So, tell me about YOU….

Here we are, oralling on and on about me, and I know nothing about you. How very self-centred of me.

When I started this blog, it was an outlet for my pain over losing Ben and Luke, and my fear in doing another cycle.  Then it became a journal of sorts about my scary pregnancy.  Lately it has become a series of really helpful conversations with some very fascinating women (and a few men).  And Mollie.  Who fits neither category. 

I’ve bared my soul (and my underpants) to you; I’d like to know what turns you on.  Well, besides me in my underpants, which frankly, would turn any one on, lets be honest.

So, tell me more about you: 

Lurkers, it’s time to delurk. I want to know whom I am speaking to.

(answer all, some, none, in bullet point form, essay answers, whatever.  If you don’t want to put your name, that’s fine.  Just put ‘anon’ and your email as anon@anon)

1. What do we have in common?  Infertility?  Motherhood?  Being gorgeous and divine?  All of the above?

2. How did you find me?

3. Do you comment?  If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from.  Where are you from?

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Don’t worry, I am not going to change the nature of my blog in order to suit certain tastes, I am still writing for myself and about my life.  However I am really interested in whom I am speaking to, how on earth you found me, and what you think.  The whole ‘world as a global village’ thing is so great, especially for me living in Africa.  The Internet has a particularly powerful significance here.

All entries will entered into a draw and the lucky winner will win a weekend away with me.  Second prize is two weekends away with Julie.  Third prize, a month away with Mollie.

Looking forward to finding out who lives in my computer.

 

Comments

[Charmaine]

1. What do we have in common?

Infertility, losses :(

2. How did you find me?

From back in the day at TLOL buddies :)

3. Do you comment? Yes, occasionally

thanks! yw
4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

All of it, I look forward to it every day.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

You are always entertaining T, I wouldn't change anything about you at all.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

see above

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

N. Royalton, Ohio USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Keep the pictures coming & keep doing what you do! I love you my dear friend, all these miles away and I feel like I know you, that's what is great about you. I have followed all of your hardships and have been lucky to see you blessed finally with Kate and Adam. 2 healthy babies :)
I love success stories, guess I was one of the unusual IF people that did find happiness feeling we all suffered so badly.
Love you T.

[Abby]

There's no way that I can possibly be 1st! Is there...?
1. All of the above, of course! I have a 6 yo daughter, and it took us about 2 years to get pregnant with her (with the help of an infertility center).
2. Can't remember. Possibly on some one else's blog roll. I was looking for infertility blogs (obviously, it never really goes away).
3. Yes, on and off.
4.Your honesty and your humor.
5. Don't know. I'll think about that one.
6. Nothing so far.
7. New York City
8. I sent you an email already, about post natal depression. That's my assvice for the year!

[Jen-Earthchild]

Hey T...I am always here.

I don't always comment. I do when I can. I have no assvice to give on the childrearing as I am not yet a mom. Being a nanny for years and years I have tons of experience but I don't always feel it appropriate to give assvice b/c I get the "how the fuck do you know, you are not a mom" look from people.

I found you at TLOL and fell in love with you as anyone with half a brain cell in there head will do! We have tons in common...our tough chic tude with the sensitive core is what really makes us alike though.

I am from NY and would like to see more pics of you in your underwear in your blog LOL....

You are a wonderful writer, a wonderful friend, a wonderful mother, and a wonderful infertility sister.....

Love you T!!!

[melissa]

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?
Gorgeous and divine

2. How did you find me?
Through alittlepregnant.com

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
No, I don't generally comment. I don't have children, so I don't have any experience with a lot of the topics that you cover.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
You are smart and funny, which I admire.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
I wouldn't want you to change a thing.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Ditto number 5

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Columbia, Missouri, USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
I read all of the Vagina Posse blogs and I enjoy them a great deal. You are all corageous, strong, funny women with fascinating stories.

[K]

1. I'm not sure if we have infertility in common yet. Six months of trying doesn't put me there. But I am a mother, like you.

2. Link from Julie's site. I figured, "If Julie thinks she's good people, she must be."

3. I don't comment. And I generally don't read the comments. I just read the blog.

4. Your honesty. Like your last post about being afraid to buy clothes for next season. I have that insane, morbid fear with our son, and we didn't go through 1/20th of what you did to get him here.

5. Write about what you want. Don't tailor to me.

6. see above

7. Minneapolis, Minnesota

8. Try your best to enjoy these first few months (even though I found it hard as hell). It'll be gone so soon.

[Ellen]

1. Infertility (and now motherhood--I was due a week after you), but I didn't go through nearly what you went through (or a great number of your other readers) so sometomes I don't feel like I'm in the position to comment.

2. The blog roll at A Little Pregnant.

3. Yes, I do comment, depending on the topic (see answer to question #1.)

4. I enjoy your honesty, humor and wacky British/South African slang. ("nappies"? what's up with that?)

5. Well, now that we're both experiencing the joys and sometimes stinkiness of motherhood, I have greatly appreciated your desperate questions concerning sleep, feeding and such. I have the exact same questions, and have been thankful for everyone's assvice to you.

6. Not sure. Sometimes I get sick of it when people go on a tirade against trolls (this is not really directed at your blog, just blogs in general.) I'd rather just ignore the trolls and they usually go away.

7. Arkansas (fire away with the hillbilly and Clinton jokes.)

8. I was going to tell you that I really like the book, The Baby Whisperer, and I feel like I've read 'em all. You might check that one out. I find myself referencing it a lot.

[Erin]

1. What do we have in common?
Being absolutely gorgeous and diving

2. How did you find me?
You know, I have no idea

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
Well, I don't like giving advice, I don't want to be endlessly saying, "Yay, right on!", and I'm shy. No, really.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? Absolutely all of it.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? Once you actually have time to spend for yourself ... read anything good lately? Absolutely love/hate a movie/tv show/band?

6. What do you wish I would shut up about? Nothing!

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from? Texas.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice? You know, the word "asshole" has become a lot more prominent in my vocab since visiting this site regularly.

[Amanda]

- What do we have in common?
IF, multiple failed IVF cycles

- How did you find me?
IVF-C, I think.

- Do you comment?
Sometimes. More during the cycling days.

-What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
Your ability to put your feelings and thoughts about infertility into words that we all can idenitify with.

- Where are you from?
Houston, Texas

- Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Hell no. No assvice here.

[Anyabeth]

1. Infertility (though I am just starting out and have not earned my stripes). Being gorgeous and divine.

2. Chez Miscarriage. I just love anyone that can call each other assholes while they are in pain. That is love.

3. I don't comment, I don't really have anything to offer, not even assvice.

4. Your humor. The laughing at what is terrible, what else can you do?

5. Whatever helps you get through this.

6. The shit things people say to you. Not because you shouldn't be pissed but because I wish they would shut it.

7. Seattle, WA

8. You and Marko are good parents. Keep telling yourself that. Tattoo it on your forehead if you have to.

[PumpkinMama]

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?
-Motherhood and being G&D

2. How did you find me?
-blog to blog to blog, can't remember the details

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
-I think I may have commented once

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
-your honesty, your stories and your writing style

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
-I like what we talk about!

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
-hmmmm, nothing?

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
-Massachusetts, USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
-Mothering Mantra: "whatever works" You're almost to the reward stage - it gets so much better as they get older. Keep up the good work.

[terri c]

1. Gorgeous and divine altho not so much of either as you. 2. From Julia S.'s blog 3. Yes 4. The good writing!!! 5. All of it 6. Change nothing 7. Colorado USA 8. No assvice today. Try me tomorrow

[Moxie]

Ooh. I'll play.

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

Motherhood and being gorgeous and divine.

2. How did you find me?

Through Grrl, probably, or Julie. I started reading them to educate myself because my SIL and friend were going through IVF and I wanted to know about it so I could be there for them.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

I just can't help commenting.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

The full-out honesty of it, and the window into South African life.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

Me. No, seriously, I like having it be "dealer's choice" and seeing what you're thinking about.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

How bad a mother you are. I know we all feel that way at this stage in the game, but maybe you could pretend once in awhile here for your adoring fans.:)

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

NYC

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

My favorite baby/kid books: Playful Parenting by Laurence Cohen, Operating Instructions by Anne Lamott, The Wonder Weeks by Hetty Vanderijt and Frans Plooij, and Andi Buchanan's Mother Shock. Least favs: Baby Whisperer, Babywise, and any other book that tells you there's only one right way to raise your kids.

Oh, and have you been getting any massages since the kids were born? Your back and shoulders are taking a hell of a beating at this stage. You should, for your own health, get a massage or two in the next few weeks just to work out the crunches or you could end up with nasty back pain in the next few months. Throw in a pedicure while you're at it, too.

