« Planning ahead | Main | While I wait, for your entertainment »

Comments

Feed You can follow this conversation by subscribing to the comment feed for this post.

1. Obviously, being gorgeous and divine. Losses and IF, to an extent.

2. Through Julie.

3. Sometimes. Usually far more clever persons than I have already said what's in my mind.

4. All of it, T. Your honesty and candour in particular.

5. More about your life in general - having not a lot of a clue about your country and what life is like there.

6. Nada :)

7. I am a Canadian living in the US (*sigh*). I also lived in Israel for many years.

8. Nah, it's too early and I'm only allowed one cup of coffee these days.

1. What do we have in common?
IF - I had trouble conceiving my first 3 children but the 4th found us all on his own!

2. How did you find me?
I think it was through Julie (Alittlepregnant)

3. Do you comment?
Only to say congratulations or something stupid like that. Mostly what I want to say has already been said (and a lot better than I could have said it).

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
Your particularly nice way of writing and expressing yourself.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
I'll read anything you want to post.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Nothing, really.

7. Where are you from?
Belgium - that little European country with the nicest chocolate - at least that's what my US friends tell me.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Keep doing what you're doing. Being a new mom isn't ever easy, let alone when you have twins. I used to want to have twins but I don't know if I'd have coped.

1. We've got motherhood in common. Also, close baby birthdays. I'm right on your tail.

2. Must have found you via A Little Pregnant.

3. I've commented a few times. I try to keep my mouth shut on these blogs as I have not experienced any infertility. But I have a big mouth, so sometimes that doesn't work.

4. I love your blog full stop, but I really love that you ask for useful advice (and people answer). It's great to read other people's takes on parenthood.

5. I want to know if you still have those huge gorgeous dogs and if so, more on them. And more photos. Of the dogs, and the babies.

6. You're a great parent, so no more questioning that.

7. New England in general, Salem, MA in particular right now.

8. Hell no, no assvice.

1. We both keep blogs, we're both women who want children (although in my case, it's SOMEDAY, definitely not right now), and I suppose I'm gorgeous and divine as well.

2. A link from someone else, probably Julie.

3. I don't normally comment... I'm rather shy, and also don't feel like I have much to contribute to the discussion. Heh, you thing YOU lack parenting experience--I'm only a college undergraduate!

4. Everything! I appreciate that you update so regularly and are so honest with your writing. I like seeing pictures and I also enjoy how your blog can sometimes me a little window to a different place and different cultures, since I'm from the US.

7. I'm from Northern California but I go to school in Oberlin, Ohio.


1. My son is just over two months old -- just about the same age as your twins.
2. alittlepregnant.com, I think. I don't remember exactly which I found first...
3. this is my first comment on anyone's blog! I don't mean to be a lurker, but I'm shy about jumping in, and I'm just as inexperienced as you are so I'm not sure I have any meaning advice
4. I was blessed not to struggle with infertility, but I did have a "high-risk pregnancy" -- I think I started reading when I was on bedrest early on -- and I sought out blogs/message boards of others who didn't have "textbook" pregnancies
5. Just what they have been...your babies' development, your struggles with parenthood, etc. And somewhat offtopic, I would be interested in knowing what it's like to live in South Africa, if you are interested in sharing.
6. n/a
7. I live in New Jersey, 20 miles outside of NYC. I'm *from* Hawaii.
8. Ignore any unsolicited negative comments about your choices as a parent -- nobody knows your kids and what they need better than you do. But when little old ladies stop you to coo and tell you that your babies are beautiful, decide that they are the smartest, most fabulous women in the world (besides you and Kate). :)

Thanks for letting me read & learn.

Alright, alright. . .I will delurk to post a comment.

1. What do we have in common? - Infertility, though I will never actually conceive, carry, or birth a child I found out at the ripe old age of 25.

2. How did you find me? - From Julie's blog

3. Do you comment? I don't think I ever have except maybe a congratulations (or two). I'm not sure why.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? The writing mostly and reading about your beautiful babes.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? I wouldn't change anything. Its your blog.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about? See #5

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from? - Michigan, USA (though I do talk to people from SA at work from time to time).

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice? - Keep doing what you are doing and don't doubt yourself. It sounds like you are doing an amazing job at being a mom.

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

I sure am not gorgeous. My belief is that everyone is divine, but you didn't ask about religion so I'll can it for now. I had secondary infertility, but that was resolved by the birth of my son on IVF #2. He was born on my daughter's third birthday, which was perfect since I wanted her to have a sibling so much.

2. How did you find me?

From Julie's alittlepregnant blog, although I can't remember when I found her blog. Probably during the year I spent obsessively searching for infertility information.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

Occasionally, if I feel I have something useful to say.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

I really love to read good writing. I was an English composition professor about 10 years ago when I was 30 and most of my students were about 20. It's really gratifying to see people who are probably around 10 years younger than me writing well, because I didn't know that such a person existed. (I'm assuming you're around 30 but I could be wrong.)

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

I'd love to hear more about daily life in South Africa. That's where you live, right? I would ask you questions that a five-year-old would ask like what do you eat there, and have you ever seen a lion?

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Nothing.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

I was born and grew up in Northern California, but I have lived all over the U.S. and also in England. I currently live in Massachussetts.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Not just at the moment.

1. G&d of course, possibly IF
2. Through Julie's "I love Tertia" post
3. Occasionally (like to say 'congratulations') but don't generally feel I could add much to what your other fabulous and intelligent commenters have to say. I did send you some bootees via Boulder though ;c)
4. HONESTY
5. It's all good
6. It's all good
7. Bristol, England
8. Just keep it coming, we appreciate you more than you'd believe

1. Motherhood and scary pregnancies.
2. The blog chain - I think alittlepregnant directly.
3. No, not unless I feel very very strongly. There are already 208 comments today - I hate being lost in a crowd!
4. The swearing. The sarcasm. The great stories.
5. How I can make lots and lots of money easily. You know the answers, don't you?
6. Nothing
7. Western Massachusetts, USA
8. Take lots of pictures and movies of the babies, if you can. Looking back, you'll be amazed at how different they look in a week, a month, a year. Plus you'll have stuff to pull out in their dating years.

Oh, I almost forgot....

In addition to wanting to know about lions and what you eat, I'd love to be able to hear about what apartheid was like and what post-apartheid South Africa is like, from the perspective of a white South African. I have no idea if this is a sensitive or taboo subject so I'm sorry if it is. I've always been curious to hear more about it from actual South Africans after taking a class on it as an undergrad. I worked with a gal from South Africa on a project once, and was dying to ask her but never knew if it was okay to ask about. She would have been just the person to describe it too, as she was both articulate and sensitive like you.

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?
Infertility

2. How did you find me?
Through Julie, who I found through Chez Miscarriage
3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
No, Usually, whatever I have to say has already been said, and said in a much more witty way! : )
4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
Your 100% honesty. Your humor.
5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
Wouldn't change a thing.
6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Ditto # 5.
7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Kentucky, USA
8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
I adore you and your writing. Thank you for everything!

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

Well, as I'm about nr. 500 answering your questions and nobody reads them anymore... let's say the truth. Gorgeous and divine of course. (I'm a mother of four and although I don't have IF-related issues, I have a high level of sensitivity to it - I had health issues and always knew that the worst must be IF).

2. How did you find me?

Via Getupgrrrl. I'm a huge fan of the whole IF bunch. I admire your power in dealing not only with this terrible stuff but also with the s..t people tell you about it.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

Of course I do. I wish I could shut up sometimes... like now!

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

I love everything. No: I LOVE your baby pics. I would love to see more pictures. If I wouldn't enjoy it, I'd go away. I also love the commemoration for your boys - they are always there, like they should be. I admire you for how you do it. And: I love your expressions, like naff. Didn't know that word before!

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

I see you are getting more adjusted to your domestic chaos and that makes me happy enough to wish seeing you jumping ecstatically in icy cold water... ;-) don't change anything!

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Don't shut up. I wish I could make you less sensitive to the freaks with their drive bys ... but as long as they hurt you, tell us about it. We will crrrrrush their bones...

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Ha. I'm a native German (and YES once a deaf acquaintance found my accent close to SA! blush with pride!!!) and married an Israeli. So I live on a kibbutz in the North of Israel.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Oh, too many to fit in here!!! You should buy... fix... say... sing... massage... shake... wipe... throw away... give... take... admit...

Joke. Who dares giving advice to a perfect mum and wife...?

Just the request: MORE PICS!!

