10 Good Reasons to give Internet
Dating a go
By Caryl Rose Morgan (aka online as
Marvella) author of Internet Dating Success Secrets…how to stay sane, safe
and savvy online.
1. You can meet someone new without agonising about where
to go to meet other singles.
2. You can mix and mingle on your own without having to
drag along a friend to a singles bar or party.
3. You can ignore that zit or dark roots growing out from
your blonde hair
4. You can chat to someone without putting on your
make-up or dressing up.
5. You can meet someone really interesting in a
completely different circle of people from those you already know; or in a
different part of town; different city or country.
6. You can avoid the shame of your friends fixing you up
with a terrible blind date just because he or she is a friend or relative and
also single.
7. If you work in an office you can be at your desk,
online, and still look like you’re working (just joking)
8. You need no longer be tempted to date or have a fling
with a co-worker or your boss.
9. There is less luck and frustration involved that
waiting for Fate.
10. You can increase your chances of meeting the right
person by emailing a whole batch of potential love matches at once.
So read this book and give it a go! There might just be someone as sincere,
likeable and intelligent as you out there!
Based on six years true-life
experiences, dating men exclusively from the internet, this tell-all self-help
book is being given free as a downloadable e-book for all singles home alone on
Valentine’s Day at
http://www.internetdatingyes.com
Dumped and disappointed one time too many on
Valentine’s Day and realising that most single women without a partner or date
dread the explosion of roses and chocolates that happens all around them on
February 14th Caryl
says she had originally intended to find a publisher for the book, but the
internet opens up ways to self-publish instead. Already her gesture has won her
a guest appearance as a columnist in Sex Times and she will be on Nancy
Richard’s show Otherwise Tuesday February 13th
A former Women’s Editor of the Sunday Times magazine
and pioneer of spiritual marketing in South Africa, she has a simple motto as
her life purpose – touch a million lives; heal a million hearts, mainly through
her writing.
She was pushed into internet dating by sheer refusal
to curl up and be celibate after her divorce at age 50. She says:
“I was shocked and saddened recently when a group of
over-40 women confided in me that they hadn’t dated – let alone had sex - for
seven, eight years or more. Lack of confidence was cited as a key factor but
it’s also about not knowing where to meet single available men.
Yet I was having a busy social life dating some
fascinating men, so they asked me, tell us how to do “internet dating.” At a
network breakfast a father of two 30-year-old daughters asked me similar
questions – he felt it might help get his kids dating again. Was it safe? Which
sites did I go on? What about profiles and pictures?
So I began to write it all down, and realised I had
grown personally by my experiences and could pass forward my insights and many
dos and don’ts. I could share what I believed were key ways for “success” –
which by my standard is feeling good about yourself whether you end up with a
man or not.
What makes me something of a love-coach
“sex-pert”? Experience, dedication and
persistence.
I have spent thousands of hours, emailing and meeting
hundreds of men from all over the world in the six years since I first entered
the then-murky and unknown waters of seeking romance online.
Back then in 1999 there was a '”wink, wink, say no
more,” attitude about it all, associated with sex-sites, computer nerds and
odd-balls.But today everybody knows somebody who has found love online or is
thinking of recommending it to a friend or relative going through divorce or
heartbreak.
“Giving it
away? Internet marketing guru Seth Godin
talks about viral marketing… getting your name and brand into the marketplace
by word or mouth or click of mouse. I
am hoping for feedback and first person stories that will go into a second book
which I will sell, so I am building a list of interested people who sign up to
get the book.
“In time, I
also have the option of publishing it mainstream, but right now I want to give
it away to all the curious and lonely women out there to say… internet
dating means never having to stay home alone!”
Contact Caryl, who is based in
Cape Town, at (+27) (0) 834448818 or email her at [email protected]
I met my husband online in 1998. I definitely recommend it.