[Tracey Dixon]

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

Infertility, loss, gorgeous and divine

2. How did you find me? The Labor of Love spin-off site, Belly Forever

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

I do occasionally.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

I enjoy the unabashed honesty.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

It's your blog, my friend. It is just my honor to read it.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Nothing at all... again, this is your blog.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

I live in the province of Alberta, in the country of Canada

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

I think you are awesome. I hope I can be as tenacious with my infertility and conquer it as you did.

xxoo

tracey

[Jean]

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?
Motherhood, Twins, Sleep deprivation

2. How did you find me?
A link from another blog, can't remember which

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
Rarely, by the time I've read its usually already been said and always in a more eloquent/witty way than I would have managed so I erm....don't

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
Stuff about the babes (takes me back) and well all of it really, your warped sense of humour appeals to me!

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
Nuclear war,the level of the european money markets? no? I'm happy just to listen, honest
6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Your hot weather!!
7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
The North East coast of England, 300yrds from the North Sea!! (see above!)

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Erm.... wear clean underware, say please and thankyou, never take the last biscuit, don't fart in public unless you can blame it on the dog and lastly remember small children have *very* loud voices and no sense of occasion!!
xx

[Shannon T]

1. IF & losses

2. I don't remember but thank God I did.

3. No, I don't comment. I found this site after my first misccarriage. It was too painful and raw. This and a few other blogs helped me make it through. Sometimes day by day. I guess I just got in the habit of not responding.

4. I love all of it. I really love the pictures of the babies. You feel like a friend even though I've never commented. If a subject is too hard to handle that day, I skip it and go back when I am ready.

5. See above

6. Nothing

7. Rochester Hills, MI USA

8. No assvice, just thanks for being so open and honest. You have made me laugh on days that I thought I wouldn't be able to even get out of bed. Thank you.

[Rose]

1. What do we have in common?
Being gorgeous and divine.

2. How did you find me?
Through grrl's blog. I think that she used to have the VP links. If not, the Julie.

3. Do you comment?
Yup, though less lately. I do need to email you though.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
All of it. I am a sucker for all things Tertia.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
What you want them to be about. I honestly have never thought before about what you should write about.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Nada.

7. Where are you from?
Southern California.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
I was going to reply to your previous post about the babes crying but I will do it here. I am so impressed with your knowing your instincts about what your babies are ready for and then following them. I havent read the comments on that post because I am afraid that I will find thing unsupportive of you in this sentiment and that makes me want to vomit. So, good for you Tertia.

And a weekend away with you would rock.

[Kathy]

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above? not much -- I'm older, not infertile, parent of one singleton child (now out of college)

2. How did you find me? I read in someone's blog that "Julie had her baby, go here for details" and the link brought me here. (of course I also had no idea who Julie was either!)

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t? Not often, but I think of long WONDERFUL extremely helpful pieces of advice that never get written! I don't comment more often mostly because by the time I get here, you have lots of comments, and I have nothing new to add!

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? Your honesty about your feelings, your willingness to take advice, and of course pictures of the babes.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? No preference - write whatever strikes your mood.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about? um - nothing.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from? Tustin, California (this is near Disneyland)

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice? Well, at my very first visit to the ped all those years ago, he told me: "Whatever you're doing, keep doing it, she's developing beautifully." and I would same the same to you (just in plural.)

[Nicole]

How fun... here goes

1. What do we have in common?
Motherhood, and I like to think our sense of humor. Also a difficult pregnancy.

2. How did you find me?
A little pregnant.

3. Do you comment?
I have occasionally, but it's hard to spend quality time at the computer with all the kids here. But I do love you.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
Your sense of humor and honesty.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
Don't change a thing!!

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Hmm, nothing so far!

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
I am from Yakima, Washington.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
You ARE gorgeous and divine. Please never go away.

[Lily]

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

I had two miscarriages before this, my third and so far successful pregnancy.

2. How did you find me?
I found grrls blog somehow when I was still ttc this pregnancy and through that found you and many others. I read your whole blog start to finish when I found it, and now I check it every day.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

Yes, I comment, when I have something good to say.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
I like you. You're funny, smart, and you have an interesting life. Sometimes too interesting, of course, but I enjoy reading about the babies, about what it's like to be a new mother, especially since I will be one myself, God willing, in a few months. I also like to hear about Africa.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
Actually I would LOVE to hear more about living in Africa. I think it's so interesting. And I would literally pay five dollars to hear an audio clip of your voice so I could hear the accent.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
I don't wish you would shut up about it, but I wish you would believe that you are really a great mother. I think deep down you must know it. Don't beat yourself up so much. Don't hold yourself up to some imaginary measuring stick of mothering- there isn't one, and if there were, you'd be at the top anyways.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Rhode Island. USA. Smallest state in the country. (and it's not actually an island)

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

The things that you've been through would have made a lot of people into a cold, bitter shell of themselves. I think you made a choice not to let that happen. I respect that more than anything. I know that whatever happens to me I can get through it, because you did. And I also want you to know, in a very non-stalker type way, I care about what happens to you and your babies, and I really wish your family the best. You deserve it.

[Judy]

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

All of the above - I have a 5 year old and a 5 month old, both "gifts" so to speak and the result of many moons of "trying" - I have also lost one as well.

2. How did you find me?

I think you were a link from someone else's page - can't quite recall (lack of sleep does that to you!)

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

I haven't commented yet - there are sooooo many people commenting that I pretty much just let everyone else say what is said (plus, I've only been lurking here for about a month now)

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

I LOVE your pics of the kids - they are adorable! Keep em coming!

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

I think you are doing a terrific job as it is.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Not a thing!

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

United States - TEXAS

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

I'm buttoning my lip as I tend to suffer from diahrrea of the mouth most waking hours. Don't want it to leak into my keyboard!

[Anna]

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

All of the above, except Motherhood (yet).

2. How did you find me?

I think I linked over from Julie's blog but I don't remember how I found her.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

Occasionally, but I usually have no helpful assvice to provide. I've yet to achieve a pregnancy, but I'm doing my first (and hopefully only) donor egg cycle in April.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

You are funny, insightful, and honest. I love watching your journey from the sidelines and cheering you on. You give me hope.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

Just more pictures of your super cute babies ;-)

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

I haven't found anything, yet.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Potomac Falls, Virginia-burb of Washington, DC

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Keep on keepin' on.

[Kate]

1. I'm not sure what we have in common, really. I had 2 early losses and a tidge of infertility (easily cured by surgery), but that pales in comparison to what you've been through. I have a baby that's a few weeks younger than Adam & Kate.

2. I think I found you through Julia's (Here Be Hippogriff) blog.

3. I've commented once or twice.

4. I love everything about your blog- especially how honest you are about how effing hard motherhood is!

7. I'm from Provo, Utah.

[Devon]

1. Well, other than the fact that we're both enamored with babies, nothing. I'm a doula.

2. I found you through a little pregnant.

3. No, mostly because I don't have children of my own and rarely have anything to say that others haven't already said twice! :)

4. I love your attitude!

5. I like them just the way they are

6. Hmm. Nothing.

7. Victoria, BC, Canada. I live in Vancouver, BC, Canada right now.

8. More photos of YOU would be nice! :)

[Denise]

Delurking ... hey, ask and ye shall recieve.

23 y/o Tatar-Russian Floridian Entertainer. I have a BFA (theatre) and I'm wasting it working with computers. I do have the pleasure of working for a pro-sports team as my fun weekend gig. TTC 2 years.

1 - Infertility. Fucking marvelous, eh? So many of us ... I've not yet had a child but I tend to be a spontaneous aborter so who knows (oh, the endo ... I LOVE the endo) :rolleyes: ... Oh, also being totally too much woman for words to describe and having a bit of an attitude.

2 - I found you because Julie seemed to mention you a lot ... I found her just over a year ago when doing a Google search about cervical mucus or vodka or something.

3 - Nope ... I don't comment.

4 - I just enjoy your honesty and candor. I wish all the infertile women I knew IRL would be so open and honest. They always make me feel like a cynical bitch.

5 & 6 - Bah, whatever. What you do is just fine for me. I'm easy.

7 - I live in Tampa, Fl. I'm originally from the former USSR.

8 - No.

:)

[Rayne of Terror]

1. Motherhood - I have a 8 week old son and we recently moved away from long time home so blog moms are my current community.

2. The a link on Transmagriflaw's blog - she's a law student new mom and I'm a law student new mom.

3. I think I commented once on a twin issue b/c I'm an adult twin. The crazy thing is - I met a neighbor I had NEVER met in 3 years living next to each other by clicking thru her comment on your blog and figuring out she lived 3 houses down from my house. We never met until I moved away and then thru a blog originating out of SA! Amazing.

4. I enjoy how you have transformed from a sad, scared, sometimes bitter woman into such a bouncy fun mom.

7. I live in LeRoy, Illinois - which is about 2 1/2 hours south of Chicago.

8. I think ordering Happiest baby will probably benefit Adam alot. But it's a lot easier to learn the techniques if you watch the DVD. I started using the 5 S's in the hospital w/ Henry and it really works. Maybe send Marko out of the DVD and let him know that these techniques are often something dad can do better than mom.

[Sarah V.]

