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My phone is two or three years old, but it takes great pictures, too.

Baths and shampoos used to be less frequent, but my kid is prone to a little armpit B.O. even though he's only 7. (And yes, he's seen the doctor, and his hormone levels are all normal, and there are no other signs of precocious puberty.) So he usually doesn't go more than 30 hours without showering. But now he doesn't have to wash his hair—he got it cut today, and it's maybe 3 to 4 mm long! Peach fuzz. Looks like Sinead O'Connor—bald but beautiful.

I don't tend to wash the kids hair at all because I forget a lot of the time. I usually do on weekends if I do it at all because I read somewhere that you're more likely to get headlice in clean hair rather than in slightly dirty hair since the natural oils in the hair make it hard for the eggs to grip. Whether that's true or not I don't know but it's as good an excuse as any to avoid the squeals when I try to wash the 2 year old's hair.

See if you can get them to lie down in the bath to rinse, that works with my 5 year old.

man. my kid was born with hair, in the winter, and my mum was all DONT WASH HIS HAIR EVERY NIGHT OF HE'LL CATCH HIS DEATH OF COLD AND DIE!!!!! and so it was like... a rare occourance. saying that, i don't think we even bathed him every night... maybe three times a week? but it was COLD.
and then for a while he went to my mums on sunday nights because i had to work on mondays at like, 4am, and she had this routine where she would wash his hair and sing songs and blowdry it and things like that and he LOVES that. and then that all had to stop because i stopped working to spend more time with him and how can i do that if he's at my mums?
anyway uh... i don't actually remember when i washed his hair last? to be fair, its a trial. it SUCKS. and i'm pretty sure his father does it when he's at his house. and i do it somtimes... like if he has paint or mud or sand in his hair from school. but otherwise, eh.

Baths every night, but hair only gets washed every few days or as needed. The boys' hair is usually kept pretty short, so frequent washing isn't even needed. My 7 yo still has "issues" with having his hair washed, although we found that he LOVES taking showers now and will wash his hair with no problems in there.

I voted for "every day" because that was closest to the most accurate choice: about 5 days / week. Kate has been cursed with my fine hair (even though I'm Danish and she's Chinese), and fine hair needs a-washin' regularly. If she were blonde, I'd have to wash that hair every day.

blech

I remember when we first adopted her the notes said she was taking a bath twice a day. I kept up with that schedule for about a month and then it all went to hell. Too much work!

I'll tell you what, though: Having a rag-a-muffin kiddo makes you look bad no matter what, but when it's obviously an adopted child, you get extra stares. Total double standard. Oh well -- my kiddo is one cool chick, so I'll take the good, the bad and the ugly.

And Tertia, can't wait to see the new boobs. Personally, I'd do it in a heartbeat. (Not bigger, as mine are, um, "generous" but I'd lift those suckers up.) Do what makes you happy.

The little one I nanny for hates hair washing. The only thing that works is to use a cup of water instead of her putting her head under or anything like that, and then having her look at the ceiling, rinse her hair with the water until the suds are out, and then let her dry her eyes with a towel. We do her hair every two to three days.

Do you have a shampoo rinse cup? It changed our lives when it comes to bath time. My DD used to hate getting her hair washed because she doesn't like getting water in her eyes. I finally broke down when she was 2 and bought one of those special shampoo rinse cups (which had previously seemed ridiculous to me). Now she doesn't get water in her eyes and doesn't mind getting her hair washed. We all love "the blue cup." Check it out on Amazon:

http://www.amazon.com/S-C-Products-Shampoo-Rinse-Cup/dp/B000JOR0NM/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1/104-3517327-6391966?ie=UTF8&s=baby-products&qid=1186292127&sr=8-1

I voted 'other', cos altho' my kids bath every night, I don't know how often they have their hair washed!! yes, a sad and slightly embarrassing thing to admit, and I reminded my self why last night - my 4+ year old is fine but the 2+ age is awful, she screams like someone is being slaughtered! So why don't I know you might ask - I work til late 2 days a week and my blessed domestic worker - the kids' nanny or "gogo" as they call her (Zulu for granny) - washes their hair then.. I get away with not having to hear it (and not feel like the cruelest mother in the world!)

My DS is 4 and I've washed his hair probably a total of 5 times. Sounds terrible but it never looks dirty or smells. After a shower or bath it always looks clean. So, I voted 'other' because it's hardly ever.

my child's doctor says that we all tend to wash our kids too much. my son had a very dry skin, so I almost never use soap. the skind is sort of self-regulating… he is 3 years old now and I washed his hair maybe 10-20 times. he doesn't smell, anyway. I shower every day and I really would smell it.

