9am. Chatting to an infertile friend of mine on MSN. She is waiting for her beta for her 7th IVF.
guess where i
am?
Friend says:
where?
Tertia says:
at the
hairdresser having my hair dyed black
Friend says:
good for you.
Friend says:
I bought a BMW
the last time....
Tertia says:
i would have
preferred a BMW, but i have fuck all money.
Tertia says:
black hair will have to do. at least it matches my mood.
Can't believe you dyed your hair black! Sure it looks gorg. Love you my friend.
Posted by: Bee | 20 March 2007 at 10:52 AM
Black hair is probably infinitely cheaper than a BMW...and much less permanent. I'm sure you will be G&D no matter your hair color. Sending you hugs. And prayers. :)
Posted by: CariP | 20 March 2007 at 11:14 AM
Black!?! You didn't mention that to us! I was trying to figure out what color you were doing because I thought you'd just done highlights, I thought.
Why the fuck not, right?
xoxo
Posted by: Boulder | 20 March 2007 at 11:32 AM
I'm sure it looks stunning on you. I did black hair for my wedding, and I never regretted it.
Posted by: Beret | 20 March 2007 at 11:38 AM
Black hair is especially good for winter, which is depressing within itself.
Plus, your up keep will be kept to a minimum 'cause your roots won't show. And, its much cheaper than a BMW.
Love to you babe!
A
Posted by: Alley | 20 March 2007 at 11:47 AM
Why not a black BMW?
I really feel for you.
None of those naff brackets - straight hugs.
and xxxx!!
Posted by: coral | 20 March 2007 at 12:52 PM
There used to be a shampoo here called "Hair Therapy." I always thought it was too small a bottle to include any real help (cozy blanket, wine, SOMETHING of value). Maybe going to the hair dresser works better.
I'm so, so sorry.
Posted by: Mandy | 20 March 2007 at 12:55 PM
you go girl!
Posted by: cath | 20 March 2007 at 01:03 PM
So sorry Tertia. Glad you found something to do for 'you'.
Posted by: HH | 20 March 2007 at 01:04 PM
Black will make those gorgeous blue eyes POP. Glad to hear you're doing this for you!!!!
Posted by: Carmen | 20 March 2007 at 01:13 PM
My guess is that you are amazingly stunning with black hair.
It would get awfully heavy to have a black BMW on your head anyway.
Posted by: Judy | 20 March 2007 at 01:42 PM
Gorgeous, divine, and dramatic.
Maybe you could rent a BMW for a day. A convertible, so your hair could stream behind you as though you didn't have a care in the world. (As I wish you didn't.)
Posted by: Slim | 20 March 2007 at 02:19 PM
MUST see a pic of that new gorgeous dye-job! :)
Oh... and another {{hug}} for you while I'm here. . . .
xoxo
Posted by: Dani | 20 March 2007 at 02:40 PM
I can totally picture you with black hair. You have perfect eyes for it. Good for you. Can't wait to see.
XOXO
Posted by: Tammy | 20 March 2007 at 02:51 PM
Hair dye as a way of coping, yes, I totally understand. Have celebrated the upcoming 2nd anniversary of my unsuccessful attempts to make a baby by dying my hair Corvette-red. I bet the BMW black looks gorgeous. We are going to see pictures, right?
You're amazing. Sending you my best wishes and prayers.
Posted by: Summer | 20 March 2007 at 03:36 PM
I'd look like Morticia with black hair - too pale - but you my dear will look fab with that skin, those eyes. You are a classy broad.
Posted by: Jodie | 20 March 2007 at 03:37 PM
Dying your hair black sounds like fantastic therapy to me. Get your anger out in however you want/need to! I am SO sorry for your loss and are keeping you in my thoughts!
Posted by: Lady In Waiting | 20 March 2007 at 03:51 PM
I'm very sorry, T.
You would rock my socks if you were to go bald.
You know I mean on your head, right? Because, well, you know...
Posted by: DD | 20 March 2007 at 03:52 PM
Wow! Can't wait to see that one. I typically go with red when I'm AntiCelebrating, but my hair is already nearly black.
Posted by: SarahD | 20 March 2007 at 04:26 PM
gorgeous.
of
course.
Posted by: blackbird | 20 March 2007 at 04:27 PM
Well whatever it takes to cope and get through difficult situations, i say do it! Thinking of you during this difficult time....
PS dont forget to post a pic of your new hair colour..... sure it looks fab!
Posted by: charne | 20 March 2007 at 04:35 PM
Wow, it is going to look great. Can't wait to hear what Adam and Kate think of the color :).
So sorry Tertia.
Posted by: niki | 20 March 2007 at 05:19 PM
I hope you don't mind me doing this Tertia. I don't think you will, since I feel it ties into your fight for life, in a sad way.
I have just 3 blogs that I check daily. One is Tertia, one is Dooce and one is Deb (of Debutaunt.) Today Deb has asked us all to spread the word about her friend Brenda.
http://www.debutaunt.com/archives/001123.php#001123
Posted by: Jeanne | 20 March 2007 at 05:37 PM
Ooh, can't wait to see the pics... G & D x 10!
Posted by: Heather | 20 March 2007 at 06:14 PM
Buy yourself some new makeup too. Get a makeover. Not that you need it, but who doesn't feel great after a make over and some new anything. Retail Therapy. Nothing quite like it. And I bet the black hair will ROCK!
Sending all good thoughts your way.
Posted by: stephanie | 20 March 2007 at 06:25 PM
So sorry to hear. :(
Posted by: Cristy | 20 March 2007 at 07:19 PM
Tertia, I am very very sorry for your loss.
Let's see that hair. You are G&D, of course!
Posted by: Heather Ann | 20 March 2007 at 08:07 PM
You go girl! However you need to grieve, go for it. Wishing you all the best tomorrow.
Love from Texas, USA.
Posted by: TexMex | 20 March 2007 at 08:24 PM
Totally need to see a pic of the new black hair.
Posted by: millie | 20 March 2007 at 10:31 PM
Yes, we do need to see a picture. There is something about the loss and pain that requires a physical outlet. I made a pretty bad hairdye mistake after my first failed IVF that will forever be captured in my brothers wedding pictures.
Posted by: jenny | 20 March 2007 at 10:34 PM
I hear Black is the new Blonde.
xoxo
Posted by: Suzie-Q. | 21 March 2007 at 03:48 AM
Tertia, I'm sorry for your loss - I'm the triplets mom (we met at Playzone briefly) and you mentioned you were pregnant. I've read through your web and I think its time for you to focus on positive things about yourself. Stop calling being cruel to yourself by calling yourself barren - barren women don't have kids! and you have lovely twins. I hope you feeling better soon.
Kind regards, Lynn
Posted by: Lynn | 22 March 2007 at 02:14 PM
I'm sorry about your loss. But that hair color thing - spot on. My IUI #1 resulted in new shoes, IVF# in a necklace. After that I got discouraged and just cried. Good luck to you.
Posted by: magpie | 24 March 2007 at 03:37 AM
hi i just dyed my hair black yesterday my hair is naturally dark allready i like it though it kinda suits me i think people should really go with black its a cool color
Posted by: bonnie | 15 April 2007 at 06:28 AM