1. We have motherhood, loss, G&D'ity, and a love for red wine in common. Our differences include your long legs and many time zones.

2. Found you and the rest of what I call the motherpain blogosphere through Julia of the Hippogriffs.

3. I comment sometimes, but only if I feel that I have something very relevant or funny to say, or, in today's case, to make you feel popular.

4. I appreciate your wit, your honesty, and the window you provide into an Anglophone culture I knew next to nothing about. Your story is brutally compelling, and it's an absolute joy to witness your happier struggles with new motherhood.

5. You could post more pictures of your husband. He is hot, hot, HOT.

6. Write what you like. I'll keep reading.

7. I could phrase this in the form of a trivia question: I'm a US citizen who lives within the confines of the continental United States, but not in one of the 50 states. (A: Washington, DC. It's not in a state! I could walk to the Congress building, but I don't have a real elected representative there.)

8. I found myself this morning thinking about your shopping spree for Adam and Kate, and I wanted to suggest that with slender children, you'll get longer use out of separate shirts and trousers instead of all-in-one outfits. Your kids probably won't grow out of their clothing width-wise as quickly as they will length-wise, and once the crotch snaps on those all-in-ones won't snap, the outfit is a goner. But elastic waist trousers, those just become capri pants, very fashionable for both women and men these days.

Also, consider yourself adored. I'm a loyal Tertia fan.

1. What do we have in common? Infertility, sarcasm, caves, fondness for bullet points.

2. How did you find me? TLOL TTC>30 message board

3. Do you comment? Rarely. The first time I delurked was to tell some man talking about "relax, just just the magic happen" to fuck off. Since I am still ttc#1 I have not posted lately because I have no assvice to offer.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? The honesty, the humor, the pictures, the comradery. Bits often ring true and stick with me; such as the recent comment that "Infertility casts a long shadow."

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? No wishes here. I like it just as it is, peeking through the keyhole of blogdom to see what is on your mind and what is going on in your life.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about? Nothing at all.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from? USA-Alabama

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice? Adorations for you, Marko, Adam & Kate, and your merry band of friends and fans. I love the links to other people's writing that strike a cord with you. I love the pictures you post (and not just the ones of the babies). I love that you are interested in us the people in your computer.

Hi I'm Stacie and I'm a lurker.

The crowd roars: WELCOME STACIE

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

Motherhood, gorgeous and divine. Although I must admit that I'd never really though myself exactly gorgeous or divine until I started reading your blog. I mean I *knew* but I really love that phrase!

2. How did you find me?

A pal(from a mommy board) gave me a link to a little pregnant and then I discovered you! My pal has suffered through infertility with 2 successful pgs and she just loved Julie!

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

I don't comment. Sometimes I would just be chiming with what's already been said several times, why bother? Other times I'm lazy I think. I will, however, make a better effort from this point forward!

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

I like the whole package.


5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

It's your blog sweetie, write whatever you desire!

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Again, this is your spot to vent, cry, rant, rave or BRAG. Do it as needed whenever the mood strikes.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Nashville, TN USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

I think you are doing a bang up job at this mothering ordeal. I have been through the sleepless nights and have had a child who wouldn't eat etc. You have the right instincts, it's going along just fine. However, no one ever tells you how hard it is in the beginning. AND like you after I had my first (now pg with #2) I made it my mission to tell everyone it wasn't a bed of roses. :) You are an awesome, fantastic woman and I love hearing about your life.

1. gorgeous and divine
2. from alittlepregnant, via dooce.com
3. no, because I'm only gorgeous and divine, I don't know if I'm infertile
4. all of them, all the time. I love your honesty, most of all.
5. I wouldn't change a thing
6. see above
7. from? long story. Now? Santiago, Chile
8. enjoy your babes. You worked hard, and I'm glad in the end you got what you wanted.

1. What do we have in common?
Motherhood and being assholes.

2. How did you find me?
Through Julie's blog, which I found through Grrl's.

3. Do you comment?
Yep, a few times. But I read daily.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
Photos of the babies! Your honesty. Watching you grow in motherhood.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
Me. But aside from that, I love the content.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
N/A Enjoy every word.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Grew up in Perth, Western Australia and now live in Oklahoma, U.S.A. Yeehaw!

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Nope. You're doing just fine.

Thanks for sharing your life with us.

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

I don't think we necessarily have anything in common. I just like your writing, it captivated me.

2. How did you find me?

I thought I was having a very very early miscarriage (something I still think happened, despite what the lady on the phone said to the contrary. "contractions" are very different from "cramps" in that you can time them. And I do not believe that normal periods come with contractions.) and so I was google-researching, and came across your site, or one of the sites that linked to you.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

Comment? What's that? And why doesn't it have a "u" in it?

I don't tend to comment becuase I am "not one of the crew", and am afraid that somehow someone will end up reading my blog, and I'll say something insensitive without realizing. I'm an outsider. Neither a mother nor an infertile (I assume), and thus feel inclined to lurk in the shadows.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

The wittiness, and the pictures of the beautiful babies, and knowing you have them finally :)

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

Since I never really post, I don't think that we've actually had a conversation, so I can't truly really have a wish in that regard, can I? Unless "our" means Marko, in which case it's adorable when you make him antsy ala the ante natal classes.

Oy. Now I feel like a stalker.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Your blog. If I wish you to shut up about something, I merely skip that post. I can't think of a single post that I've skipped.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

New Yahwk. The city, /obviously./

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

I quiver in the face of your skillful tippers, adoring adorers, and the assvice of the trolls, and as such I can say nothing.

Dang - I hope you get down to the bottom of these comments eventually. I'd hate to think the second time I've commented is all for naught.

1. In common:
- Infertility? Yes... well sorta. I'm going through an IVF cycle right now because my husband's "fertility" exists only in the frozen form, suspended there before he went through cancer treatment 15 years ago. We have yet to discover whether *I'm* infertiile.
- Being gorgeous and divine? Absolutely.

2. How did you find me?
- Found you at Julie's. Started reading regularly when you told us Julie was going in for her emergency C-section.

3. Do you comment?
- I think I commented once about blood/cord blood donation. Tend to lurk...

4. I enjoy:
- The swearing and your honesty.

5. I wish our conversations were more about:
- I think you have a great balance between how fucking hard it is to raise twins, and how absolutely wonderful they are. Don't change a thing.

6. Please shut up about:
- Nothing! Don't shut up!

7. I am from:
- Mountain View, CA

8. Tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
- I just want to thank you for showing the real deal when it comes to twins, it's making me seriously rethink my own opinions and decisions of how many embryos to transfer! I'm sure we'll still transfer two, but at least I'll know what that means!

1. What do we have in common?

Not a whole heck of a lot other than being generous and divine!

2. How did you find me?

I don't honestly remember exactly where, but it was a link from somone else's blog.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

No, mainly because other than to continuously tell you I think you are great, I can't add much insight due to te fact that I am only a mother to a dog.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

I enjoy all of them. I find your blog entertaining and enlightening and I was able to help out a friend a lot when she explained her infetility issues and I a)knew what she was talking about and b) tried to stay away from saying what you have explained not to say!

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

I like them the way they are.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Nothing!

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Edmonton, Alberta, Canada

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

I think you should write a book called "The Generous and Divine Secrets of the Tertia Sisterhood".

1. What do we have in common?  Infertility?  Motherhood?  Being gorgeous and divine?  All of the above?

Losses and NICU babies. I lost my first baby at 24 weeks and my second baby spent two months in the NICU. She had one grade 4 IVH.


2. How did you find me?

Seriously, I can't remember. I started visiting you just about the time you found out you were pregnant with Kate and Adam.

3. Do you comment?  If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
I've commented a couple of times, not many though. I'm a pretty prive person

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
I love hearing about you and your children. You have a wicked sense of humor and I just enjoy reading what you write.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
This is your blog, you write what you want to write about.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Don't shut up about anyting. That is what makes you you!

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from.  Where are you from?
Seattle, Washington

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Nothing from me, just that I can't imagine how you do it with twins! You are doing great!

Howdy!

1. What do we have in common?  Infertility?  Motherhood?  Being gorgeous and divine?  All of the above?

-Infertility
-Motherhood
-Fabulousness!!!


2. How did you find me?

-I believe, A Little Pregnant


3. Do you comment?  If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

-Only once. I guess I really figure on Blogs that get tons of comments, mine doesn't really matter. Perhaps I'm wrong?


4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

- Your honesty, writing style.


5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

-I like it the way it is.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

-LOL- nothing

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from.  Where are you from?

-Fort Worth, Texas YEEHAW!


