday Ben.

Posted by: Bridgette | 04 January 2008 at 04:48 PM

Keeping you close at heart today my friend.

Happy Birthday, Ben.

Posted by: Stefanie | 04 January 2008 at 04:48 PM

Tertia & Marko- thinking of you today.

Posted by: Leggy/Clover | 04 January 2008 at 05:04 PM

Hi Tertia i finished reading your book today...so weird,that i am in the same situation that you were in...but i pray that you and your family will stay strong and my huusband i have you in our thoughts and prayers...
happy birthday dear little Ben...

Posted by: Sam | 04 January 2008 at 05:09 PM

Happy Birthday, Ben!

Posted by: Anna in IL | 04 January 2008 at 05:19 PM

Holding you, Ben and the rest of the family in my thoughts and prayers today.

Posted by: Mandy | 04 January 2008 at 05:19 PM

Happy Birthday, Ben. I will always think of you, in January, as my twins came into the world on the same date you had to leave, three years later. If it wasn't for your mommy, I literally wouldn't have my babies. You were a very special little boy. Hugs to you, Tertia and Marko.

Posted by: Lynnette | 04 January 2008 at 05:22 PM

Happy Birthday, Ben. Thinking about you and Marko today, Tertia.

Posted by: Karly | 04 January 2008 at 05:30 PM

Happy birthday, Ben, and much love to you and Marko, Tertia.

Posted by: Janet | 04 January 2008 at 05:42 PM

Happy birthday, Ben, and much love to you and Marko, Tertia.

Posted by: Janet | 04 January 2008 at 05:43 PM

Happy birthday, Ben, and much love to you and Marko, Tertia.

Posted by: Janet | 04 January 2008 at 05:43 PM

sending a virtual hug on this day

Posted by: Spacemom | 04 January 2008 at 05:51 PM

Happy Birthday, beautiful Ben. Let this day be a memory of love for you, Ben's mama.

Posted by: Andrea | 04 January 2008 at 05:55 PM

Happy Birthday Ben. And hugs to you Tertia.

Posted by: sarah | 04 January 2008 at 05:57 PM

Ben's story just breaks my heart. You are a brave and strong woman, Tertia. Hugs to you.

Posted by: kristylynne | 04 January 2008 at 06:04 PM

Happy birthday, Ben! Hugs to you and Marko, Tertia.

Posted by: Tine | 04 January 2008 at 06:33 PM

Happy birthday, dear little boy. You are remembered.

Posted by: sheilah | 04 January 2008 at 07:14 PM

You'll be with him again one day, Tertia. I believe that with all my heart.

Happy Birthday to your gorgeous angel.

Posted by: Stacey | 04 January 2008 at 07:22 PM

Thinking of you and your family.

Posted by: Amanda | 04 January 2008 at 07:26 PM

Happy birtday to Ben and Luke. Thinking of you guys and missing you terribly xxx

Posted by: Martina | 04 January 2008 at 07:55 PM

Always a part of you, he has changed you forever. I know exactly how you feel, and a huge hug to you. :)

Posted by: Rachel. | 04 January 2008 at 08:11 PM

Happy birthday to Ben.

Posted by: merseydotes | 04 January 2008 at 08:54 PM

Thinking of you and yours today.

Posted by: April | 04 January 2008 at 09:00 PM

Happy birthday, sweet Ben.

Posted by: BrooklynGirl | 04 January 2008 at 09:02 PM

Thinking of you today.

Posted by: Elizabeth | 04 January 2008 at 09:10 PM

Thinking of you and Ben, and your whole family today. Peace to you.

Posted by: JuliaKB | 04 January 2008 at 09:14 PM

Woah...it's my birthday today and I just came across your page.
I do understand how it is to lose a child as a close friend of mine has.
It was an unplanned pregnancy and as time went along, she was happy to have this baby.
One day she woke up and realised she miscarried while going about her daily routine.

You're a strong woman Tertia and I do admire your courage and your bravery in the face of adversity each time. You really are an inspiration to me.

Posted by: Fatima | 04 January 2008 at 09:44 PM

Happy 4th birthday Ben...thoughts to you today

Posted by: gillian | 04 January 2008 at 09:53 PM

Happy Birthday darling Ben and special hugs to Mommy.

Posted by: Incognito | 04 January 2008 at 10:00 PM

Thinking of you and your precious Ben.

Posted by: silene | 04 January 2008 at 11:28 PM

Long time lurker letting you know that I'm thinking of Ben, and your entire family today. Please know that after my loss last year, your archives were the first I hit to remind myself how on earth people can live through such tragedy. You're an inspiration, and Ben is lucky to have a mum like you. Best.

Posted by: Tash | 04 January 2008 at 11:38 PM

Take care of yourself today Tetria.

thinking of you

Posted by: jb | 05 January 2008 at 12:31 AM

Happy Birthday, Ben.

Posted by: Melissa | 05 January 2008 at 01:22 AM

Don't really know what to say. Hugs to all of you...

Posted by: Ellen B. | 05 January 2008 at 01:26 AM

happy birthday baby ben. wishing you, and your family, peace and love. today and always.

karen

Posted by: another karen | 05 January 2008 at 01:51 AM

I remember Tertia, always will.

Posted by: jane | 05 January 2008 at 03:15 AM

Happy Birthday, sweet little Ben

Posted by: Bump Fairy | 05 January 2008 at 03:16 AM

I remember his birth 4 years ago. Happy Birthday to dearly loved Ben. Big hugs to his mommy and family.

Posted by: Janice | 05 January 2008 at 05:02 AM

Thinking of Ben and Luke today. Sometimes it is harder as we get farther along seeing our living children and wondering what we had missed with our angels.

Posted by: Lauren | 05 January 2008 at 05:03 AM

God Bless you and your family, Tertia.

Posted by: Nancy | 05 January 2008 at 05:14 AM

Happy birthday, Ben. Much love you your beautiful family, Tertia.

Posted by: Teenuh | 05 January 2008 at 07:59 AM

Sending you hugs and lifting up a prayer for you on this difficult anniversary. Ben will never be forgotten.

Posted by: CariP | 05 January 2008 at 09:14 PM

Thinking of all of you.

xoxoxo

Posted by: millie | 06 January 2008 at 05:10 AM

{{{{{{{BIG HUGS}}}}}}}} to you.
xoxo

Posted by: Suzie-Q. | 06 January 2008 at 06:26 AM

I did not realize that Ben and I share a birthday. What an honor.

And what an amazing woman you are to send me a sweet b-day message on the day, when here it takes me until days later to even drop by to say how sorry I am that Ben died. I am sorry, so sorry.

XO

Posted by: snickollet | 07 January 2008 at 09:42 PM

Very belated here, but thinking of you and all your children during this momentous week.

Wishing you all the best ......

Posted by: Ruth | 08 January 2008 at 01:50 AM

Happy Birthday, Ben. Your sweet face brings tears to my eyes. You are dearly missed.

Posted by: Moo | 08 January 2008 at 03:34 PM

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