Odds and Ends

A few things……

My Pediatrician

Can you believe it, my Ped is infertile! Both him and his wife are pediatricians, so they obviously love kids.  How cruel is that.  I only found out after I had chosen him, but it makes me like him even more.  Him and his wife have tried a few IVF’s but no success.  They are hoping to adopt twins.  Trust me to find an infertile Ped.  We sit and discuss how crap IF is and how unfair it is that you get parents who do not appreciate their kids.  It must be really hard for him.

My kids

The little critters had their shots today.  Poor little buggers.  I did tell them that they came from an injection (Gonal F), that their mother had to endure many many shots in order to create them, and that they must stop being nampy pampy crybabies.  They cried any way.  I did feel sorry for them. 

Miserable little man

Adam is not feeling well and like a typical male he is as miserable as hell.  He hath a stuffy nothe.  He wont lie down and only wants to be up in my arms.  Last night was interesting.  I held him the entire night, I couldn’t put him down or he would cry.  Not much sleep was had by the mother.  Thank goodness Rose took Kate so I could concentrate all my efforts on Adam.

Faking it

Did you know that you can actually fake drinking from your bottle?  If you do it properly your mother wont know and you will get to go to sleep peacefully.

What you do is you make sucking motions with your jaw, but you don’t actually swallow!! 

So your mother thinks you are drinking but you are actually having a delicious nap at her expense.  She will only notice after a while when the level has not gone down.

Brilliant!

Weddings

It is my little sister’s wedding on Saturday and I have got outfits for the babes.  Nothing naff, cute stuff.  Well not V naff, slightly naff.  Outfits for babies are naff in general, especially for boys, Kate has a stunning dress my sister brought from London. 

Can’t wait to get some nice pictures of Marko and I and the kids.  Eventually you will see pics of me with the babies.  I haven’t up to now because I am looking revoltingly ugly and on Saturday I will have to get dressed up and make a bit of an effort.  I have bought a new frock (love that word ‘frock’) that hides the flab fairly well.  And I have gorgeous shoes to go with the frock.  Haven’t worn heels since before Luke and Ben.

Me

I went for my six-week post partum check up.  Apparently all is well down below and I am good to go.  Yay.  Not.  Well maybe a little yay, suppose I do miss sex, wonder if I will remember what to do, its been so long.  Apparently Marko knows exactly how long, to the day.  Something like 10 months and 3 days.

Oh wait, odd moment:  The Dr was going on and on about contraception.  Contraception?  It seems so wrong to speak to an infertile person about contraception, however I certainly do not want to fall pg again, not now.  Maybe later?  I don’t know.  We always said only two kids but a not so secret part of me would love to get pg the ‘normal’ way.  And have a normal pg.  But NO!  No more babies.  I don’t think.  Don’t tell Marko, he would have a heart attack.  The man is v v gun shy.  The official line is no more babies.

The night nurse

I got rid of her.  As much as I loved the break, it was the right thing to do.  I will look for another one who I am more comfortable with. 

When I find the time to blog

A few of you have asked where I find the time blog.  I blog mostly at night, in the middle of the night, and always with a babe on my chest / in my arms.  Instead of sitting in front of the TV to pass time I sit in front of the computer.  I swear the babes are so used to me tapping away at the computer when I was pg that they are lulled by it now.  Kate is lying on my chest as we speak.  She is miserable after her shots and doesn’t want to lie down.

So when you read my updates think of me sitting in the dark, child in arms, in the middle of the night.  But instead of picturing me with greasy hair tied up and old holey T shirt on, rather imagine me looking glamorous and serene in stunning negligee.  Oh and take off about 10 pounds in your mental pic as well. 

And that’s it really.  Not much other news.  Once Adam is over his malady I am going to try and start putting them on a bit of stricter schedule.  At the moment we just eat and sleep on demand, but I need to start gently moving them towards a schedule for when I go back to work (horrors!!!  Back to work!!).  At the moment Adam wants to eat all the time for comfort cos he is not feeling well.