8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Have fun with those kiddos!!!

Oh great, I can talk about me me me me me? One fo my favorite topics, thanks Tertia!

1. In common? Infertility and being grogeous and divine. Motherhood, maybe, in five more weeks.

2. Found you through Julie.

3. Do you comment?
Heck yeah. Not always, but often enough.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
Your honesty, honesty, honesty, honesty. And you're damn funny. And sorta raunchy.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
Whatever crosses your mind at any moment always seems to be the ticket.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
It's all or nothing, babe.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Originally from Montevideo, Uruguay. Now living in the US.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Don't let the trolls get to you, no matter where they come from. Practice flipping your electronic finger. Bastards. You do NOT have to explain yourself to them.

1. What do we have in common?

Infertility, losses, and then motherhood.... We also have a shared sense of humour and, we spell the same ;-)

2. How did you find me?

IVF Connections BB. Back in the day, I was a cycle buddy of yours (more than once).

3. Do you comment?

No, I am full of good intentions - but am fundamentally a lazy slacker! (I have sent you the occasional email though.)

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

All of it........ especially the humour, irony and total honesty reflected.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

I love what they are about... I will try to post more.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Nothing.... That is what is so good about the blog.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

London UK, now living in San Jose, California USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Tertia - you are brilliant - keep up the wonderful writing!

1. What do we have in common?
Well, I'm CERTAINLY not as gorgeous and divine as YOU are :). I suffered through secondary infertility (High FSH), motherhood and miscarraige.

2. How did you find me?
Gosh, I've been reading for so long, I just don't know! I THINK it was from Julia's blogroll(Uncommon Misconception)

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
Honestly, I rarely, if ever comment. The reason is because I really enjoy reading what you and some of your other infamous bloggers write, but when you get 200+ comments on one post, what is one more? Now ME...I get like 3 or 4 comments a post (hee hee) so if I get another one its exciting. I feel like I'd say exactly what half of your other posters say. But you're still one of the blogs I check daily and love when there is an update! :)

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
Your honesty. Your 'take it as it comes' attitude. I really enjoy your writing style! Like I said, you're one of my favorites!

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
Hmmm...maybe random topics that aren't fertility/baby related but that would strike good interest.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Nothing! Seriously!

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
I'm from Madison Wisconsin. Just got in from shoveling yet again. It was 9 degrees while I was shoveling. Lovely, huh?

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Only that it WILL get better! (I should eat my own advice though because I'm in the midst of a 10 week old 'difficult' baby) I have a 3 1/2 yr old and just yesterday he was a baby. I can't believe how he is turing so quickly into a boy. Its heartbreaking, really! As exhausted as you are, know it WILL get better!!
Thanks for giving me something interesting to read almost every morning while I enjoy my morning coffee!

Oh, and I wish you'd post more pictures of hot Marko. Just sayin'.

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above? Gorgeous and divine. Oh, and the motherhood thing.

2. How did you find me? Hmm through Julie, I think. Hard to remember, have been a big lurker for so long now.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t? sorry, no. I am just too afraid of being an annoying fertile.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? All of it. I like how honest you are and how inherently fair you are. The humo(u)r is good as well. Oh, and your openness about the motherhood thing rocks. That Motherhood Loving every other minute book totally saved me with my first!

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? No idea, I think it is great as is.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about? Again, nothing. That is what I like about blogs - it is yours and yours alone.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from? Sadly, the US (used to live in England, so I like to think I am slightly more wonderful, but realistically, am not). Minnesota to be exact.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice? Go with your gut. The reason there are so many different parenting styles is because there are so many different parents. What works for me won't necessarily work for you. I also think that is part of what makes life great! Just best of luck and thing will get better (and sometimes worse!)

Back to my lurking ways now...

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

Infertitilty. Being from the southern hemisphere, using "u" in my words a lot too. I'm not nearly as gorgeous and divine as you are.

2. How did you find me?

I was on the Resolve bulletin board. A lady called Sarah posts there and puts her blog URL in her posts. I clicked it, found a blog (didn't know what one looked like, although I'd heard of them), and then it linked to Julies, and then I found you through the VP.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
I don't feel I have anything new to add. You and your regular commentators seem to encapsulate my thoughts and opinions. Beside, I feel like I need to get some time up before I delurk and tell you what I think. But mostly, it's because you can say it better than I.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

I'm an expat Aussie living in the USA, and while I love and adore my American friends, it does my soul good to hear about all this IF stuff from a non-American point of view. I'm not dissing my American IF support buddies, it's just that sometimes I feel different and I wonder if it is me, my walk with IF or if it is cultural. You help me figure it out. (And I've figured out that most of it is universal!)

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

I really enjoy hearing you think out loud about your decisions and choices. Stuff like circumcision, Paul and Marco, your night nurse and lots of countless other posts.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
I love it all. Don't change on my account!


7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Perth, Western Australia (but sentenced to a few years in Dayton, Ohio, USA). I want to go home!!!!!!!!!!!

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Keep the "u" in all the words that should have them.

This is your blog, and it's your right to do it anyway you want. Don't let the trolls change anything that you post, but I guess that means you'll get hurt sometimes. Please tell us when the trolls hurt, so that we can give you lots of reasons to remember why you are a good person, and why you do this blog!

What is this, comment no 228 or something, you have a lot of reading to do. Anyway, to answer your questions in no particular order:

I found your blog through a link from someone else's but I can't remember who. We don't have anything in common except for us both living in Cape Town (really I'm a Gauteng girl but my husband was lured here by promises of a fab job).

I don't usually comment because I'm neither infertile (well, not as far as I know) nor am I a parent (I'm pretty sure having a cat doesn't count) so I don't often feel like I could add anything meaningful to the conversation.

I do enjoy reading it just as it is because it's honest and it's your's.

Hope that will suffice?

Regards

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?
infertility

2. How did you find me?The labor of love board

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?Not normally but enjoy reading what others have to say

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? All of it you brighten my day with your honesty

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? nothing its your blog

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Airdre, Alberta, Canada

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Just keep being you! Love it all!

1. I was IF for 5 years before having my daughter 6 weeks ago. I found out I was pregnant a week after you did, so I followed your pregnancy closely. I think we also have similar careers and like to read how you can still keep up your despite all you have been through.

2. Julie's blog

3. I comment once in a while, but usually (like now) dont feel I'm adding anything when more than 200 people have already commented.

4. I really value your honesty and that you keep it real.

5. Nothing particular

6. Nothing particular. Okay maybe I would prefer to read less about other bloggers/controversies in the blog world. Would rather read about the real world.

7. Chattanooga TN

8. I am amazed that you post so regularly and always have something good to say.

What do we have in common? Infertility, but I must confess I’m a beginner.
How did you find me? I don‘t remember, sorry, but probably trough Julie
Do you comment? Maybe once – I’ve got troubles with my english
What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? I find you a strong, witty woman – and a great writer.
Where are you from? Italy.
Thank you for your blog, Tertia, go on writing anythink you want. It will be a success anyway.

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

just liking babies, I guess. and the internet. I have a (non-reproductive) chronic illness and medical history that will supposedly make pregnancy hard for me, but I'm 23 and am nowhere near testing out that hypothesis.

2. How did you find me?

no idea. the internet is big and vastly interlinked.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

I'm shy and I don't think I have much to say that is relevant.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

I just like hearing people talk about their lives. and pictures of cute little things.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

I have lived many places, but I consider myself a new yorker. I live in brooklyn now.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

I love your name!

1. Infertility for three years. Got pg with triplet boys after second round of injections/IUI cycle. Had Hunter at 21 weeks (stillborn) and the other two at 22 w 6 d and they spent 18 weeks in NICU.
2. Tess's Blog
3. Yes
4. The way you want to hear everyone's opinion and you respect everyone's opinion.
5. Whatever you want to talk about
6. Your blog
7. Meridian, Mississippi USA
8. Do what you are doing. You will figure out what is best for your kids. No one can really tell you what to do with your kids, because you are their mom. But ask for help if you feel like you need it.

1. What do we have in common?  Infertility?  Motherhood?  Being gorgeous and divine?  All of the above?

IF; IVF too many times; losses; b/g twins; fabulous husbands; wonderful and helpful parents and of course being gorgeuos and divine.


2. How did you find me?

IVFC in 2002 and have been a fan ever since.


3. Do you comment?  If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

Sometimes but not much. I'm somewhat shy and you get so much feedback there is often not much else to say.


4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

Your honesty and terrific sense of humor.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

I have no idea? Like what you are doing. Would love to hear more about life in SA.