1. Motherhood. I have a son almost 4 months old (he was born one week before Julie's baby, but at term). Oh, and South African background - my father was born there (Johannesburg. Don't know which bit of SA you live in, but if you know the art shop in Jo'burg that used to be called Whippman's - my grandfather founded that.)

2. From the link at Julie's blog.

3. Started commenting for the first time the other day. I was the one who was wittering on and on about CIO on the post where you asked about how to put the babies down drowsy-but-awake, so you're probably really, really wishing by now that I'd just STFU commenting. ;-)

4. I love reading about your experiences of motherhood. I love hearing from someone who's one stage behind me, so to speak, and sharing many of the same experiences - stuff like the whole 'drowsy but awake' thing and the way you've ended up co-sleeping when you never meant to are _so_ familiar from my own experiences! At the same time, because I'm just that couple of months ahead, it makes me realise how much of this I'm actually getting sussed as I go along. I love reading about what it's like to take care of twins, because that's something I find fascinating (at the same time as being glad I'm only taking care of one!) I love the questions you ask - if it's something I know the answer to then I think "Hooray, I've actually learned something about this motherhood gig!" and if it isn't, then I can learn something by reading other people's answers.

5. The bits mentioned in no. 4.

6. Nothing. If there are any bits that are less interesting, I just skim through them.

7. Wow, am I the first person on here from outside the US? I live in Essex, England (was born in Philadelphia, but have lived in England nearly all my life).

8. Just keep writing! I'm really looking forward to further updates on life with the twins.

[anon]

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

Being gorgeous and divine

2. How did you find me?

through Alittlepregnant

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

I've no experience in motherhood so I feel there's no advice I could give. And I'm shy. I tend to just stay in the corner at parties.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

Your sense of humor and your openness. Also though I'm not South African, my fiance is and so I think that's what I find appealing about your blog too.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

Everything you're addressing now is great.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Nothing at all.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

SF east bay, california

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

I think you're a great mom already and that as long as you love your children and let it show, they'll grow up to be great too.

[zarqa]

1. Infertility. A loss. Mine was late term @ 36 weeks.
I'm reasonably gorgeous but far too cynical to be divine.:)

2. I don't quite remember. I ended up on Julie's blog from Bookslut and there I found lots of infertility/losses blogs and perhaps it was there or on the blogroll of the blogs there that I came across yours and it looked like one that is updated often so I started lurking. This is like a week ago, mind you, so I'm still trying to get to know you well enough to comment.

3. See above, I may have commented once? My memory is foggy.

4. You write succinctly about issues that matter to me.

5. Don't know/Haven't been lurking long enough to judge.

6. Not necessarily shut up, because that would defeat the purpose of the blog as a story about a happy ending to infertility...but, as someone who has yet to concieve and carry to term and deliver a live baby, talk of children can sometimes sting a bit. I have to just stop reading when it hurts, yet I still need to hear a positive story every now and then so...I guess my fate is to keep reading.:)

7. I live in Sammamish WA, a suburb of Seattle. I was born in Pakistan, have lived in the States since I was six.

8. :) Keep at it!

PS I just started up a mirror site on Blogger (which I'm linked to here) but my original blog in which there is archived talk about the infertility, the pregnancy and the loss is at http://zarqa.livejournal.com in case you're interested in reading.

[Michelle]

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

Infertility, gorgeous and divine!

2. How did you find me?

from Karen, Naked Ovary

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

Sometimes...Since I don't have children, I don't always know what to say.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

I love your honesty. And some of the words you use. :)

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

No changes, you rock.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

See above.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

I'm from Southeast Missouri, USA.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Keep it up!! I think you are amazing.

[dawna]

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?
losses, motherhood

2. How did you find me?

someone on a loss chatboard talking about blogs.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

More lately, but not much, Being a mother of a singleton and having two stepchildren pales in comparison to having two newborns.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

Everything, really. Love hearing about the babies.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

I enjoy our conversations as they are now.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

And why on earth would anyone want you to shut up? Keep talking!

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Ohio, usa
8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

No tips, no suggestions, assvice: Dread potty training. Dread scrubbing underwear. Its horrid with one, I can't imagine with two, but I hear girls are easier than boys.

[Shinaidy]

1. What do we have in common?  Infertility?  Motherhood?  Being gorgeous and divine?  All of the above?
Infertility, Mulitple IVFs, finally mother to b/g twins (8 months), Wishing I was gorgeous and divine!!

2. How did you find me?
IVF-C. Used to post occasionally on the vets thread. Followed your story there and then found your blog through Julie's.

3. Do you comment?  If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
I do occasionally. I normally don't have time to comment as much as I would like, as my two babies eat up most of my time.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
Your sharp wit, and knowing that what I went through those first couple of months was normal and that I wasn't the Worlds Worst Mother for finding it so difficult.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
Don't change a thing!

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
The Gross national debt of America... I mean enough already!

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from.  Where are you from?
I'm living in California but I'm an Irish native,

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Don't stop blogging. It's part of my day to check in!! :D

[stephanie]

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

Definately being gorgeous and divine. Also, my b/f is several years younger than me too ;-)

2. How did you find me?
from A Little Pregnant

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

Often, though with no kids I'm note sure how sound all my assvice is!

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

I love your honesty, your writing style-it's a must read every day.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

But that's just it, I don't know what they are going to be about- and that's what I love.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Nothing. I enjoy the ramblings of your mind.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

I'm from Detroit, Michigan, in the US.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Hug those babies for me. And give your hubbie a big kiss.

[Bridgette]

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above? Infertility and motherhood (Yay! Finally!!)

2. How did you find me? I have been stalking you for years my dear, even before you knew who the hell mrs.d from TLOL was.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t? Occasionally. There are so many fabulous, intelligent women here already, I usually don't have anything else to offer.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? I love hearing all about you and the babes!

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? Me of course! Its all about me you know. ;)

6. What do you wish I would shut up about? Can't think of anything.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from? Michigan

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice? Nope, no tips or assvice, but I do adore you!

[Ann D]

1. What do we have in common?

Previous struggle with infertility, two losses (one miscarriage, one stillbirth), and now I'm a mom times four. Jury is out on gorgeous/divine. Depends on day.

2. How did you find me?

Via links from some of your partners in crime.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

Just found you, although your reputation precedes you. :-)

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

Love your sense of humor!

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

I wouldn't want to ask you to change. That would be presumptuous of me. It's your blog.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

See #5.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Peterborough, Ontario, Canada.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Keep inspiring the women of the blosophere with your fabulous blog.

[blackbird]

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above? I am gorgeous and divine. I am a mom.

2. How did you find me? A little pregnant.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t? Not usually.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? I like it all.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? Nothing in particular - but I'd like to see a recent picture of you.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
I don't wish you'd shut up -- I wish you wouldn't worry so much.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Far away.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice? Keep up the good work.

[Erin]

We have a lot in common. I went thru my 1st bout of IF for 3 plus years and was successful w/IUI and injections..and then secondary IF for almost 2 years..am 6 months preggo w/#2.

I'm a police officer living in Chicago...I am a daily reader of your blog...have never commented (don't know why) and I wouldn't change a thing about it...you crack me up....I love your honesty...

You doing a great job and are truly an inspiration..try not to be so hard on yourself....

[Lylah]

1. What do we have in common?

Motherhood.
2. How did you find me?

From A Little Pregnant

3. Do you comment? Sometimes, but only recently

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

I really enjoy the way you write, and I admire how blunt and honest you are on your blog. I also appreciate the way you make me think about things I don't or haven't yet encountered in my day-to-day life.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

I don't think I'd want you to change a thing.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

No shutting up, please!

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Boston, Mass., USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

You are doing a great job. Enjoy your babies as they learn and grow!

[Amy]

1. What do we have in common?
Being a mother, losses (I had two early losses prior to the birth of my first child)

2. How did you find me?
Who knows--a link from someone's blog from someone's blog from someone's blog . . .

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
A few times. Just warming up to the whole blogging community and started to be brave enough to comment.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
All of it! Especially that you write so frequently. I hate it when my favorite bloggers don't write for a few days (how dare they!)

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
It's all good.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Nothing.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Originally from Delaware USA
Now living in Southern California

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Don't listen to any assvice!

[Jill]

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?
Losses and more losses, and finally, Motherhood.

2. How did you find me?
A link from another blog- sorry, don't remember whose?

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
Not usually - not sure if you want to here from someone who doesn't have her own blog and isn't in the "loop."

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

I love it that you are honest about how hard life is, but yet you keep swinging. THAT is what we have most in common.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

I'd love to hear more about SA, but it isn't necessary to keep me coming back.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

mmmmm, I'm not coming up with anything.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Indiana USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

If you need help with babies and reflux, I'm the gal to ask.

[margaritamomma]

1. What do we have in common? Well, I was going to say infertility and motherhood, but then you had to throw in being gorgeous and divine.

2. How did you find me? A link somewhere on some blog that I seem to have forgotten.

3. Do you comment? Parko made me finally do it. Damn men. I seem to have done quite a few things in my life because of an irresistably cute man...

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? You are fucking hilarious!