Their father bathes them every night (how cool is that!) since they were little babies. I used to work night shifts so that's when the habit started and I wasn't going to let that go after I stopped working. Besides, it is good bonding time for them.

Bless my husband, he has trained them to love washing their hair as well. They love to take a giant cup of water (about 40 oz, or 1+ liters!, it's watering cans from IKEA) and pour it down their head, shaking and spinning their head/hair all at once, giggling and laughing and doing it over and over again. The bathroom floor gets soaking wet but we put old bath towels on it, and if they get too wild, pull the shower curtain close until they calm down a bit. Bathing time is really fun for them and they are one of the few kids who love having their hair washed. They are 4 yrs and 23 months old.

Their father bathes them every night (how cool is that!) since they were little babies. I used to work night shifts so that's when the habit started and I wasn't going to let that go after I stopped working. Besides, it is good bonding time for them.

Bless my husband, he has trained them to love washing their hair as well. They love to take a giant cup of water (about 40 oz, or 1+ liters!, it's watering cans from IKEA) and pour it down their head, shaking and spinning their head/hair all at once, giggling and laughing and doing it over and over again. The bathroom floor gets soaking wet but we put old bath towels on it, and if they get too wild, pull the shower curtain close until they calm down a bit. Bathing time is really fun for them and they are one of the few kids who love having their hair washed. They are 4 yrs and 23 months old.

We wash our kids hair pretty much every night. It is probably too much, but I really do think their hair looks dirty if it isn't washed. They don't mind, much.

Baths twice a week and hair washing every single bath. That's taken care of any hair washing issues because while the hair wash isn't their favorite part of bath, it's always a component so there's no point arguing about it. They go together like car seat and a trip to the children's museum. A necessary evil, you could say.

The ped told us when the Munchkin was born that less-frequent bathing was better for her skin, so that's what we do.

Bathing newborns frequently, hair included, is not recommended because their skin is so delicate and the natural oils keep their skin ph in balance, also they aren't doing much to really get dirty. Also, dropping a baby's temp by only 10 degrees lowers their immune system, so if you have winter babies like I did you have to have a really warm space to bathe them, and do it quickly. Now that my babies are toddlers I only bath them every other day, unless there is an 'incident' :). Mostly this is because I am lazy and washing the twins is an event which I don't want to have to do nightly. They love the water, and rinsing their hair and washing them really isn't an issue, it's the splashing and playing and fighting over bath toys that wears me out. My husband and I each wash one while they are in the same tub. Washing them together with one person is a very dangerous option. When they were new, one person washed one baby while the other person dried and dressed the other one. D was great fun to bathe, but N not so much, so we traded off bathing the 'fun' one.

Wow, I'm amazed at the variability in the posters' comments... anywhere from everyday to about once a year!! My kid - 20 months old - gets a bath once or twice a week and gets his hair washed each time. We've been on this schedule from the beginning. At first I thought we were supposed to bathe him more often, but it was so damn scary and traumatic that I procrastinated as much as possible. Now he LOVES his baths - we have to spell B-A-T-H around here because if he so much as hears the word, he starts running for the bath - and he LOVES to splash water all over the place and especially at Mama, but Mama is not so keen on this, so once or twice a week is about all I really want to deal with. He looks and smells clean, so I'm not worried about his hygiene. With regard to hair washing techniques, I'm taking a cue from my brother, who I saw dumping huge amounts of water over the heads of his (slightly older) kids after washing their hair, and now I'm getting the "rinsing" part over with much more quickly - just a couple of good dumpings! My son still sputters a bit, but he's getting used to it and even starting to think it's a bit funny, and it's SOOO much easier than the little scoops by hand that I used to do, that took FOREVER to rinse out...

My 2-year-old loves his bath (we do it every night unless we are out very late), but he does usually have to be persuaded to go upstairs for bathtime because he knows that right after that we have books and then bed, and he NEVER wants to go to bed. We wash his hair every other day unless he is particularly sweaty or dirty, which in the summertime is often. I love the smell of freshly washed baby hair, so sometimes I wash it just for that reason. He doesn't care if I wash it, it's the rinsing he hates. I am trying to teach him to lean his head back so that the water won't run into his eyes, and that has helped somewhat.

I will clarify my poll choice: I shampoo their hair about once a month (7 year old, 4 year old, nearly 2 year old). I only bathe my under one-year-olds once a week or so. IMO, the shampoo destroys their natural scalp oils, and is not necessary very often. Now, they bathe more than once a month, and their hair will get wet when they do. But no one is shampooing and massaging the scalp more than once a month.

I can't believe the variation of responses! We bathe our 2.5 year old every other day and wash her hair when we do.