6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Nothing! Ok, maybe Julie.


7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from.  Where are you from?

Manhattan, New York USA


8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Not really. Everyone has their own unique style. Keep up the good work. The first six months are the roughest.

Delurking:

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

Gutwrenching infertility. No miscarriages for me. Just two and a half years of no fertilization whatsoever, with no explanation whatsoever. After IVF #3 in Nov/Dec, I'm now 15w5d pregnant with one baby and slowly becoming less parnoid of disaster with each passing week. ... Definitely not the gorgeous and divine, thing going. If you were goofy with short legs, we'd have more in common.

2. How did you find me?

Through Julie, who I found because someone mentioned her on Fertility Friend, which is where I spend most of my time.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

I haven't commented because there are always so many comments I figure it'll get lost. Also, by the time I stumbled onto your blog, you were already pregnant with your two new beautiful babes, and since I was still hopelessly infertile and wouldn't have had anything intelligent to add. :)

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

You're not afraid to bare your soul and show your vulnerabilities, and your writing is crisp and clean, which is always refreshing.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

Don't change 'em!

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Nothing.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Cleveland, OH, USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Maybe you could get your kids to sleep better by slipping a little valium into their breast milk. ... oh, wait. Now we go back to the part where I've never had kids and have nothing intelligent to contribute!

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?
All of the above :) Esp. beign gorgeous and divine.

2. How did you find me?
From Julie's site

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
Yes, from time to time :)

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
The whole damn thing.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
I like how things are :)

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Nothing!

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
I am from Pickerington, Ohio USA (suburb of Columbus, Ohio....yes, I see you green with jealousy ;)

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
You are a strong, beautiful, wonderful woman/wife/mother/etc... I look forward to reading your blog everyday and even have my husband checking in on you, Marko and the kids :) If my children could read, they'd be avid fans as well.

1. What do we have in common?
I'm a mom too

2. How did you find me?
Through Julia J's blog (Uncommon Misconception)

3. Do you comment? A couple of times (not including this one)

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
All of it.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
I wouldn't change a thing. I honestly love when your posts are right from the heart.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
See above.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Southeast Michigan USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Just keep doing what you're doing. You sound like a great mom; your kiddos are obviously adorable, well-loved and v. healthy. I want to thank you and everyone else in the IF blogosphere for helping others to understand what you're going through (or have gone through) to build a family. I have a friend who is ttc after two miscarriages, and if (God and the universe forbid) she & her husband are unable to conceive without help or at all, I will at least know what to say or (perhaps more importantly) NOT to say. My best wishes are with all of you.

1. What do we have in common?
Infertility - IVF - Motherhood (have one daughter, another child on the way G-d willing).

2. How did you find me? I can't even remember...it's been awhile. :)

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t? Yes...but not all the time.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? The honesty.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? I like the topics...whatever suits your fancy.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
How nice the weather is out there...it's FREEZING here in IL.
7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Chicago IL.
8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Keep it up :)

1. I am not infertile, but when I did first get pregnant I was one of those naive women who bought maternity and baby clothes the day they first got their positive HPT. The pregnancy moved along uneventfully until the 26th week when the doctors learned my son had downs syndrome, duodenal atresia and a whole list of heart defects I wont bore you with. I saw the best ped cardiologists at Hopkins in Baltimore and they said there was nothing that they could do for the heart and with his other health problems he wouldnt survive ling enough for a transplant. So at 26 weeks of pregnancy, we made the heartbreaking decision to terminate the pregnancy. When I did get pregnant again I miscarried and when I got pregnant a third time all of my innocence, trust, and hope was gone. I was a mess the entire pregnancy and no matter how many times I heard the heartbeat or saw a healthy ultrasound I couldnt convince myself that I was going to end up with a healthy baby. I guess this is how I relate to you. Reading your posts throughout your pregnancy was like reading my own thoughts during my pregnancy. My healthy son was born within a week of the one year anniversary when I delivered my first angel and when you wrote your post about how your sadness over losing your Ben was seperate from your feeling for your new babies I was so relieved to hear someone put into words what I could never find a way to.

2. A Little Pregnant I think.

3. No, I am afraid of saying something stupid and accidentally offending someone.

4. I love your honesty! I wish everyone was more like that.

5. I like what we talk about.

6. Nothing.

7. Baltimore, MD

8. These hard newborn days do pass. I am not going to say that one day you will look back on them and miss them, cause I sure as hell didnt :), but they will pass.

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

Being gorgeous and divine of course and witty.

2. How did you find me?

I had a hysterectomy and THEN realized how much I would be missing out on and just wanted to read baby blogs and live vicariously and all.. so I googled baby blogs, don't know how I ended up on infertility but I felt closer to the writers and have stayed put and am enjoying all the new babes coming our way.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

Don't normally. Did to say Congrats I believe. Why not? Just a lurker at heart I guess.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

All of it. Your writing, the babies stories and the pictures of your beautiful duo.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

Africa.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Nothing. You blog is perfect.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?


I live in Florida. Born in Ohio and hope to visit Africa one day.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Keep being you.

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

Definately the gorgeousness and divinity. Other than that, infertility I guess. But I am one of the most infertile of infertile -- completly sterile in fact (ovarian cancer at 22)

2. How did you find me?

How do you find anything in this world? I followed links, hopscotched around the great World Wide Web, and somehow came across IF blogs. They have helped me deal with my infertility, but they also leave me sad and envious sometimes. I am jealous of all the women in the IF world who can try to become pregnant -- even the ones who never do reach that goal, or who suffer miscarriages. Pregnancy is not an option for me. Somedays, reading the heartwrenching stories of women who are trying to get pregnant, I see myself as lucky -- I know that option is out for me for motherhood, so when I begin that journey, I will know exactly where to start.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

I comment occasionally.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

You don't sugarcoat things. You're wickedly funny. You ask questions to make people post comments (sneaky!)


5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

I've been quite satisfied with the topics to date, if I come up with something, I'll let you know . . .

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Shut up? what is this "shut up"?

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Canada. It is cold and snowy here.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Don't hold in a sneeze. Your eyeballs might explode.

1. Being gorgeous and divine, of course. Infertility, though (knock on wood) that may now have been resolved surgically.

2. Chez Miscarriage. About a year ago, a friend pointed me there, and it wasn't long before I was reading a lot of infertility blogs.

3. No, not often. Probably mostly laziness, and the fact that I usually read blogs when I'm too wiped out to do anything else, so commenting feels like too much work. Also I just tend to be quiet and shy in general.

4. I appreciate your honesty and your willingness to acknowledge that motherhood is hard! It's also interesting to see the occasional glimpses that you live somewhere very different from where I do.

5. I'm a sucker for cute baby pictures...

6. I agree with a lot of folks who've said that it's your blog! Who are we to tell you to write less about topics we're less interested in? If something comes up that doesn't seem interesting to me, I skim or ignore it.

7. Indiana, USA.

8. Having read your blog for about a year now, it's been fascinating and amazing to watch your journey! Thank you for sharing so much of your life, your fears and hopes and joys, with all of us lurkers!

What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

I also struggle with infertility - had success on my 1st IVF but unfortuately our dd was stillborn at 39 weeks - since then I have managed to get as far as week 8 a couple of times. I'm about to have IVF #10. Because you too have had losses I really relate - and of course I am utterly gorgeous and divine!!

2. How did you find me?

I think that it was originally through IVFC when you posted your link there ages ago.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

I comment occasionally.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

I like your sense of humour and your raw honesty.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

I think that it is yorblog to say want you want to. I feel privileged that you let us into your life.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

As above!!

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Dunedin, New Zealand - so I'm another Southern Hemisphere chick and am probably one of the few that lives closer to Antartica than you.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Just keep on doing as your doing


LOL Louise!! That would be messy indeed.

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?
motherhood and bed rest

2. How did you find me?
googled bedrest

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
rarely, figured you cant have time for trivial posts

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
pictures of the babes now, before it was sharing the bed rest stuff..

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
uhm, they are fine really...

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
it is your blog, you can say what you want, that is why we come

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Currently AZ, born in Colombia as in South America (which Americans seem to think is South Africa for some reason), grew up in Spain and in Ecuador too...

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
no assvice what-so-ever

1. Similiarities - Twins (me=stepmom tho), Live on same continent, both have blogs
2. Found - through alittlepregnant
3. Comment - not usually, enjoy lurking
4. Enjoy - your writing and honesty
5. Content wish - more stories of your daily to day life
6. Shut up about - nothing (although Americans aren't all that bad)
7. Living - Texan currently living in Nigeria
8. Assvice - enjoy more, worry less

. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above? Motherhood.