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? Me

6. What do you wish I would shut up about? I wasn't going to answer this one. But seriously? I don't wish you'd shut up about it, I just wish you'd stop second guessing yourself. We all do it. I do it. But you are doing a damned good job!

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from? The U.S.

[Shannon]

Hi, Tertia! De-lurking to answer your questions:

1. What do we have in common? Like you, I have experienced a loss during a pregnancy and I'm currently dealing with the depression/fear that accompanies that. Oh, and I'm gorgeous and divine as well - can't forget that.

2. How did you find me? I found you through Google. Your blog was "cheap therapy" after my miscarriage.

3. Do you comment?  If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t? I don't comment. I guess I enjoy learning from you and the other regular posters so much that I don't feel like I can add anything to the mix.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? Of course I enjoy your delightful sense of humor the most! I love reading stories about the babes and your husband (b/c I didn't get a Paul either so reading those stories is like looking into a crystal ball!).

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? I'd love to hear more about South Africa and what it's like to live there.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about? Please don't shut up about anything!! It's your blog - tell us whatever you want us to hear!

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from.  Where are you from? Arkansas, USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice? Just thanks for being here. You make me feel less alone. Your stories about Kate and Adam make me appreciate my mom more (who adopted me after 18 years of trying to conceive) and remind me that I should help out my best friend (who just had her first babe) more, so thanks!

[Marivic]

All of the above. I'm 33, my girls are 17, 15, twins are 13 and yah, TTC again after multiple recent m/c. Feel free to question my sanity.

I found you through grrl I believe, and have fun with just about everything you write. You have a wildly appealing sense of what to take seriously vs. not, and I giggle when I see that irreverence pop through on comments on other blogs. I comment occasionally, but like many others, suffer from acute blog-envy, in that others say it so much better so much sooner.

I was born in the Philippines but have been stateside most of my life. I check in daily from Madison, Wisconsin (the state that looks like your left hand if you hold it up, keep your four fingers together with your thumb, well, where your thumb would go if you had a mitten on!).

I'd love to hear more about Marko. There's so much sadness in IF blogland sometimes, but then I read about the relationships and marriages that keep it all together and my faith is restored. More please.

No assvice, other than heads-up-even-though-I'm-sure-you-already-know-this: going back to work is reaaallllyy hard. Oy, the best of luck to you there.

[Rachel]

1. Being gorgeous and divine. - I don't have kids and don't plan to, but have followed quite a few of the infertility blogs. I'm not sure why...perhaps it's about women struggling against one of the most vicious foes. And I love that you describe yourself as gorgeous and divine!

2. I was intrigued with this person who Julie was having all the IM conversations with, so I followed the link.

3. I don't know if I have commented here...if I have it hasn't been often. Since I'm not struggling with infertility, I often don't know what to say and don't want to offer assvice.

4. I like how honest you are. You have a really unique voice and I love that you're from a part of the world I know nothing about.

5. It's your blog...write what YOU want!

6. See #6.

7. I'm from the Midwest of the US

8. I'm sure you do this, but send photos to your family often...my brother and SIL can never send me enough photos of my niece.

[Minna]

I'm a 32-year-old nursing student.. ttc #2 for 3 long years. Blah.

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above? All of the above. I have PCOS & my hubby is a chromosome freak, we've had six early losses but a 5-year-old son to prove that even genetical freaks and PCOS queens can occasionally succeed... Of course I'm also gorgeous and divine!

2. How did you find me? Through Chez Miscarriage

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t? Everyday reader, occasional commenter. The other commenters are so witty and verbally talented, and sometimes I just don't have anything to add to what's already been said.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? Your honesty, wittiness and the gorgeous pics of your gorgeous offspring.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? More pics! :)

6. What do you wish I would shut up about? I wish you didn't worry about your abilities as a mum so much... because you're a wonderful mum to your babies! But I guess it's hard not to worry so much, when you're as sleep deprived as you are. The lack of sleep tends to make one think crazy thoughts! :)

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
I live near the west coast of Finland

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice? Just keep going

[Cas]

Coming out of lurkdom since you asked.....
I found you through IVFC, I've been reading/posting there for almost two years. We have infertility and pregnancy loss in common(though my losses were early...) Lots of complications and bedrest during this recent pregnancy which brought me my son on January 6. Your posts have hit home especially since my baby was born. I found the first 6 weeks almost unbearably difficult and the guilt at having those feelings after loss and IF seemed too much. Your posts made me feel like I was not a monster and I thank you for that. I read religiously now and will perhaps start to post when I can.
Keep up the good work!!!

[Melani]

1. infertility but also a mom; had to see dr for 1st child; 2nd child just came along 20 months later and have since had 3 miscarriages. Not really sure I'm considered infertile but would really like to have another child.

2.I think I found you through "A little pregnant..."not sure how I found her.

3. I comment occasionally but mostly just lurk.

4. I mostly enjoy hearing about how your life is different than us Americans. Would love to travel but since I can't; I enjoy reading blogs from different places.

5. I pretty much enjoy it all; I love that you post so often.

6. Your blog--I just enjoy learning more about you.

7. Bentonville, Arkansas USA

8. Only that motherhood gets easier (physically at least) as they get older. My kids are 7 and 6 and we really enjoy each other.

[Lori]

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

Infertility, losses and Finally
motherhood.

2. How did you find me?
IVF Connections

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
Occasionally I comment, and once
sent an email.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
I love hearing everything. It's nice
to know someone feels the same as me
about things.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
Love them all!

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
NADA
7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Albany, Oregon USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Cherish everything that's happening.
You really won't believe how fast this
time goes by. Love every new thing your
babies learn to do.

[Tine]

1. We have all of the above in common, though you kick my ass in all 3 categories. It "only" took us 2 yrs., 2 surgeries, 1 mc, and 3 IUIs to get our singleton son, who is almost 2.

2. I was googling around one day in January for info on breastfeeding and stumbled across Julie's blog. (She'd posted about pumping that day.) She kept mentioning some mysterious Tertia who'd just had twins, and I finally connected your name with the "So Close" on Julie's blogroll. Your storytelling hooked me.

3. Yes, when I think my contribution might be worthwhile.

4. I love your honesty and your smart-ass-ness.

5 & 6. No wishes except keep going. This is your blog; you talk about whatever you like!

7. Minneapolis, Minnesota, USA

8. Just love your babies, yourself, and Marko, and enjoy every minute (even the hard ones). You all deserve it.

[Meganann]

1. We have a world-view in common, a love of kidlets, a compassion for those who are wanting kids. I am childless, and of untested fertility as I have a husband who is not ready to have children. I am closing in on 30--so I fear for my fertility.

2. I found you through your vagina posse and them through the anxiety-filled searches I like to do on infertility.

3. I don't comment, only lurk. I sometimes think about commenting, but I really don't want to give you an earfull of untested assvice.

4. I love the honesty of this blog--I read it faithfully and rejoice in the fact that you have the babies, but feel for you because they are such a challenge. You say some things that the rest of us just sit back and think.

5. I really like the introspective posts. I like hearing how you are functioning. If Rose is still there for you, I would like to hear about her too, how she helps as the babes grow up. Also, if you feel like it, the foreign audience would like to hear about your thoughts on raising babes in post-aparthied South Africa.

6. Don't stop talking--love it all.

7. Albany, NY, USA

8. My assvice--um--no assvice from the childless except keep on as you have begun. You are a thoughtful and loving parent, the kind that every child deserves.

[Jo]

1. All of the above

2. Someone on a board I read linked to the post announcing your last pregnancy. My If blog reading started there.

3. very occassionally. I don't like leaving my email address publicly but I don't like not being able to leave it for you only. It's an issue I have wit all blogs. I know I could just make another email address just for reading infertile blogs but I have enough email addresses already, I think blog software should allow the user to decide whether their email gets shown to the world or only the blog owner. I bed you didn't expect a diatribe on the failings of blog software now did you?

4. I enjoy your honesty and your openness to change

5. I just want you to talk about what is on your mind

6. Nothing so far

7. Sydney, Australia

8. Trust your instincts, you will know when a cry is ok and when it is not, you will sort the sleep out in good time, you will know who to trust with your babies, whose advice to believe, when to be firm and when to be all smooshy. You have shown us that you know how already. But if your book shelf is not full then my assvice is get yourself "The No Cry Sleep Solution", "Raising Your Spirited Child" (crap title for a BRILLIANT book, don't let it put you off) and maybe "Siblings Without Rivalry" (haven't read this yet as I can't seem to produce a sibling but it comes highly recommended).

[draadje]

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

Being gorgeous and divine, of course! I'm not a mother, nor do I know if I'm fertile or not.

2. www.televisionwithoutpity.com --> hashai.com ---> alittlepregnant.com ---> you

3.I hardly ever comment, because I have no earthly idea of what you're going through, so I'm always weary of saying the wrong thing.