Some pics:

 

Comments

[Angie]

Tertia, I must ask what is it you are doing to those poor babes, they always looked so shocked in their pictures? Oh nevermind I know what it is. The shock comes from the fact that you actually had the nerve to put them down.. How dare you!

Growing fast, what a good mommy you are.

[Nat1026]

V.v. gorgeous babies! Love the pics, keep 'em coming. Sorry to hear Adam has the sniffles, and hope all is well in the Albertyn house soon.

Oh, and I so hope things work out for your Ped and his wife, what a sad story, but isn't IF always that way?

[LadyBug]

Your babies are so beautiful.

Blessings to you and yours,
LadyBug

[Cory]

You should have the time stamp on your entries, so we can see at what Godforsaken hour of the night you are up, writing for our pleasure. :)

And...I have to say it Tertia...I don't know if you can believe it, but boy oh boy do you ever sound like a MOM!! :) Doctor appointments and outings with the babes and schedules and whatnot. It's great!

Re: PPS (post-partum sex)-- UGH!
Some women are ready for it asap some are not. I was in the DEFINITELY NOT category. Just wait until you feel ready. One friend of mine waited one week, one friend waited four weeks. I waited like three months! Too much had happened down there and everywhere else on my body (and in my head!) to be ready for any of that. And it was closer to like 8 months before we were knocking boots with any kind of regularity.
Probably a little TMI from a stranger...but it was such an issue for me back then, and I really felt like I had noone to talk to about it.

Your babes are adorable girl...can't wait to see a family picture. :)

[AyEnDeeAreEeAyAitch]

I couldn't imagine you in anything but a negligee and wearing those frou-frou feathered mules. You are one hot bitch.

I have had sex exactly twice in the last 6 months and alltogether 4 times in the last 15 months. But dang if I don't feel like virgin each time and I have no idea what an orgasm is. I need to invest in more porn to get in the mood but each time I do I start leaking milk and then all I can think of is my daughter and who can have sex while thinking of that?

[Pam]

T-
I totally had a dream that my husband and I were on vacation with our son (turning 1 this weekend- sort of- he's a Leap Day baby) in South Africa, and I said, "Oh! I totally have to go visit Tertia and see her babes." And dh wouldn't let me.

And I cried.

And then I woke up and a cat sitting my head, which is not unusual.

So glad to hear your babes and their hot mum are doing well!

[Blondie]

Your babes are getting so big. They are doing so beautifully and I'm sure its because you are such a top notch mother. It will be nice to see some pictures of you & your family together. As tiring as it will seem, you will feel so pretty once you get to the wedding. Just be sure and pack LOTS of burp cloths. Last year when I finally got to bring my critter to a nice outing, he spit up all over my dress. I guess just think of it as the baby's marking their territory. ;) I can't wait to see the pictures.

Get Well soon little Adam and drink for real!

[Woodys Girl]

You didn't ask for it, but I'm going to say it anyhow. Invest in a "cool mist" vaporizer - that'll work wonders for Adam's snuffy nothe.

As always, your children are gorgeous and divine! I'm sure Kate will look smashing in her dress. Adam will be busy collecting girls' phone numbers. And likely nobody will notice Mom and Dad (or your outfits, or any extra pounds, or whether or not you washed your hair and have bags under your eyes. LOL). ALLLLL the attention goes to the babes... but you probably won't mind, as they're your focus, too. ;-)

Totally looking forward to FINALLY seeing a family portrait!

Oh, and about your ped... any chance his wife is interested in being a Night Nurse? ;-)

[Moxie]

Oh, do I remember those horrible days of having to use the bulb syringe to suck the snot out of congested baby's nose. My only tip is to put in a few drops of pure saline first to loosen it up so you can suck it out more easily.

[Nance]

I always picture you as you look in your wedding photo - beautiful, slim and well put together - just with a baby in one arm.

[wix]

that's when i write, too. that, or first thing in the morning at work when i'm answering email. depends upon how involved i want to be.

[sheilah]

Hah! The contraception question. It was funny at my post-partum checkup, my OB looked at me and said, "I don't suppose I need to bother with the contraception lecture, do I?"