When the twins were little infants, we only bathed them every three or four days, washing hair at the same time. Now that they're running around and into everything, we pretty much have a bath every night (except if a babysitter is putting them to bed). Since they still have such little hair, I just wash it along with all their other body parts, and it's toweled dry pretty quickly.

Every day. She's the same age as your little ones, but she manages to smear at least one meal in her hair every day. Fortunately she's fine with hair washing.

Every day. She's the same age as your little ones, but she manages to smear at least one meal in her hair every day. Fortunately she's fine with hair washing.

Every day. She's the same age as your little ones, but she manages to smear at least one meal in her hair every day. Fortunately she's fine with hair washing.

Every day. She's the same age as your little ones, but she manages to smear at least one meal in her hair every day. Fortunately she's fine with hair washing.

My 4 year old has a bath most every day, but I can't even remember when I last used shampoo on him. His hair is pretty short and he rinses it in the tub, but actual washing? Uh, never.

My 2 1/2 year old son gets a bath every day, but we don't always wash his hair. He doesn't mind the hair washing though...we have a cup that he loves to use to pour water over his head, so that's how we wet his hair and rinse it--just pour water over his head, he smiles and giggles and loves it. My 3 month old only gets a bath every 2-3 days, and I don't always wash her hair either. She doesn't have much of it to begin with... Hopefully she will continue to love her bath like her brother does.

When my kids were young I bathed and hair washed nightly. Part of the routine. Then they started going to school and having homework and little social/rec lives and the girls (9) now bathe and hairwash every second night which is CRUCIAL as they have long THICK hair and it is the only way I can brush it (conditioner and lots of it, my best friend). Son is 14 and showers every morning which is good, my little baby has BO! Yes Tertia, some day your little babies will be as grown up ;)

I wash my one year old's hair every night. He still feeds himself with his fingers and LOVES to play with his curly locks. Not a good combo... When he was a newborn, I bathed him 2-3 times a week. He has never minded having his hair washed though, I just use a big cup and one dump over his head gets all the suds out.

Thankyou for this question - I am not due to have my baby for a while however I was telling a mum the other day that i don't want a baby bath as I can use the laundry tub and that I will only bath my kid a couple times a week. She was very adament that I HAVE to bath my baby EVERY day. I just smiled and said 'oh ok then' but I came away feeling like I must be odd and neglectful.

My kids, 2 and 5, wash each other's hair. It's great! My 5 year old is a girl with long, fine hair and it really needs washing every second night, sometimes every night, and conditioner. My son has very little hair so sometimes it's just water, sometimes shampoo, but it doesn't seem to make much difference. They have a bath every night and love it. I generally don't use any soap, or if necessary just a little cetaphil.

Kids don't make the same sweat and oil we do - so they don't seem to need as much washing as adults. But bathtime is so fun here, I couldn't bear not doing it and it's part of their bedtime routine so it's expected.

I have been taking my son in the shower with me since around when he could walk. (he's almost 2.5 now) I'll usually wash his hair first - turn off water to lather then turn it back on to rinse while repeating "keep your eyes closed" over and over until he is rinsed. Then we do a quick soap and rinse. Then I fill up his blow up bathtub that fits in our shower and let him play while I either stay in the shower and shave my legs or get out and dry off, put lotion on, etc. I don't leave him unattended. He doesn't shower with me every day but a couple times a week. (sometimes with his daddy instead) I feel bad that he hasn't had much actual full size bath tub time but the shower seems so much easier right now - especially the hair washing/rinsing. I keep thinking we'll switch to the full size tub soon but haven't yet. Just wanted to let people know the shower is another option, especially for hair washing days.

When my son was a baby I bathed him everyday and also included a hair wash with this as he had lots and lots of hair and perspired in his scalp. Since I started giving him haircuts I still bath him every night but we keep the hair washing down to about once, maybe twice a week. And yes, bathing is such a fun time for both of us and so much a part of the routine that I would never dream of skipping it even for just one night.

When my boys were babies I bathed them twice a day and washed hair at the same time. Now that they are older they shower twice a day and wash their hair every morning. I don't tell them to - they just do it and say they hate it when they can't shower at least once a day.

Tertia, along with rinse cups, there're also shampoo eye goggles (http://www.babyabby.com/97005.html) and shampoo eye shields (http://www.clippasafe.co.uk/index.php?main_page=product_info&cPath=7&products_id=74) . Hope that helps.

My DD's hair gets washed once a week since she turned 3 or so. It's very long down to her waist and it's such a pain to wash it more often, plus it doesn't need it more often than that. She used to get a bath everyday, now it's every other day and over the past year she's learned to like showers. I think in a few years as she gets into her tween years, we'll go back to every day.