4. Your honesty

5. A bit more about your country.

6. Nothing. Not just saying this to be nice.

7. Aruba, Dutch Caribbean. A tiny litte island off the coast of Venezuela

8. Keep doing what you're doing.

[kay]

1. i just had a little girl 12 weeks ago.
2. through julie :) like everyone else...
3. no i tend to luk, mainly because i have my hands full with my little one, and she lets me read but not type...
4. i really started reading when i was pregnent, wanting to hear about other pregnancies as a way to figure out my own.
5. i actually really enjoy the assvise, i find it really usefull....
6. the guilt thing tho i do understand...
7. im danish living in amsterdam, holland.
8. i wish i could ask your wonderful readers questions too - maybe an assvise box for questions and random advise and oh my god insights!

[Karin]

1. The gorgeous and divine part, plus a heartfelt appreciation of the Queen's English. Colour, behaviour...you name it, I'm with you!
2. I think it was a link from Julie, originally.
3. I think I may have, once or twice, but usually I don't feel I have anything worthwhile to contribute, since I don't have any kids yet.
4. All of it. I love the honesty, and since I hope I'll have a baby of my own in a year or two (or five or six, I suppose - you've taught me to go into it with my eyes open), I feel like I'm learning a lot about the things that nobody else ever seems to mention.
5. I like it just the way it is!
6. How fat you are, when you're clearly not!
7. Hampshire, UK.
8. More pictures please! There can never be to many. And, please, one of you and the kids?

[Belphoebe]

1. Motherhood. Being gorgeous and divine. :)

2. EmmaJane's blogroll at Barely Tenured (I'm a recovering academic!)

3. I have commented a few times. Mostly I lurk.

4. I enjoy all aspects of your gorgeous and divine blog.

5. More transcripts of Adam and Kate plotting their revolution. Actually, I think your conversations have been great.

6. Don't shut about about anything!

7. I am from upstate New York, USA.

8. Tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice: You're doing great already. I think half the battle is recognizing when you need help/don't know, etc. and seeking out what you need, which you're doing. So just keep up the great work! And keep the cute pics coming, please!

[JenAtHome]

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

We have in common: infertility, losing a child, scary-as-hell pregnancy, motherhood, AND being gorgeous and divine. How's that?

2. How did you find me?

I think it was a link from getupgrrl. Not sure.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

I do, from time to time.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

I love your honesty about the difficulties you face with success -- pregnancy and motherhood is not all sweetness and light, even if you had to bust your ass to get there and even if you're profoundly grateful for it.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

Huh. Not sure about that one. I like your posts.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Are you joking? If you were to shut up about anything you would be far less entertaining.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Originally, Kentucky. Now, the suburbs of Chicago.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

I could come up with some baby care assvice, probably. Nothing jumps to mind right now, but I think I've left a comment or two for you with my thoughts in the past. I think you're doing a great job with your babies, though, and I agree with most of what you've done (especially with your discomfort over letting them cry -- I don't think little babies should be left to cry it out either).

[Amy]

1. What do we have in common?  Infertility?  Motherhood?  Being gorgeous and divine?  All of the above?
Being gorgeous and devine :D

2. How did you find me?
Just surfing blogs...I don't remember how exactly.

3. Do you comment?  If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
This is the first time I have commented....I tend to lurk...

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
You are incredibly witty - and I enjoy reading your entries

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
I like it just the way it is

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Nothing...this is your blog!!!

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from.  Where are you from?
California

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
You children are gorgeous and...I love your blog :D

[Laura]

1. What do we have in common?
Not very much really... I don't even know why I'm here...

Actually, it's your sense of humor that I appreciate most and your quest for motherhood. That, and not taking anything too seriously.

2. How did you find me?

I am on an email list for Single Mothers by Choice. Someone mentioned your blog and I was hooked immediately. It was near the beginning of your pregnancy with Adam and Kate.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

I have a couple of times, under an assumed name... :) The assumed name and the infrequent comments are because I am not a mother nor am I infertile. I haven't even started TTC yet... I'm just making plans. So I felt like I didn't really have anything valid to contribute. But I do care for a set of twins who I absolutely love! So I answered a couple of your twin questions.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

Your sense of humor and your honesty.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

Can't think of a thing.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

I wish you would stop worrying about what we want or need to hear! :) Write what you want!

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Raleigh, North Carolina

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Don't be afraid to let your babies cry. Especially when you are right there tending to the other one. You can talk to them and remind them that you are there. What everyone told you early on about twins being more patient because they had to learn to wait their turn will only happen if you let it happen. (you did ask for assvice... and I'm an even bigger ass since I'm not even a mother!)

[bond girl]

1) Being fabulous and divine. Oh, and we both want babies v. much--Me sometime in the future, you in the past.

2) A link from another non-mom blog I read

3) Yes, but not frequently

4) All of it. I enjoy how you write and that you are v. honest. Also, frankly, I love that you know you're wonderful and aren't afraid to say so. Too many women aren't like that.

5) Cute baby photos!

6) Nothing comes to mind

7) Denver, Colorado

8) More cute baby photos! :-)

[SheilaC]

1. Infertility and mothering multiples. I'm mom to triplets, now almost 5 years old.
2. From Julie at A Little Pregnant, who I discovered in January. Now I've become hooked on about 20 blogs.
3. I think I've commented once or twice.
4. I love your openness and honesty, about the practical and emotional parts of your life. I can relate to so many of your posts for so many different reasons. You always give me something to think about.
5. I enjoy all your posts, on I/F, being a new parent, on twins, on relationships.. Talk about any old thing if it's interesting to you.
6. Don't change anything! Just keep on posting when you can.
7. Saskatchewan, Canada
8. It DOES get easier, as the babies mature a bit more, as your routines settle down, as you get used to being a parent, as you adjust to the huge changes in your life over the past year or more. Hang in there, you and Marko seem to be doing great, and the babies are (of course) Gorgeous and Divine.
Way to go!

[Sherry]

So many questions... where shall I start? Hmmm #1 is a good place

1. What do we have in common?
Gorgeous and divine

2. How did you find me?
Thru other infertility blogs, except they've had babies now too...

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
I don't think I've ever commented here except maybe to say Adam and Kate are gorgeous. Often I feel like I don't have anything to contribute and would feel too stupid to say anything.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
I love the way you ask your friends in the computer for help; and the way you say what you feel and how you love your husband and children.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
Don't know.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Woolies. The one near me shut down a couple of years ago and the nearest one is miles away. I'm jealous!

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
I was born and grew up in Bangladesh but now I'm studying in Cambridge, UK.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
More baby pictures!

[ann]

1. What do we have in common?
-- Motherhood & Being gorgeous and divine (love that phrase)

2. How did you find me?
-- i'm not sure...i think it all started off of grrl's blog, maybe.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
-- i don't think i've ever commented, mostly because i haven't had anything to add that someone else hasn't already said and probably better than i.

4. What aspects of my blog do you enjoy?
photos of the babies! so sweet!

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
more south africa!

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
n/a

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
close to NYC but in NJ.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
nope. :)

[Lurker delurking]

1. We have virtually nothing in common, except that we're both female. I'm 21, have no idea about my fertility since I've never tried, live in the Uk and I'm in a long term relationship but unmarried. Oh and we're both gorgeous and divine.

2. Through Julie's site via Chez M, which I found through a blogroll of someone on a message board I found on a yahoo pick of the day. It was around Oct - I was just browsing along like you do on a boring saturday afternoon and your story (and some others) really stuck in my head. So I came back a few times, which turned into compulsive daily lurking. And now I read about 15 IF blogs daily, including yours, and have even been known to cry at them, although I will deny that to anyone in real life ;)

3. I have commented a couple of times, mostly to congratulate you on the birth of your (gorgeous and divine) kids, but since I have no kids, and currently don't want any I have little to contribute to most posts.

4. I love your blog. I love all human stories, especially those about which I know very little. I always though infertile people should just suck it up, buy a puppy and move on and quit whining. I guess you and some others opened my eyes and for that I thank you. I love the pics of your kids (I like babies so long as they belong to someone else) and watching you learn to be a mother. It's a real priviledge to watch. And the pic of your burnt out kitchen was a classic :)

5. Not sure. Although a pic of you, husband and babies all together would be lovely.

6. Nothing, I'm ridiculously nosey and love living vicariously so anything you post is appreciated.

7. The UK.

8. Neutrogena make wonderful shampoo. Mars bars can cure a lot of problems. And don't eat the yellow snow :)

[Carrie]

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

3 years trying, though no losses or medical assistance (too poor!). Now mom to a 13 m. old. I like to think I am also gorgeous and divine, more so when I shower.

2. How did you find me?

Karen at The Naked Ovary

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

When you've asked for comments and I feel like I have something to say that hasn't been said by other commenters.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

I like your honesty. I like seeing pics of the babies and the glimpses of your home.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

Don't have any wishes, really. I wouldn't mind hearing more about SA.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Nothing. I read your blog because you'll talk about anything.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Another reader from Madison, Wisconsin, USA. We're north of Chicago--it's a tourist and farming state. No, I don't eat cheese with every meal (a common stereotype).