2. How did you find me?
Through another blog from San Francisco (which I don't actually read anymore!)

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t? Sometimes

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? Your frankness

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? I like that you talk about wahtever is in your thoughts. Don't bend your ideals for us!

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Say what you like

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Manitoba, Canada (right in the very middle)

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Keep on keepin' on.

1. What do we have in common?
*We have infertility, PCOS, writing to get feelings out and a love for your mother in common.
2. How did you find me?
*I found Julie first, then you through Julie.
3. Do you comment?
*Oh yeah, probably too much.
4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
*Your divine sense of humour (note the u), eloquence, willingness to take on hard questions and be honest about your feelings. You could sugar coat it and you don't, you could be serious all the time or funny all the time and you're neither. You seem real. You strike me as the type of person that I would like, if we were to meet at the store or the coffee shop.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
*Can't really say I've found anything to be lacking, truly. Honestly, my sincerest wish is that they continue. I have a feeling that soon I'll be asking you for advice about taking care of infants. Maybe we could talk about your mom more too. I *heart* your mom.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
*Don't know...but I do know you must never stop talking about being divine. I'm learning a lot from that actually.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
*Just north of Denver, Colorado, U.S.A.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
*I love that you return emails when you can. Love that you aren't writing only about how wonderful motherhood is because it is nice to hear how hard it is and still see that you're surviving. Don't change a thing.

Whoa. Talk about turning the spotlight on the audience...

1. Oh, its Dbay. We have both buried twins, trudged through hell, wondered about the future and finally have gotten pregnant only to relive the twin experience - but this time with happy outcomes (two more months for me) so I'm sucking all the info I can from you!! I'm far more discusting then divine right now.

2. IVFC

3. No, I'm always like the 400th person to read your blog, so I figure the topics been covered :).

4. You really do a great job. You have a great writing style.

5 I like your baby dialog - as I said, I'm sucking info here...

6. No, I think all you say is valid - and sincere.

7. Naples, Fl. and Newport, RI - but our sons from Russia, just to add to the international flavor - flavour. (we lived in London but I never picked up the accent like Madonna did)
Imagion Tertia, how many stars are huge in their own country and yet can't break into the US. Your bigger here then in Africa girl!!

8. Keep up the good work - your saving me money on parenting books. Its very brave, and generous of you to extend yourself to others. This blog is a befitting tribute to your ability to decide how to "win" a battle in which you had so little say in the outcome, but reconized early on that the control you had, was how you handled it. With grace,determination,a keen sense of humor and a somewhat foul mouth, (joking) you have perservered, and we are all the better for it. Thanks.

1. Well, being gorgeous and divine, certainly. But also infertility.
2. Zoot (www.misszoot.com) encouraged me to check out your blog when I first emailed her after she posted about trying to conceive.
3. I comment sometimes. I don't have any kids yet, so I haven't felt like I could answer any of your questions lately. Although I always have an opinion.
4. I like your spirit, your honesty and openness.
5. I wouldn't change a thing.
6. see my answer for #5.
7. I'm just outside of Washington DC
8. um...nope, I got nothing right now.

1. AOTA!

2. A Little Pregnant's Julie

3. I comment when I think I might have something to add. (Not too often.)

4. Your honesty, hunor, and STRENGTH. You are an inspiration, really.

5. I love it all. I think you have a great mix of topics. Hmmm. More on Marko?

6. Nothing, my dear.

7. New Jersey, USA

8. I think you are doing amazingly well dealing with your current place in life. Just one very trite thing, enjoy the moment!

Thanks for asking! A pleasure to meet you!

1. Motherhood and loss.

2. Through Chez Miscarriage.

3. I occasionally comment.

4. Your honesty and humour.

5. I like it the way it is.

6. See answer for #5.

7. Northern Ontario, Canada.

1. None of the above.
2. Dooce --> Grrl --> You.
3. No. I usually don't have anything of use to say.
4. Your honesty about how you feel and what you are going through.
7. San Francisco bay area

(I have no answers for 5, 6, or 8.)

1. So far, infertility, but motherhood is impending (6 weeks to go)

2. Chez Miscarriage

3. Yes!

4. I love your honesty and your sense of humour, your sense of fairness and your vulnerability. You open yourself up to all sorts of attacks, but always remain dignified and true to yourself.

5. I love them just the way they are. I am loving getting a headstart on all the baby assvice. Love the photos too, keep 'em coming.

6. Nothing

7. Sydney, Australia

8. Adorations - you're the first blog I read every morning.

1) What do we have in common? Infertility, losing twins, and OF COURSE being GORGEOUS and DIVINE!

2) I found you through IVFC.

3) I do comment sometimes - and I love reading the comments!

4) What aspects I like about your blog - I like your honesty, and the fact you like to cuss.

5) I would love to hear more about living in South Africa. I am also fascinated about where everyone lives in the world.

6) Shut up? I don't want you to shut up about anything - it is YOUR blog!

7) Texas

8) No assvice here but I do have an adoration - I think you are amazing person to be able to maintain your sense of humor with all the shit you have been through.

1. Gorging (the art of being gorgeous and eating) and divinity (amen)? Annoyance with US spelling (what happened to the poor U?.

2. A Little Pregnant via Chez Miscarriage

3. No. It usually has already been said, if I did, it would be. 'err, read Mollie's comment'

4. Your total honesty.

5. You got me at 'hello', don't change a thing.

6. Read 5.

7. Melbourne, Australia.

8. My assvice? A diet high in bran should short you out.

Tertia,
I'm commenter #255 or so- its going to take you 6 months to get through all these! Anyway, here's mine:

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

ALL OF THE ABOVE.

2. How did you find me?

THROUGH TESS- HERS WAS THE FIRST I STUMBLED ON- I DIDN'T REALIZE BLOGLAND EXISTED UNTIL 2 MONTHS AGO.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

OCCASIONALLY- IF I FEEL I HAVE SOMETHING TO OFFER.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

ALL OF IT. YOU WRITE SO WELL, SO OPENLY, SO HONESTLY. I LIKE THE WINDOW INTO SOUTH AFRICA.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

STAY AS YOU ARE.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

ENOUGH WITH THE BAD MOMMYING STUFF- THE 'GOOD ENOUGH' MOMMY IS THE BEST.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

AN EAST COAST CITY, USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

TAKE ALL THE HELP YOU CAN GET, TAKE ONLY THE ADVICE THAT RINGS TRUE TO WHAT'S IN YOUR OWN HEAD, TRUST YOURSELF.

You're probably done reading the comments but I did want to post my answers. I suffered through infertility, 5 years then successful through DE twice. My second pregnany was triplets which I delivered early at 26 weeks. My Benjamin died at 4 days old. I just felt a connection to you, through our Benjamins I guess.

Found you through IVFC. I enjoy your style of writing and your attitude.

I live in Ohio

Gina

1. What do we have in common?
Losses, now motherhood

2. How did you find me?
I think through Julie's blog, can't recall exactly

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
Rarely comment. Don't know why really.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
I absolutely love your honesty, how articulate you are about topics which are generally so difficult to discuss.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
I'm just happy to be here, I like it when you talk about mothering after losses and infertility. It is not something I have the opportunity to hear about from people in person (plus people don't seem to want to talk about it anyway).

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
It's your blog honey, I wouldn't dream of telling you to shut up about anything.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Toronto, Canada

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Just keep doing what you are doing. I hope you'll still have time to post when you go back to work.

1. Motherhood, miscarriages, G&D.
2. Julia's blogroll (Here be Hippogriffs)
3. I'm not sure if I've ever commented here or not. I don't comment that often, usually because you and other have so many, and I don't know if I'd have anything more interesting to say than what has already been posted by a lot of other great women.
4. Your humor and honesty, stories/questions about the babies, life in South Africa.
5. Your blog is great the way it is.
6. See above.
7. Wayne, Pennsylvania USA. It is a suburb of Philadelphia.
8. Don't worry so much about doing a good job. You are doing a great job! When you feel exasperated (as we all do) try very hard to look down at your beautiful children and remember the moment. Everyone says this, but it is true--they change so quickly. Even though my daughter is only just about to turn two, I wish I had worried and stressed less and stopped to enjoy more. Write all the little funny things down that the babies do or even mundane things about your week or day. (I did this on a calendar for Madeline's first year and then stopped. Now I wish I did it for her 2nd year. I'm going to start again.) Take lots of pictures. Keep doing what you are doing!