Wow, I’m in shock. How does everyone reporting anything less frequent than every other day account for:
- diaper cream buildup,
- general diaper ick,
- food in hair,
- sun screen,
- rolling/crawling/playing on the floor dirt?

And doesn’t the every evening bath fit into the nighttime routine in order to encourage regular sleep habits?

Hmmmm, maybe I’m not as easy going as I thought I was....

I bathe my son every day and have done every day since he was born. (That is just how they do things in japan) and he loves bathtime. I wash his hair every day at the moment but as he is starting to hate it, it might be time to alternate it! However, he seems to sweat alot around his face/ head and as a result is pretty stinky if I don`t wash his hair every day.

I trained both kids to shower together in the morning. Our oldest is 3 and she has washed her own hair since she was 2 1/2. Our youngest is 1 so I just lean into the shower and give her hair a quick wash. They're used to it and love to shower. I don't have the time (or inclination ;-) to babysit them in the tub every night. They love playing outside, get absolutely filthy and often need to shower again before bed too. The one year old will open the shower door and climb in, in hopes of finding running water. Funny kid!

That is a great photo! The kids and the colors are gorgeous.

As a newborn, bathing every other day, if that. However, when my little one was about five months old, he decided he loved the bath tub, so it became part of the night-time wind-down return. I was his hair everyday, not necessarily because he's dirty every day, I just think some things are easier for my son to handle if I do them every day. He doesn't understand the every other day concept, it'd just confuse him.

Plus he really likes it when I spike his hair when it's wet. Who am I to refuse?

I used to give a full bath and wash my daughter's hair every day but at 18 months she started developing a bit of eczema and her hair was very dry. I found that the problem would go away if I did not do a full scrub with soap every time and if I limited shampoo to a couple of times a week, maybe a bit more often when it's hot. I always add a shower body oil to her water (Aveeno), which keeps her skin moisturized. She also loves the bath but hates to wash her hair.

Another mommy with a child dealing with eczema and dry hair -- so we bath only once a week and not too hot of water. Pat dry and lotion.

Since she's just started crawling she hasn't gotten extremely dirty yet, so it may change -- but for now it works fine.

SO interesting to read these responses! I have the goal of bathing my son (4 months old) every other day but do not always hit that and sometimes not even every third. Obviously if this seemed to bother him (or his skin) I would change, but it doesn't, not in the least. Reading these posts makes me feel better about this.

To answer SJO's questions -- we have not had many problems with diaper rash (perhaps because we are using cloth diapers?), with the exception of a time that an ear infection led to antibiotics led to diarrhea. Obviously that changed the plan for a bit. General diaper ick also not a huge issue, perhaps because my DS has relatively few and relatively dry BMs, for a baby. No food yet, and no sunscreen yet either (keep him shaded). And not yet mobile, so he plays on a (clean) blanket but cannot get into dirt.

Actually the biggest cleanliness issue we have is milk/drool in the folds of fat in his neck, and that is a very hard area (I find) to clean in the bath. Easier to tackle with a warm moist washcloth while he's lying on a bed or changing table.

my twins scream blooooody murder when they hear the word shampoo. they love to sniff it all day but put it on the head? No way!

Unfortunately washing my children's hair every day would make it fall out!
They are African American and are prone to dry scalps and skin, my son is a hard playing little guy and I do tend to try to get him in almost every night, sponge baths for those off nights..

SJO,
People are now saying the bathing is actually stimulating at night time, rather than inducing sleep, it can wake 'em up. Obviously if kid is used to it, then its part of the routine. My child can't take daily bathing or soap due to the drying effects and resulting rash. Wipes and/or warm wash clothes do a fine job in between.

So, so embarrassed to admit this: now that I have three kids 7, 4 and 2 this summer I seem to "wash" them with the hose sporadically. Wish I were kidding (hangs head and silently shuffles away).

i have always washed damien's hair everyday... he came home from nursery school EVERYDAY with a bucketful of sand on his head!
i am SO jealous of your phone camera... mine sux big time!

I babysit for two families. One bathes the kids every other night and includes a hairwash. The other family does bath every third night or whenever the kids are grungy and includes a wash. The first parents do the bathing but I have bathed them and washed their hair before. The son said to his Dad and mom that I make it fun and don't get soap in his eyes. The daughter has never minded the hairwash. The second parents love me because I bathe the kids and wash their hair. The kids ask for a bath when I come over because I make washing hair fun for them. They used to be scared of the hair wash when their mom or dad did it but that changed when I started bathing them. I let them know I wouldn't get soap or water in their eyes, brought toys,and special smelling shampoo that's tearless of course. They love it now and they are okay when their folks wash their hair but the kids still would rather have me do it.

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