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Since you asked :-): Remember that these are YOUR babies, and that what you think is best is what is important. They grow up too fast to spend time worrying about whether they *should* sleep through the night by now or whether you should be skinny again by now. What I already miss is the cuddling to sleep--my daughter just started doing it again after she had surgery and it is blissful now. I wish I had appreciated it more when she was littler. And know that you are doing a very good job from where I sit in front of a computer screen on the other side of the world.

[mercybuttercup]

1. What do we have in common?
All of the above.

2. How did you find me?
I think through Julie? I started reading IF blogs after my second miscarriage and got hooked on everyone's stories.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
Very occasionally - usually 12 people have said what I was going to by the time I get here!

4. What aspects of my blog do you enjoy?
All of it, really - your honesty, sense of humor, baby photos, the whole thing.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
It's your blog - whatever you want!

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
ditto

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
California, USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Well, since you asked... :-) My son's a little older than your kids, and until very recently I had the same attitude toward crying as you do. I'm still not a CIO advocate or anything, so don't be frightened, but it turns out that he likes to pitch a screamer about 30 seconds before he falls asleep. By picking him up when he started crying, I was actually preventing him from getting to sleep. I've since found out this is pretty common - all babies are different, of course, but damn, I wish someone would have told me this was a possibility three months ago. So I'm telling you just in case.

[Toria]

1. What do we have in common?
infertility.
and coloUr, nappies, alumINium etc

2. How did you find me?
your IVF barbie post. ROFLMFAO and i was hooked from there. it was from you that i found getupgrrl and a little bit pg, the other 2 blogs i read daily (and also that i found the whole IFblogsphere. but now i just stick to my fave 3).

3. Do you comment?
no, i'm shy.
i'm only answering this time because you appealed directly to lurkers, and also so you'd see that some people found YOU as their gateway into IF blogs, and that even though your blog is no longer about IF directly that it doesnt mean that IF ppl dont still want to read it.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
i really appreciate your great writing and wicked sense of humour and your honesty about the nasty things. that's why i still read your blog despite the fact that i have given up ttc. your writing trancends personal situations. i read you now because i want to know more about your story, not because we were both going through IVF (even though that was why i started reading). and you give me hope that happy endings sometimes do still exist, even if i don't believe i'll ever achieve it myself.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
so long as i get my regular fix i dont care what you say. whatever is relevant to you. even if its "too busy with screaming babies to blog today. leave me alone i have a life!" then i am still satisfied.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
pls dont shut up about anything. i love that you will tackle issues others would have shut up about. its important and valuable, so keep it up!

7. Where are you from?
sydney, australia

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
adorations aplenty

[Kim]

1. In common we have: m/c, annovulatory cycles, and infertility. What we don't: I am neither gorgeous or divine. I am fat and somewhat plain.

2. I think that I first found you on Grrl's blog.

3. I have commented several times. It was much more harrowing to comment while waiting on the babies. I had so much hope for you to have healthy babies in January.

4. Luke and Ben's pages and posts. I also like to hear and see you and all your family. I read your whole blog right after I found you.

5. What do I wish you would write about? I really like the place you are in now. You are not as hung up on doing everything "Type-A, perfect" You are coming into your own as a MOM. Not everyone has to do that with an audience. You don't really win the game, you just survive it. I would like to see your plans and changes as you go back to work.

6. I wish you would shut up about how you are not doing this mother thing correctly because you are doing just fine.

7. Right outside of Atlanta, GA.

8. Assvice? I am full of it. I try not to repeat it if my comments are the same as a bunch of others. If I can be helpful to you at all, I would love to be. As for suggestions, keep the lovely pics coming. However, where are the post-baby Tertia pics?

[Catharina]

1. As far as I know, we barely have anything in common. I am 22 and can't wait to be a mother some day but now is definitely not the time.

2. I really can't remember how I found you. Just clicking on links of other blogs and so on. I think I found your blog last July and just had to keep reading, hoping so badly that everything goes well for Adam and Kate (and you and Marko).

3.I have commented two or three times, but since I am not a mom and have no experience with infertility, I tend to stay quiet, read and learn. When I feel that I have something to contribute, I comment.

4. Really, I love it all. I feel like I have learned a lot from you about dealing with your lot in life, regardless of what it may be and also what it is like to be a new mother. It's not everyday you get to follow someone's story so close and personal and from the beginning.

5. Just keep up what you are doing. This is great stuff. (Maybe the long-awaited pic of you with the babes?)

6. Your blog, you write whatever you want to.

7. I grew up in Washington, DC and now live in Vienna, Austria.

8. I am so sure that I will think back to many things you have said in the future. And you have often inspired me to ask my own mother questions about parenting I had never thought about. Did she let us cry it out? Were we good or bad sleepers? How did my dad handle babies? Even if I may not be a mom now, I would rather ask now, who knows what the future holds, and how long my treasured mom will be around. And, in large part thanks to you, I have a much more realistic idea of what the first months with a baby are -really- like. Thanks for it all! (And please never stop.)

[e]

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?Motherhood and infertility, although not in the same order as you in my case.

2. How did you find me? I came to you via Julie, following your comments on her site

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t? Sometimes. Although I don't always know if I say the right thing.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? Your frankness. If any prospective mother reads this, she can be sure she's getting the real McCoy. I just wish I'd had the energy to write a blog when my babies were very small.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? Whatever direction you choose for them. It's your site.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about? Nothing. See question 5.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from? England, although we were living in Canada when I first started reading last year.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice? Take the time to smell the roses along the way.

[BeckaJ]

1. The gorgeous and divine bit. :^) I myself am not infertile, but my stepsis is, and I became her egg donor, and am now donating for someone else, becuase that was such a fulfilling experience. I guess I should say Sis *was* infertile, as she's pregnant now!!!

2. From Julie at A Little Pregnant. And I put you in an online lit review! I got an A on the paper!

3. I usually don't, becuase for some reason Netscpe does not like your comment form and won't let me. If I'm on a computer with IE, then I comment.

4. Babies. Bragging about babies. Bitching. Bragging about bitching.

5. More bitching. :^)

6. Worrying about being a good mother - you're terrific, the best mommy for those babies, and the best person for your own self!

7. New Mexico, USA, although I live in Illinois now.

8. Tell me how your skin was so pretty in your photograph? Also, what's SA like? Why are you down there?

[Heidi]

Hey there, I'm too lazy to answer all your questions so neatly, but here are a few: I found you through the usual suspects in blogland, (Karen/Naked Ovary is my main homey). I mostly lurk since I am in the process of adoption from Kazakhstan, so I have very little to say about pregnancy or motherhood (yet). I love your honesty, especially the brutal truth about being a mom and all that goes with it. It's helping me to prep for my own personal culture shock, due to occur, in, ah...6 months or less. Yikes. You are also extremely funny, which is always appreciated. Oh, and I am from NH. Love your blog. Don't change a thing.

[ellen]

Things we have in common...IF, both moms to twins, I obsessed about all the same newborn things. Same sense of humor...I laugh out loud all the time reading your blog.

Found chezmiscarriage thru Resolve, thru that blog found Julie and thru Julie found you (then realized you were on IVFConn). Only 3 blogs I read.

I only started commenting after the twins were born...to give assvice.

No complaints or suggestions about the blog contents.

I live in a suburb of NYC. One of my best guy friends used to live in South Africa so I'm interested in that angle too!

[whitney]

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

All of the above!

2. How did you find me?

Don't remember........seems like it was actually through Cecily, though...

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

Not usually, by the time my kids give me 5 minutes' time to sit down and read the post has been up for a while and there are tons of comments~

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

Pictures of Marko.........no, I'm only KIDDING, I really love pictures of your kids! And hearing about Africa, although I am rather jealous of your warm weather!

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

?? I enjoy everything

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Not a thing, I like that you let it all hang out!

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Tiny little Bridgewater, Virginia, USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Not much, only that you need to trust your instincts as Kate and Adam's mother. Mothers really DO know best!!

[Anon]

1. Motherhood. I have a 2-month old baby girl. My sister is going through fertility treatments now.

2. Through someone's blog link about "scary infertile women who blog". How rude! Then I found you, grrl, etc. and realized that you and the VP are some of the strongest people I have ever had the chance to read about.

3. Sometimes I comment. But other times I don't, because I see that you already have 100 comments, and think that no one will read mine! :-)

4. Pictures! Your excellent writing and sense of humor. (I think your Baby v. 1.0 post should be published in print!)

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? I would love to have you post more about life in South Africa, what your city is like, your family history in Africa, any social issues that interest you? Sorry to sound super-nosy, just curious.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about? Nothing, girl!

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from? I am American, but live with my Japanese husband in Tokyo.

[Kam]

1. What do we have in common?
IF, motherhood, gorgeosity, divinity

2. How did you find me?
TLOL, waaaaaay back

3. Do you comment?
Uh, maybe a little too much?

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
Everything, down to the last vowel. I love it when you're funny, when you're puzzling things out, when you describe the babies.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
I like the controversy, but enjoy your perspective above all.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Hey, it's your blog. Say what you like.