I'm a professional voyeur/lurker -- first started reading about a year ago. These are my first comments to any blog, ever.

1. In common? Infertility, IVF and motherhood.

2. Found you probably through the other members of the Pussy Posse. Ooops, I mean Vagina Posse.

3. I never comment on any blogs b/c I usually don't have anything to add that someone else hasn't already said and I like to maintain my anonymity.

4. I've enjoyed this window on your life -- it's like watching a real life soap opera, with all the action happening in real time. I silently support you in good times and bad, from the other side of the world.

5. I wish you'd talk more about life in SA, what's going on there, etc., and about your decision to return to work.

6. Don't shut up about anything, please.

7. I live on the coast in South Orange County, California, but I'm really a Nor. Cal. girl.

8. My girlfriend who had twins told me she wouldn't wish twins on her worst enemy. It's incredibly difficult, and you appear to be doing an amazing job. Take all the help you can get.

Hi, I'm Emily. I found you through Julie's site, and I can't remember how I came across her site. I'm married but have no children and am waffling about whether I want any or not - one reason I read some infertility blogs is because anyone who has to go to lengths to acquire children is bound to have some thoughts about why she wants them! I'm hoping that something you or one of your blog compatriots says will strike me as my truth.

I live in Seattle, Washington, USA. And I generally don't comment because I know nearly nothing about infertility, losing a child, or raising a child. Now, if you wanted to talk about going to school or cooking or rain, I would have something to add.

Sorry about the ALL CAPS faux pas earlier- I was trying to distinguish answers from questions- didn't realize how totally annoying it is until I went back to read it.

1. What do we have in common? Infertility-2 yrs TTC #2 and motherhood, DS is 3.

2. How did you find me? Through Julie

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t? No, I rarely have anything useful to say!

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? The pictures of those gorgous twins!

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Massachusetts
8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Cuddle your babies as much as possible!

Delurking to say I adore you. Not sure we have much in common other than that we are both women and moms. I found you through A Little Pregnant who I found after a miscarriage (my third in almost as many months). Though I was never official diagnosed with a fertility problem my boys are 14 years apart. Since I already had a son, I never sought assistance with getting pregnant and had pretty much figured I couldn’t get pregnant when I had a string of pregnancies in 2003 that ended in miscarriage. Jan 2004 I found out I was pregnant again and this one stuck. I had my son in October (come to my site and be bombarded with his pictures). I don’t comment because I suck. Always afraid to say the wrong thing and actually don’t feel witty enough. Silly huh? I love your blog. I love how you write, your honesty, your willingness to share your life. The pictures of your babies are beautiful. I wouldn’t change a thing about your topics. No assvice or tips here. I think you are doing an amazing job. Just a request. ..I want to be considered cool enough to use v instead of very. Oh, I'm from Fairfax Virginia...just outside Wash DC.

1. What do we have in common?
IF.

2. How did you find me?
Through Grrl I think.

3. Do you comment?
Occasionally.

4. What do you enjoy?
Your honesty. And a glimpse at life in SA.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
Whatever strikes your fancy works for me.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Nothing.

7. Where are you from?
California via New Zealand and New Jersey. Now back in Cali and settled in Los Angeles.

8. Any suggestions?
None! Just keep being you and sharing all of this with us.

xxoo

1. What do we have in common?
Wanting to be a mother

2. How did you find me?
suburban bliss --> Chez Miscarriage --> you

3. Do you comment?
Very occasionally. I often feel it's all been said. I say something on other blogs when I'm outraged but you never outrage me.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
The way you write with humour and tenderness about horrible things. The way you tell it like it is and don't worry about the consequences.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
What it feels like when you finally get to hold your child(ren).

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Nothing. I love that I (feel like) I get a real insight into your life.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
London, U.K.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Remember that you are gorgeous and divine. I wish I could persuade myself of the same thing.

1. What do we have in common?
Motherhood

2. How did you find me?
Through Julie, I think.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
I don't usually comment (I think this may be my first here actually) because the times I feel inspired to, are generally the times where it's better to keep my mouth shut. I have very strong opinions on a few specific things (the circ debate anyone?) and I don't want to offend you.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
EVERYTHING! Having gone through pseudo-infertility I can kind of relate to the pain you've been through, being a mother I can definitely relate to what you're going through, and I just love the humor and honesty in your posts.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
Well, baby pictures are always good (and those are some cute babies you have!).

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Absolutely nothing.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
If I tell you, you have to promise not to judge me :) *whispers* Oklahoma. BUt I'm trying to get out, I promise! lol

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Well, I do adore you, so I won't give any assvice. You're doing a fantastic job. Thanks for the opportunity to tell you so!

1. In common- infertility connections; twins (I nannied for twins from newborn- 18 months)
2. Found you- through a reference on the Australian Essential Baby forums, at a time when I spent most of my hours searching for info on getting pregnant (am now 27 weeks).
3. Comment- generally no, am unaccountably paranoid and protective of myself in cyberland
4. Enjoyable blog aspects- your honesty, photos of your family, insight into the day to day life of someone on the other side of the world, links to other blogs I now love (the whole of your vagina posse, plus Tess)
5, 6, 8- please don't change anything. Just keep it up.
7. From- Adelaide, Australia

1.Motherhood- I have a 15 month old boy
2. Found you through indigo girl(who I found through Iparenting)
3.No I don't comment. In fact this is my very first blog comment ever! Why-I don't usually have the time and someone else has always said what I was going to so I don't want to make you have to read the same comment yet again.
4. I love your honesty
5. I am totally fascinated by other cultures so maybe more posts about the way things are done differently there
6.If you shut up about anything then your blog wouldn't be so great.
7.From Ohio,USA however my husband is in the Air Force so we move frequently though we are now stationed in OH
8.Assvice- Many of the things you seem to be worried about now will work out on their own. Don't stress over spoiling, schedules, habits etc. They are too little to be doing anything they have rationalized. NOTHING they do now will be the same in a month, much less 6. In the moment it feels like if you don't do the "right" thing right now your baby will never get it "right" but that is so not true. The first few months are all about survival. Once they can go longer periods between feeds and sleep longer stretches(for US it was around 3 months but every baby is different)then you can start working them toward a schedule. For us it is more about routines and that helps the baby know what to expect next even if it is not always at the same time. Ex. snack,diaper change,book, soft music, sleep could happen at 8pm or 12pm but he knows when that happens it is time to sleep.
Sorry I wrote so much maybe I should comment more.

1. Mommy to a preemie (32w), just 2 weeks younger than your babes
2. Julie
3. Um, sometimes.. a bit scared to because I don't know much abot infertility and don't want to be stupid assvice giving person
4. All! Especially momminess
5. & 6. Enjoy it all
7. Honolulu, Hawaii
8. You're doing great, and tell yourself that 10x or more per day :)

1. Being gorgeous and divine??
2. Thru "a little pregnant"
3. Once maybe...i'm shy hehe
4. Everything
5. Love your blog the way it is!
6. Nothing
7. Small Country town in New South Wales, Australia
8. Nup

. We are thinking about starting a family. Therefore, all that I can read about fertility, pregnancy and motherhood is helping me get closer to deciding when.

2. I found you through dooce.com. It has been a while. I think there was a link to Grl's site. From there I entered the infertility blogosphere. Now I read you, julie, Grrl and Cecily

3. I don't comment. I don't know why I lurk. I am just a shy person. Therefore, I don't speak up much.

4. I love it all!!! I enjoy your candid conversations. I enjoy hearing of the struggles that you are having. I know that sounds weird. But, if someone doesn't talk about the struggles that they are having as a first time mother, how will other first time mother's learn?

5. and 6. I wouldn't change anythign.

7. I am from a city near Madison, Wisconsin

8. Keep telling it like it is.

I'm 26 and the only thing we have in common is that I am also gorgeous and divine. Don't have any kids or problems with infertility, not planning kids until about 2007 or 2008.
I live in Sydney, Australia, with my boyfriend. Wish we had some cats and dogs, maybe a miniature pony, but we can't, we live in a flat.
I read your blog because I like reading about other peope's lives, especially when they're honest and funny.

1. All of the above - Infertility (3 years of trying, 1 ectopic, 1 laparascopy and lost tube when the methotrexate didn't work, 5 IUI's, 1 miscarriage, a second ectopic in the remaining tube, 1 IVF), motherhood (the IVF worked and I now have a 7 week old son), and being gorgeous and divine (at least on some days)

2. Through Karen's site...and a happy day that was! I had just learned about blogs, was losing my mind through the infertility process, and found a group of smart, funny, powerful women with incredible stories to tell and things to say...