Posted by: Robin | 14 February 2007 at 06:35 AM
Oh, Caryl! I have loads of material for your next book...
;)
Posted by: Suzie-Q. | 14 February 2007 at 06:50 AM
I met my boyfriend (and the previous two) online as well. It was the best thing I could have done and am still recommending it to my single friends.
Posted by: Roz | 14 February 2007 at 10:11 AM
da Missus and I met in a "Adult" chatroom. We chatted for a few months. A weekend in Little Rock, Arkansas (USA). That was close to half way from where each of us lived. Her from Mississippi, me from Texas. She moved in a month later after just one weekend together. We now have gone through a miscarriage, a stillbirth, birth of twins, and an affair. Yeah, Online can work.
Posted by: bikertigger | 14 February 2007 at 10:59 AM
"5. You can meet someone really interesting in a completely different circle of people from those you already know; or in a different part of town; different city or country."
I was living in California and my husband was in London, UK when we met online. 3 years later here I am in London and have never been happier!!
Posted by: BoonzaierBabe | 14 February 2007 at 01:26 PM
My mom is always meeting guys on the internet. When somebody says "I can't meet anybody" I always say that they aren't trying hard enough because my mom seems to have more boyfriends then she knows what to do with.
Posted by: jenny | 14 February 2007 at 03:15 PM
I really liked the post about Rose. Thank you for the update. I am happy that she is doing well and will be wishing her well with her learner's test on Friday.
Posted by: victoria | 14 February 2007 at 04:42 PM
I'll have to chat with my dh online, tonight. He's out of town - which sucks for him because today is his birthday.
Posted by: Stefanie | 14 February 2007 at 06:40 PM
My SO and I met through business, but because we live in different states, have "dated" online for 2 years. Our geekiness made it hard to meet someone, but now it's perfect--just sit down at the computer, turn on the webcam and microphone, and voila. We watch TV together, chat, eat, and say goodnight nearly every day. That's 4 hours of quality time we'd never be able to afford on the phone!
Posted by: SarahD | 14 February 2007 at 07:21 PM
This is the first time I am reading your blog, it is truly inspiring. OK, maybe not this particular post ;-), but all in all.
Regarding this posting, a friend of mine has just started internet dating. Will be interesting to see what happens.
Ciao
Posted by: Phlippy | 15 February 2007 at 12:59 PM
This is the first time I am reading your blog, it is truly inspiring. OK, maybe not this particular post ;-), but all in all.
Regarding this posting, a friend of mine has just started internet dating. Will be interesting to see what happens.
Ciao
Posted by: Phlippy | 15 February 2007 at 01:02 PM
i met my future husband online in 1997 - our alma mater had an intranet chat room for alumni. i was in vancouver, he was in hong kong. i was meant to be moving to viet nam....but only made it as far as hong kong.
viva internet romances!
Posted by: tess | 15 February 2007 at 01:26 PM
yikes! magnificent just pointed out i moved to hong kong in 1997, we "met" in 1996.
Posted by: tess | 15 February 2007 at 01:30 PM
yikes! magnificent just pointed out i moved to hong kong in 1997, we "met" in 1996.
Posted by: tess | 15 February 2007 at 01:32 PM
I admit that I say this from the comfortable position of being happily married, but am I the only one wigged out by the idea of internet matchmaker sites? I can't put my finger on why - I have made friends (women) on the internet, good, honest women - but I'm glad I didn't have to "resort" to internet dating for lack of a better term.
'Course who knows what might happen in my life blah blah and all that, but I'm glad my hubby and I met because of "fate", "chance", "divine intervention" or whatever you want to call it, instead of because we each met each other's online checklist.
I hesitated posting this but what is your comments section for, if not the occasional divergent opinion?!
Posted by: Andrea | 15 February 2007 at 05:35 PM
I have one good reason for recommending internet dating.
His name is Darren.
:)
Posted by: Nicole | 15 February 2007 at 07:09 PM