7. Where are you from?
Montana, USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Thanks for all of it, T. I still have that pinch-me feeling about your motherhood--what a joy it is to participate in and celebrate, even in this distant, limited way.

[Louise]

I have to admit I am a lurker. I found your blog via Janis, have gone back and read your history to get a better understanding of who you are. I have older children (20 - daughter)(15 - son who died by impulse suicide last Mar). I am enjoying reading about your kids and your outlook. It has brought back many memories of when Rowen and David were babies.

Haven't responded to any of your posts, but I do think you are a wonderful parent, and don't worry, do whatever works for you.

Live in beautiful Victoria, British Columbia (http://www.tourismvictoria.com/)(or British California as my brother calls it), Canada, city of gardens, Canada's best bloom'in city, city of the newlyweds and nearly deads, all in all, wouldn't live anywhere else in Canada.

Thanks for helping with the memories.
Louise

[manogirl]

-In common? Fabulousness. Other than that, very little that can be discovered without those sorts of soul searching conversations.
-I found your blog through another blog. I found Pazel first, blog surfing, and stumbled on this blog, among others.
-I'll comment if I have anything relevant to say. If I'm feeling witty. If I won't sound like a total moron--which isn't very often!
-I think you're a good writer, and funny to boot. I think that your openness in talking about horrible and good times is attractive to read. Boring, you're not. And I like to read--books, magazines, newspapers, blogs. I read eclectically in all things.
-I'm not sure I would change anything. I don't read blogs wishing authors would stop talking, or start talking about something. If that was the case, I wouldn't read the blog. I look at blogs like self-publishing. If I don't like a magazine article, I don't read it. Ditto for blogs. But the one great advantage to blogs is that I can easily chime in with my reactions--good or bad. Harder to do with magazine articles. Still, I believe very strongly that an author is an author, and that is what you are. Write what you feel and know, and this will continue to be the good reading it already is!
-I'm in the Midwest, in the suburbs. Pondering a move to California, possibly, or to the big city near us. Spiritually, my home is Rome. Favorite place in the world, Italy. Love it.

[Laura]

1. Being gorgeous and divine! I am an avowed childfree but hooked on you, Julie, and Getupgrrl. I love babies but have never wanted to raise my own--you have taught me so much about a set of feelings and experiences I've never had, and you love your babies so much that I burst with happiness for you.

2. Through Julie, I think, but I don't remember!

3. I comment sometimes--as a non-parent I don't often have anything useful to contribute, though that rarely stops me.

4. I love your sense of humor peeking out even during tough times. I love pictures of your babies! And my husband thinks your photo on your profile is sexy.

5. I would like to read about your life in SA as I have no idea what it's like. Have you always lived there? Also (a much smaller matter) I keep wondering how the trick of putting face cloths through the soothers works to keep the soothers in the babies' mouths--assuming you don't tie the face cloths around the backs of their heads, though it might be tempting sometimes.

6. Nuthin'. It's your blog! You choose the topics!

7. I live in Addison, Texas (suburb of Dallas).

8. Here are some adorations: I adore the words "gripe water" and "dinky feeder." My best assvice would be to call my mother if you don't know what to do with the babies. She raised 6 of us and is very level-headed. But maybe I should warn her/explain first. (^_^)

[Lisa2]

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?
*Motherhood, and divinity, possibly gorgeousness*

2. How did you find me?
*Not sure, I think from Julie*

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
*Sometimes,often I have my daughter on my lap so actually typing anything is out of the question.If I tried my comments would have random numbers and spaces from her trying to "help".*

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? *Your honesty and openness with feelings, your strength that shows through your writing.*

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? *Nothing really, you seem to cover most topics very well, the only request I would have is that you post more pics of your little darlings!!*

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
*Nothing*

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
*Berea,Ohio,USA a small little college town off to the side of Cleveland*

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
*No assvice, just my total respect that you'd even make the time to get to know your readers like this, and my awe that I just receieved another email from the great blogging Goddess Tertia!!!*

[JenH]

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above? My husband has Sertoli-cell only syndrome and makes no sperm whatsoever. I have Polycystic Ovaries. We have a 2 year old son by anonymous donor insemination.

2. How did you find me? A link from another blog... but it's been so long I couldn't tell you whose.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t? Occassionally, but you don't have a clue who I am so I don't do so often. Do you want me to??

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? It all! I have enjoyed reading about your trials and losses and how you are doing as a new mommy. Well, I didn't *enjoy* hearing about the losses... ;)

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? You do great in starting a variety of conversations.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about? Heh.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from? San Antonio, Texas USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice? Nah- you're doing great!

[Sheri]

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above? I guess the only thing we have in common is that we are both mothers

2. How did you find me? Someone gave me a link to Julie's blog and I found you there. I thought..."if Julie reads her, she must be good"

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t? I've only commented a few times but truthfully, I don't think I have anything worthwhile to say

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? Your honesty about your feelings, your sense of humor and watching a new mother bloom

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? No preference - write whatever strikes your mood, keep doing what you've been doing.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about? can't think of anything...it's all v interesting

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from? the deep freeze of Maine, USA...it's f'ing cold and snowy here

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice? The Hokey Pokey might REALLY be what it's all about!

[Lisa2]

Oh and one more thing, I agree with Laura I would love to read more about your life in SA I don't know much about Africa, and I'd love to know more....

[Goodsnake]

1. What do we have in common?  Infertility?  Motherhood?  Being gorgeous and divine?  All of the above?

This is hard for me to answer, I am 29 and unmarried. I have known since I was 15 it might be impossible for me to have children. Sometimes I think I come here out of curiosity, sometimes fear of what I may face someday, sometimes just to know about someone going through much harder stuff than anything I know about.

2. How did you find me?

Beth at Sothefishsaid.com links to Julie at A Little Pregnant

3. Do you comment?  If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

I don't comment because what do I know about what you are going through. I don't want to be one of those assholes who comments about what they know nothing about.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

The honesty of it

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

I like to read whatever you write about

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

It's your blog write about whatever you want.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from.  Where are you from?

Birmingham, Alabama in the Southeastern part of the United States

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

I think you are a brave and wonderful woman. Thank you for sharing your life with us.

[megan]

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

First losses, then twin pregnancies

2. How did you find me?

Stumbled upon your blog during my miscarriages

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t? Sometimes

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

I love that you update so often--checking your blog is part of my daily routine! I also love the twin stories and pictures. I'm 28 weeks with my twins.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Virginia (USA)

[parodie]

- not much in common! I'm not yet even TTC, just love kids and hearing about raising 'em. I work as a nanny so I guess I have looking after children in common with you
- found you through Julie, I think
- i don't tend to comment, as I don't feel I have much to add
- i love the honesty of your blog
- i have no idea what i would/wouldn't like you to post about -- i like the style of the blog as is.
- Montreal, Canada
- i love the kiddos! they look adorable, always. :-)

[Just Me]

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

All of the above ;)

2. How did you find me?

Through Julie's Blog

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

I have nothing new to add usually

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

Reading about being a new mom

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

Anything really...it's all good :)

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

?

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

USA - east coast

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

No matter how bad things can seem at 3am, this to shall pass and you will miss those nights of just you and your babies

[MollieBee]

1. Secondary Infertility, starting clomid next cycle most likely. When I found you I was just another clueless fertile myrtle.

2. I think it was from Julie's site. I found her and stayed up all night reading her archives then went to yours and did the same. I think it was about 9 mos ago.

3. Yes, sometimes I'm too shy, but other times I can't keep my mouth shut.

4. I like your honesty and brashness. I also love hearing about life in SA. I kinda think you're hot too.

5. More stuff about SA, and what you like to do when you are not blogging or mommying. You should definitely call Julie an asshole more often, it makes me giggle.

6. Ha!

7. Denver, Colorado.

8. I just think it's so brave what you and all other bloggers do. I feel honored to share in your triumphs and sorrows. I also go to Drs. appointments armed with knowledge and confidence due to the info and encouragement I have found here and on on other blogs. Ok, now I'm getting mushy, time to go cuss someone out.

[Danielle]

1. Hubby and I went through 5 attempts at IVF/ICSI. We have also lost our only daughter at 5 months of age in 2002. I am now a momma to two stinker of boys by the miracle of adoption.

2. Friends by Adoption. Someone put a prayer link on the boards for Adam.

3. No, don't comment. My assive can't compare to the wonderful assvice you already receive.

4. All of it. Your honesty is so appealing.

5. You keep it fresh, Nothing needs to change.

6. N/A

7. Fredericktown, Ohio

8. Thank you for being so open with your grief with losing Ben. I can't even begin to tell you how much it has silently helped me. It was so nice knowing I was not alone in my raw feelings.

[bj]

1. What do we have in common?

motherhood, but almost nothing else. Motherhood has made me realize I have things in common with people who I would have said were totally different from me before the fabric of my existence changed with the addition of children.