3. I just started commenting recently...don't know why it took me so long...

4. All of it - but primarily your honesty and ability to get to the heart of so many issues with wisdom and humour combined. Lately I have been loving the stories of your adapting to motherhood because I am just a few weeks behind you and you always ask the questions I want answers to...

5. I can't come up with an answer here - in fact the magic of your blog is that it is so real that I wouldn't want to answer here...

6. Nada, niente, nothing!

7. Toronto, Ontario, Canada

8. Just adorations....

1. I am the mother of a 3 year old girl. I was diagnosed as infertile, but got incredibly lucky and got pregnant with an FSH of 68. I am, of course, gorgeous and divine like all your readers

2. I don't remember - must have been surfing around at work (wasting time) and stumbled on your site. I like how your write, and I just had to know how it would all turn out

3. I comment once in a while - usually assvice.

4. You are funny, and a compelling writer. We share the same viewpoint on most things you write about I wish I had read what you've written about being a new mom when I was a new mom - your honest appraisal would have helped me.

5. Keep doing what you are doing

6. Nothing

7. I am from the Boston areai in Massachusetts, USA. I grew up in the area, moved around quite a bit in my early 20's and and have been living here for the last 10 years

8. Keep doing what you are doing, listen to your heat and your instincts

1. We have infertility, motherhood and great looks in common! Do not forget our kick ass sense of humors!!!

2. Through other IF blogs-You are a celebrity!

3. Occasionally-depends if I think you will read my 1000th comment, since you are so popular and all...

4. You are strong, brave and honest! Three key personalities I admire in you!

5. I think you are hitting the nail precisely on the head! I love reading your blog!

6. Being a good mother-You are an excellent mother and I hope you will realize it soon! You will... when Adam and Kate can talk. :o)

7. Houston, Texas, USA

8. You and Julie's IM series crack me up! We need more of those! Comic relief at its BEST! Keep up the good work and Congrats to you (again!)!

Holy Crap! There sure are a lot of responses! Anyway, here are my answers:

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

~Infertility, being gorgeous and divine

2. How did you find me?

~Through Julie's blog, A Little Pregnant

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

~Yes, I do, and I could never keep my mouth shut

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

~I like all of it. You have a great sense of humor. You are a very smart, well informed woman in so many areas. And of course I love the pics. :o)

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? ~n/a

6. What do you wish I would shut up about? ~n/a

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

~San Francisco, CA, USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

~I can only give you adorations because there is nothing you could do to improve your blog. It is awesome the way it is. But of course you knew that. ;o)

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?
Infertility and finally, motherhood after years of losses and infertility.

2. How did you find me?
Through IVF Connections.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
No, don't comment. Why not? Laziness and plus everyone else has usually said what I want to say - will comment in future.
4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
Your directness and your courage in posting the good with the bad. You're an inspiration to a lot of people.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
Happy the way it is.
6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Not a damn thing.
7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Sydney, Australia.
8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
My "arsevice" - keep your sense of humour - sometimes I want to cry or scream or shout when my son does something but if I can turn it around and laugh, it's no problem.

1. What do we have in common?
Brown hair, tattoos, and being divine!

2. How did you find me?
Link jumping to A Little Pregnant.

3. Do you comment?
I think I have twice, but I check on you pretty much daily.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
I just really enjoy your voice and your honest.

I'm from Georgia, US.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
One breath at a time is an acceptable plan.

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

All of the above (including loss of a son at 20 weeks and my daughter is 7 weeks old, so we were pregnant together, more or less)

2. How did you find me?

Through Julie's blog

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

Sometimes...depends on if I have anything to say.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

I am currently enjoying the parenting stuff. Newborns are damn hard! It's the cuteness though that saves them. It's nice to know you aren't the only one with these feelings!

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

I'd like to know about your interests...music, movies, etc.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Being a "bad" mom...you so aren't!!
Besides...I feel the same way about so many things, that it would make me a bad mom, too ;)

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Four Oaks, North Carolina, USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

I'm slogging through the trenches right along with you right now, but I have found that when my little girl is crying and inconsolable, the vent/exhaust fan in the bathroom calms her right down. I guess white noise does help.

Most of all (and I keep telling myself this, too): Enjoy the moment because before you know it they'll be grown!

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above? motherhood and being gorgeos and divine (of course)

2. How did you find me? TLOL

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t? Sometimes!

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? Love the photos and the sense of humour (note the correctly used "U")

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? Hmmm, like to find out more about life in S.A

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Hmmm, nothing it's your blog write what you want.
7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Australia - god's own country!
8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Nope, there are 281 people ahead of me so I doubt you'll get this far....

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?
well there is the IVF and I’m tall (I’m assuming from your pictures that you’re tall)but I wish I had your thighs.

2. How did you find me?
You can blame Julie, Julie has been my gateway drug

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
I use to comment more often, you know I was one of those fresh into IVF and wanting to learn, to belong, types at the time. Now I’ve mellowed out a bit and besides usually when I get around to reading and commenting everyone has already said everything I wanted to say and has done it so much better.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
Everything but most especially I love that you post nearly everyday. I love that you tell it like it is and that you have the power to make me laugh and cry.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
I guess I’m easy, just about anything works for me.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
nada

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
From the beach at Waikiki (well actually the hills above it) but yes Honolulu, Hawaii.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
I don’t have kids yet but I’ve been around a ton of them so my bit of assvice is one I’m sure you’ve heard – just go with the flow you are the single best person (well including Marko and others close on the inside) to know what Kate and Adam need – you are a great Mommie!

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?
Infertility, losses, motherhood

2. How did you find me?
A link from Julie

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
Sometimes, but not very often.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
I enjoy knowing that i wasn't the only one to think some of the things you have written about. Its good to know I am part of a communal crazy.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
I like all of them.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Nothing.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Memphis, TN USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
One thing I really regret was being immovable by fear when T was a little bitty. Its understandable, but I hate that i was. You seem to be handling it well though so goodonya! The other thing is I think it is truly hard to be a bad parent, you have to work on it. All the superficial choices, FF, BF, CIO AP'ing it, those just make you a parent, not good or bad. A bad parent takes a lot of work and I think most of us do pretty good and we all need to pat ourselves on the back for it.

Hello gorgeous
Wow you're a popular gal! 278 replies and counting.... Understandable though as your blog makes for interesting, funny and captivating reading. Did you ever know you had such a following? How's that for an ego booster!
Anyway, to answer your questions:
1. What do we have in common?
Motherhood and working on the gorgeous and devine (still have to believe it myself)
2. How did you find me?
I've followed your journey into motherhood since TLOL.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
I comment occassionally. You get so many comments that I don't always feel I've got anything to add really.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
The infinite joy shining through in your posts about Adam and Kate. The raw honesty in your posts. You say it like it is, I really appreciate that. Your ability to make me smile/sense of humour.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
You can talk about anything you like. It's your blog! don't tell me you're going commercial? *freaking

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Nothing

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
I'm a Dutchy living in Wellington, New Zealand
8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Follow your instincts. Stuff the books and so called experts. They only expert on your children is YOU.

With love, Marieke

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?
Motherhood, gorgeous and divine (and I'm married to a Marko)

2. How did you find me? Chez Miscarriage, I think?

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
Don't comment, you get so many good ones as it is. Afraid of giving assvice, too.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
Love your honesty and humor. Also enjoy seeing how people live in other parts of the world.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
You. Marriage. Work. Your designer boobs.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Nothing.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Northern California

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Adorations, I suppose -- you are so very funny, thanks for keeping up your blog.

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

We have infertility in common, though I am now the mother of four. (Adopted twins--we also have twins in common, though mine are almost 12, and two surprise babies conceived though the doctors said it was unlikely. Those kids are 7 and 2.5 years.)

2. How did you find me?

Through Chez Miscarriage somehow.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

No. Because there are already so many who do comment--286 in line before me today.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

I like your honesty and your writing.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

?? Just keep talking about your life.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Nothing.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Pacific Northwest, United States.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

No.

Holy cripes, I'm commenter number 287 or something! Not that you need even one more response, but hey, you asked! Plus, I've had a few drinks, and I'm feeling talkative!

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

We have in common infertility and pg. loss, sadly!

2. How did you find me?

I've been posting on IVF Connections for a few years, and I'd lurk on the Vets board before I was a full-fledged vet, and saw the links to your blog.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

I comment when I see you post something about complete morons saying idiotic things to you. I commented when you gave birth. Mostly I just lurk, read your blog and then read the bunch of other blogs linked from Julie's blog.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

Enjoy your honesty. Your humor. And mostly, I AM SO FREAKING HAPPY YOU HAVE CHILDREN! So happy for you!

