We all have different ways of coping

9am. Chatting to an infertile friend of mine on MSN. She is waiting for her beta for her 7^th IVF.

 Tertia says:

guess where i am?

Friend says:

where?

Tertia says:

at the hairdresser having my hair dyed black

Friend says:

good for you.

Friend says:

I bought a BMW the last time....

Tertia says:

i would have preferred a BMW, but i have fuck all money.

Tertia says:

black hair will have to do. at least it matches my mood.

Comments

[Bee]

Can't believe you dyed your hair black! Sure it looks gorg. Love you my friend.

[CariP]

Black hair is probably infinitely cheaper than a BMW...and much less permanent. I'm sure you will be G&D no matter your hair color. Sending you hugs. And prayers. :)

[Boulder]

Black!?! You didn't mention that to us! I was trying to figure out what color you were doing because I thought you'd just done highlights, I thought.

Why the fuck not, right?

xoxo

[Beret]

I'm sure it looks stunning on you. I did black hair for my wedding, and I never regretted it.

[Alley]

Black hair is especially good for winter, which is depressing within itself.

Plus, your up keep will be kept to a minimum 'cause your roots won't show. And, its much cheaper than a BMW.

Love to you babe!
A

[coral]

Why not a black BMW?

I really feel for you.

None of those naff brackets - straight hugs.

and xxxx!!

[Mandy]

There used to be a shampoo here called "Hair Therapy." I always thought it was too small a bottle to include any real help (cozy blanket, wine, SOMETHING of value). Maybe going to the hair dresser works better.

I'm so, so sorry.

[cath]

you go girl!

[HH]

So sorry Tertia. Glad you found something to do for 'you'.

[Carmen]

Black will make those gorgeous blue eyes POP. Glad to hear you're doing this for you!!!!

[Judy]

My guess is that you are amazingly stunning with black hair.

It would get awfully heavy to have a black BMW on your head anyway.

[Slim]

Gorgeous, divine, and dramatic.

Maybe you could rent a BMW for a day. A convertible, so your hair could stream behind you as though you didn't have a care in the world. (As I wish you didn't.)

[Dani]

MUST see a pic of that new gorgeous dye-job! :)

Oh... and another {{hug}} for you while I'm here. . . .

xoxo

[Tammy]

I can totally picture you with black hair. You have perfect eyes for it. Good for you. Can't wait to see.

XOXO

[Summer]

Hair dye as a way of coping, yes, I totally understand. Have celebrated the upcoming 2nd anniversary of my unsuccessful attempts to make a baby by dying my hair Corvette-red. I bet the BMW black looks gorgeous. We are going to see pictures, right?

You're amazing. Sending you my best wishes and prayers.

[Jodie]

I'd look like Morticia with black hair - too pale - but you my dear will look fab with that skin, those eyes. You are a classy broad.

[Lady In Waiting]

Dying your hair black sounds like fantastic therapy to me. Get your anger out in however you want/need to! I am SO sorry for your loss and are keeping you in my thoughts!

[DD]

I'm very sorry, T.

You would rock my socks if you were to go bald.

You know I mean on your head, right? Because, well, you know...

[SarahD]

Wow! Can't wait to see that one. I typically go with red when I'm AntiCelebrating, but my hair is already nearly black.

[blackbird]

gorgeous.
of
course.

[charne]

Well whatever it takes to cope and get through difficult situations, i say do it! Thinking of you during this difficult time....

PS dont forget to post a pic of your new hair colour..... sure it looks fab!

[niki]

Wow, it is going to look great. Can't wait to hear what Adam and Kate think of the color :).

So sorry Tertia.

[Jeanne]

I hope you don't mind me doing this Tertia. I don't think you will, since I feel it ties into your fight for life, in a sad way.

I have just 3 blogs that I check daily. One is Tertia, one is Dooce and one is Deb (of Debutaunt.) Today Deb has asked us all to spread the word about her friend Brenda.
http://www.debutaunt.com/archives/001123.php#001123

[Heather]

Ooh, can't wait to see the pics... G & D x 10!

[stephanie]

Buy yourself some new makeup too. Get a makeover. Not that you need it, but who doesn't feel great after a make over and some new anything. Retail Therapy. Nothing quite like it. And I bet the black hair will ROCK!

Sending all good thoughts your way.

[Cristy]

So sorry to hear. :(

[Heather Ann]

Tertia, I am very very sorry for your loss.

Let's see that hair. You are G&D, of course!

[TexMex]

You go girl! However you need to grieve, go for it. Wishing you all the best tomorrow.

Love from Texas, USA.

[millie]

Totally need to see a pic of the new black hair.

[jenny]

Yes, we do need to see a picture. There is something about the loss and pain that requires a physical outlet. I made a pretty bad hairdye mistake after my first failed IVF that will forever be captured in my brothers wedding pictures.

[Suzie-Q.]

I hear Black is the new Blonde.
xoxo

[Lynn]

Tertia, I'm sorry for your loss - I'm the triplets mom (we met at Playzone briefly) and you mentioned you were pregnant. I've read through your web and I think its time for you to focus on positive things about yourself. Stop calling being cruel to yourself by calling yourself barren - barren women don't have kids! and you have lovely twins. I hope you feeling better soon.
Kind regards, Lynn

[magpie]

I'm sorry about your loss. But that hair color thing - spot on. My IUI #1 resulted in new shoes, IVF# in a necklace. After that I got discouraged and just cried. Good luck to you.

[bonnie]

hi i just dyed my hair black yesterday my hair is naturally dark allready i like it though it kinda suits me i think people should really go with black its a cool color