2. How did you find me?

a link from barely tenured

3. Do you comment? Yes, occasionally

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

I like it that you take the time to talk to us every day. I like that your honest, even when people might disagree with you. I like it that you did not find the first few months of motherhood beautiful and spiritual, and admit it.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

I'd like to hear more about life in South Africa. We get glimpses when you talk about woolies, but I'd like to hear more about what it's like to live there.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

nothing. I like it that you don't shut up about anything.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Seattle, USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

it gets better and better and better. I enjoy my children more and more as they become more and more real people. They're 4 and 16 months now, and I'm looking forward to the tomorrows when they share their opinions of politics, explain a new idea to me, and grow up and go to college. I don't look back with more than nostalgia.

[Maddy]

1. Gorgeous and Divine and tempermental reproductive organs.
2. Through Julie's Blog
3. I have commented a few times but generally don't. The reason? Mostly paralysing shyness.
4. I love all aspects of your blog. I espeically like hearing about life in South Africa and how it differs from life in North America.
5. I love all of our conversations and wouldn't change a thing.
6. See # 5.
7. I live in Canada, in a fairly remote part of the Northern part of the province of Ontario.
8. Please continue to write, I have learned so much from you and your writing.

[Katie]

1. We probably have nothing in common right now. I'm a college student and only a mother to two cats. I have PCOS, so maybe so maybe I'm infertile, maybe I'm not. We'll see about that one later.

2. I think I got to you through Julie's blog, which I found through someone else...

3. I don't comment, but only because I don't want to give advice on a subject that I know nothing about. I hate putting my foot in my mouth :o)

4. All of them!

5. You can write about what ever you want...that's why its your blog.

6. See #5.

7. Wisconsin...and I have to say that I'm fascinated that you're from SA. I'm writing my senior thesis about SA (and AIDS) as we speak.

8. Not really. Like I said, I know absolutely nothing about where you are in life. I guess I'd just say to try to enjoy it, all of it, because you'll never be able to make up the time spent worrying, etc.

[Pam]

1. What do we have in common?
Motherhood, being divine, etc. I worry. A lot. And I blog (shameless advert for my blog about my son Zach: zachsday.blogspot.com)

2. How did you find me?
I was trying to find out what happened to Julie after Charlie was born, and got to your site through hers.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
Sometimes - often other people say what I had planned to say. I was the one that had the dream I was in SA and my DH wouldn't let me visit you.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
Divinity. Brit speak - I want to visit every British speaking country just to listen to everyone talk. Except India- that has no appeal to me (seen too much of it on the Amazing Race - a TV show here in the States).

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
Me. Ha ha. No really, I mean it.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Um... nothing?

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Well, my dad was in the US Air Force, so I was born in Germany, and have lived in the US in Colorado, Virginia, and most recently, Georgia (Atlanta area).

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Always remember that nothing lasts forever - this can be both a blessing and a curse. Blessing in that Adam won't be 18 and need to be burped by his mother. Curse in that Adam will be 18 someday!

[Lissy]

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above? Infertility, motherhood, and of course being gorgeous and divine! So I guess all of the above, and I'm sure so much more that is yet to be revealed!

2. How did you find me? Gosh I can't remember, but I'm sure it was through Grrl, or Julie, or Summer, I just can't remember whose like I clicked first.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t? Only occasionally, sometimes I don't because I have a 2 year old keeping me from it, sometimes because someone else has already expressed my thoughts better than I could have, and sometimes just cause I'm lazy. But the times I have posted led to a response from you saying LOL, which made me feel appreciated, and the other time I met my newly relocated but past neighbor of 3 years (I think Rayne posted earlier) but without your blog I would have never known the person who has lived 3 houses away for the last 3 years! This "global village" is a pretty SMALL place some times!

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? I love your honesty. You put a lot out there that other people are afraid to say and I appreciate that, as a mom, a woman, and a fellow infertile now enjoying motherhood.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? I don't have any specific requests, I think you are doing great! The only thing I wish for was a chance to actually chat with you. I wish we lived at least on the same Continent so we could have a cup of tea or something!

6. What do you wish I would shut up about? Nada, nothing, zip, zilch.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Decatur, Illinois, U.S.A

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice? No assvice for you, I'm sure you get plenty without mine being added. I just say keep up the online therapy, we are all sitting in the chair waiting for you to lay down on the proverbial couch for todays session.

[Tracey Dixon]

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

Infertility, loss, gorgeous and divine

2. How did you find me? The Labor of Love spin-off site, Belly Forever

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

I do occasionally.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

I enjoy the unabashed honesty.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

It's your blog, my friend. It is just my honor to read it.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Nothing at all... again, this is your blog.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

I live in the province of Alberta, in the country of Canada

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

I think you are awesome. I hope I can be as tenacious with my infertility and conquer it as you did.

xxoo

tracey

[amy]

1. Motherhood mostly. But I did just find out that I'm pregnant with twins....

2. Don't really remember, but I'm sure it was from someone's blogroll.

3. I don't normally comment, but have a couple of times. People usually beat me to the bunch on the assvice

4. I love your humour, and the way you are truely honest in what you are thinking and feeling.

5. Don't care as long as you have a new post I am happy!

6. Don't shut up about anything, cause then you wouldn't have a new post for me to read!

7. Ottawa, Ontario, Canada

8. All I have to say is I love your blog. Its the first one I check everyday!You are very inspiring in your honesty! Thanks for letting us into your world!

[Susan]

1. I'm a mom, although my youngest is 18 but I am gorgeous and divine.
2. Just roaming around one day I found Terry first, found Julie, then you.
3. I hadn't commented yet, it seems you have so many, and you are so busy.
4. The pictures are great, the stories are great, I laugh, I cry....
5. I like the it just the way it is.
6. see #5
7. I am from Southern California
8. I like the irony and sarcasm. Assvice?, don't worry. How could a mother of two singletons tell a mom of twins anything?

[Jennifer]

1. What do we have in common? Motherhood and I lost 1 baby in an early miscarriage.

2. How did you find me? A link from "A Little Pregnant"

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t? This is the second time. I don't comment more, because there are already so many, I'm not sure I could add much.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? I love your honesty about being a new parent. My daughter is 3 months old and I felt so much of the same feelings at the beginning.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? I love them just the way they are.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about? Nothing really.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from? Columbus, Ohio.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Take lots of pictures. They get big so fast.

[Evil Stepmother]

1. womanhood and parenthood (I am a stepmom). Have not yet begun trying.
2. via Julie, via Hashai, who I read from before the advent of Science Baby.
3. rarely. sometimes I feel I could not sympathize, that I would be on the "other side" and therefore giving assvice. I feel like I should have something significant and relevant to say before I comment, rather than "what you/she/he said."
4. I like hearing about the kids, your wit, and how fabulous you are. Calling Julie an asshole never hurts, either.
5. Nothing I wish you'd leave out, but sometimes I wish you would leave the scope of IF/babies to talk about more mundane funnies in life, like it Internet Ibex. I understand that I am not your usual reader, though, and it's probably more that sometimes I feel like a sick voyeur*.
6. See 5
7. Atlanta, Georgia, USA. Specifically, Kennesaw, where it is required by law for homeowners to own a gun. I swear to God. Not enforced, though.
8. not really, your blog.
*my sick voyeurism did come in handy when I found out that a relative's 3 kids were IVF babies (cause of IF unknown). I was able to talk to her sensitively and knowledgeably, not say any of the usual dumb things I might have, and the word "just" did not leave my mouth once!

[amy w]

1. all of the above

2. grrl's site

3. I am not an assvice giver. And if it isn't assvice, i don't know waht to say. I wouldn't be de-lurking now except that you require it.

4. I heart all aspects of you

5. everything you write is perfect for you. I cried with you over your losses, celebrated your joys and love hearing about your baby/monster because, after some similar circumstances, I have by own baby/monster too.

6. nothing.

7. metro DC area

8. keep writing. Don't let the baby/monsters take you away from us. :)

[Sarah]

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

It took me two years, one MC, and lots of clomid to have my beautiful 15-month old son. So I am going to have to go with all the above:)

2. How did you find me?

Through Julia (uncommon misconception)

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

Yes, somestimes. But I am more of a lurker. Nothing personal, I just enjoy reading your posts.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

I love your honesty, and your sense of humor.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

I love them just the way they are.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Nothing.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Virginia Beach, Virginia USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Keep on with the great posts, I love to hear about your trials and tribulations because most of them just remind me that all I am feeling is 'normal'.

[Cadi]

1. Being gorgeous and divine, I think, although you've really got me beat there. ^_^

2. Funny thing: was vehemently childfree until I took the time to understand those who wanted children. In my effort to understand, I found this blog.

3. Not often, but that's because I don't want to offer assvice...

4. All of 'em. I like reading you. You're one of the strongest ladies I've ever come across, and funny to boot.

5. I wish there were more conversations. ^_^

6. It's your blog. There is no "shut up" to be said.

7. The middle of upstate New York -- just south of Rochester.

8. Love to you, the husband, and the littl'uns. I'm so glad the twins are here in your arms at last.