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

Huh? This is about you & your family, I'm content to read it as is!

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Well, don't "shut up" about it, but don't feel that you are ungrateful if you talk about how hard parenting is. YOu have valid feelings, and you should post what you want, what you're feeling!

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

I live in Fairfax, Virginia, USA. Grew up in New York, about an hour north of "The City".

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Nope! No assvice, you're doing great!

Erica

1. What do we have in common?
I have a daughter @ home, a daughter in heaven, and a daughter slow cooking in the womb until July.
2. How did you find me?
blog hopped onto alittlepregnant and then hopped some more

3. Do you comment? yup - just now
4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? Well you make me laugh my butt off and you've helped bring back the word "asshole" in to my everyday vocab.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

I love you just the way you are

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Nadda
7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

N. Omaha, Nebraska

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
1.Work the work " cocktart " into a posting somewhere - it's one of my personal fav's.
2.Savor every second of the baby stage - they get big so fast and then before you know it you're standing there in the kitchen a month before they turn 2 and start crying like a idiot when you realize " Holy shit!! When did you get so fucking old, kid"
Ok probably don't say fuck. When they get around 2 they start repeating every fucking
thing they hear. Although, it is quite funny when you're 2 yr old drops an " F " bomb at Sunday dinner with the grandparents.

1. What do we have in common? Motherhood - I have a 3 year old son. I'm currently experiencing problems falling pregnant again.

2. How did you find me? Another blog, i think.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t? No, I've often wanted to but never have.
Reasons - it's already been said or Doubts about my competency to give advice or Doubts about what I'm doing with my life/child raising, so how can I comment on someone elses.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? Your humour and honesty. Your ability to convey an emotion.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? It's your blog, you're driving!!

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
See above. If I didn't like it, I wouldn't read it.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Sydney, Australia

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
I love reading your blog - at different times (and sometimes at the same time)it's made me laugh, cry and applaud!!

1. What do we have in common?

Hmmm...I'll have to go with "Gorgeous and Devine" ;-)


2. How did you find me?

A friend from South Africa mentioned she was reading your blog and thought you were worth sharing with everyone she knew. She was right.


3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

I don't, no - most people beat me to it, and I see little point in bogging you down with repeats


4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

I love the way you write..and your sense of humour


5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

Happy with what you share.


6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Nothing at all


7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

I'm from Glasgow, Scotland


8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

None from me - other than politely begging for more photos ;-) *Please*

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?
None of the above, no, wait, the gorgeous and divine part.
2. How did you find me?
I really do not remember, but i think it was thru hashai.com and then a few more clics
3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
Not really, i think i do not have an important thing to say
4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
the whole thing
5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
SEX!! kidding, sort of. and ways to kill trolls... slowly
6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
nothing really
7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
The largest city in the world: Mexico city.
8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
I LUV You, and i'm using the world "naf" a lot. I can criticize someone without them knowing which is great. Naf in spanish="naco".

1. Infertility
2. A link from the Vagina Posse.
3. Nope, a lurker.
4. Enjoy it all!
5. See #4
7. Connecticut, USA
9. Keep it as is, love it all; love you and Marco & the babies!

What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above? I am a mother of 3. 2 planned, one whoopsie who has turned our life upside down. Despite not having to battle infertility, I find myself with similar neuroses...always fearing what might be. No matter how you get to be a parent, I find there is always this constant nagging, this constant fear of losing what is most precious.

2. How did you find me? Through another blog

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t? I have never commented on your blog. I have commented only twice on other blogs, despite 1 full year of reading blogs. I don't usually comment because sometimes blog comment sections feel very clique-y. I also find that it takes so much time to compose what I want to say so that it doesn't sound wrong, that I'd just rather press delete and carry on. The only reason I am commenting now is because of the 3rd glass of wine I had tonight, after an incredibly stressful weekend.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? Your truthfulness. I live in a community where being the "best parent" seems to be about indulging your child the most. Our parenting is about making our family work for us. Not about making our life revolve around our kids. That's not to say that we don't make huge sacrifices for our kids; it's just that we don't want them to feel like they are the center of the earth. Because, really, when it comes down to the nitty gritty, we are ALL just a speck on the ass of this earth.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? haven't thought about that

6. What do you wish I would shut up about? Well, not that I'd wish you'd shut up about it, but I wish there were more blogs out there (or I wish i could find them) about moms who have worked hard to find the balance between work and home life, without succumbing to the "my kids rule my life because I feel guilty because I work" mentality. There MUST be people out there who do a little bit of what they have to (work outside the home), a little bit of what they hate, and a little bit of what they love, without feeling like an asshole for doing it...

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from? I am from Northampton, Massachusetts, a very liberaly community. We are probably considered pretty conservative here, even though we support gay marriage, hate George Bush and the war in Iraq, and think Michael Jackson is a FREAK (not someone with an alternative lifestyle!)

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Only to keep parenting your kids based on what feels right to you. I spent so much time feeling inadequate as a parent, based on the standards of those around me. Until, one day, I realized I COULDN"T FUCKING STAND THE KIDS OF THOSE AROUND ME. I like my kids. They may be a pain in the ass sometimes, but they are actually pretty fucking cool kids. Despite me. i think it was one of their babysitters that made them the way they are.

Don’t worry, I am not going to change

1. Infertility
2. From IVF connections - vet board, many lifetimes ago!
3. No, no time usually.
4. Like all aspects, esp. the really honest posts about how hard it is rearing newborns.
5. Wouldn't change a thing.
6. nothing - keep "talking"
7. Singapore
8. Just keep being you and honest.

1. What do we have in common? We're both witty, analytical, and (probably) hyperverbal. We both like to analyze things to get to the heart of the matter, whether good or bad. We both like to share our public struggles, because then they cease to hold the same kind of power over us.

2. How did you find me? I think through Julie's blog.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t? Yes, when I have something (I consider) interesting to say! And thank you sometimes for responding to my comments - it's like receiving an email from a celebrity! :)

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? All. I especially enjoy pictures of the South African landscape. It's interesting to see what the non-tourist areas of other places look like.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? Like 'em as they are!

6. What do you wish I would shut up about? Nothing.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Southern California, near Los Angeles, United States.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice? Nope.

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?
Motherhood. My daughter was born just a few weeks before Kate and Adam.

2. How did you find me?
I read your comments at Julie's site, and thought your were fantastic, so I decided to read your blog. I've been hooked since.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
Once or twice. I'm shy, even around strangers that I'll probably never meet "in real life."

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
All of it. I love your honesty.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?


6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Nothing

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Spokane, WA USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
What happened to the pictures of you and the family at your sister's wedding that you promised! I'd love to see more pictures of you and Marko.

OH..OK you got me to delurk

1. What do we have in common? 4 year of infertility, finally a mom through IVF to a baby girl 6 months old, and gorgeous and divine...ofcourse


2. How did you find me? Was reading IVFconnection, IVF veteran board for years..and in there they mentioned that you had started to blog...

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t? NOOOO...nothing witty or funny to say...

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
Currently, the trials of of being a new mom...and I thought I was the only one in the world who felt like that, depress and overwhelm...

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? Nothing specific what you are blogging about is fine.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
not one damn thing...want more pictures of the babes in different activities..
7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Bangkok, Thailand...

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Nope...

1. Loss of a child (I just know all the boys, mine, yours, Cecily's, etc are together somewhere...)

2. I think through Julia's blog.

3.I very rarely comment, I'm often late in reading an entry and find that other have usually said what I wanted to say, and usually have said it better anyway.

Although I did send you an email telling you I thought about you all the time and you were kind enough to write back and not insinuate that I'm insane, which was v v nice!

4. Love the blog!

5. Don't change a thing.

6. Nothing.

7. Near Orlando, Florida (Let me know when you're ready to take the tots to Disney!)

8. As far as assvice, I stand by the swaddle. Get a sheet or some lightweight material 40 inches by 40 inches and try wrapping them really, really tight. I also use a white noise machine at night. It works, I swear!

The comments to this entry are closed.

Adgator



  • Medsitters Au pairs

More Ads


| More

Alltop



Bloggy Stuff


  • Living and Loving


  • SA Blog Awards Badge




  • Featured in Alltop


  • Page copy protected against web site content infringement by Copyscape


  • RSS Feed
Blog powered by Typepad
This is the Reviews Design