I looked at him and said, "After what we went through to have him, I wouldn't bother unless your talk includes 'immaculate unconception'."

[Terri]

Tertia, they are growing so fast! And I must say I love their little backsides. I love baby bums. Not in a sick way. *paranoid*

I can't wait to see some family pictures!!!

[cursingmama]

beautiful babes!

[Tracey Dixon]

You need to talk the babes into getting cozy in something like this http://www.mayawrap.com/p_mwpouch.php so that you can type more easily.

It sounds like it is starting to get a teeny bit easier.

Thinking of you tons.

Tracey

[andrea]

Looking good - personally I love the word "frock"....can't wait to see you all frocked up (as we like to say around here!)

[projgen]

I have such a great time looking at the pictures of the two of them, and noticing the differences and similarities. Like, Adam's skin is slightly darker than Kate's. Kate's hair looks softer. She's always looking at Adam like she idolizes him. They're so aware of each other. They...

Okay. I'll stop now.
Simply gorgeous.

[TexasMama]

Glad things seem to be going so much better. Your babies are (naturally!) adorable and I'm sure will look brilliant in their little outfits. Can't wait to see some pictures.

As for post-partum sex. Well, it ain't pretty. Maybe it's because I'm still nursing, but I have to say afer almost 21 months, I still have very little interest. I thought I missed it until I tried it. Now, if it weren't for the issue of holding a marriage together I could totally do without. Sad. I'll be interested to read the tips, if anyone has any for you.

[dana]

what's naff mean?

your babes are gorgeous!!

[ASM]

Oh, look at those babies' legs, they are porking up so nicely!

[Menita]

Glad you and the babes are doing well.
About your pediatrician: that is just too cruel. I wonder how he deals with it, having to deal with little kids and parents every day, no place to run away. How awful.

[Croupier]

Oh my God! The baby's arm! Wrapped around the other baby's arm! I am dead! From adorableness!

[Christine K]

Yeah, IF and Peds just don't go nicely together. Surprisingly, most of the in-office stuff didn't bother me that much (except for the parents who clearly didn't appreciate their amazing luck in having children). It was always the trips to the hospital postpartum wing that just ripped me apart.

That and the woman attending I had during training (during my first year of TTC) telling me on many occassions that I couldn't be a good pediatrician unless I had kids. Nice.

Those babies of yours are adorable - love the one where Kate's holding Adam's arm. Gorgeous pictures.

I hope you have good luck with getting a schedule going - it sounds like it would really help you out!

[Moxie]

Oh, and I meant to say that everyone at that wedding knows you have very young twins, so they'll be expecting you to look tired, poochy, and basically like a sleep-deprived hag. And since you're a sleep-deprived goddess, they'll all be gossiping about how you can look so great so soon post-partum and spreading the rumor that you're sleeping with your face in pickle brine.

Post-partum sex: Use lots of lube. And maybe have Rose take both babies out for a very long walk so you won't have the I-can't-quite-get-into-it-because-I'm-afraid
-the-baby-will-wake-up syndrome that really makes it suck. And not in the good way.

[Neety]

You? Back to work? Without the babies?
Reeeeally?
Do you think you'll be able to peel yourself away from them?

[Neety]

Oh, and I forgot to say, be careful, because you probably will fall pregnant now. It happens all the time remember? You know, the couple has been trying for 7 years, they finally adopt, bang, pregnant. Or the couple finally have twins, and then 2 months later the woman takes a sideways glance at sperm, and bang, she's pregnant. Happens ALL the time. So watch out Tertia!
:-)

[wessel]

Greasy hair tied up? A holey t-shirt? That sounds like ME, and I don't have twins as an excuse. Oh, and it's not the middle of the night for me, but the middle of the day. Hmmmm. I suppose I should try harder to. Let's see, I have a wedding coming up the end of April . . . :-)

Poor pediatrician. Man, that would be HELL, having to see babies all day when dealing with infertility. Same for OB's or RE's who are infertile. Yikes. I hope that he gets his twins.

You and babies seem to be falling into somewhat of a routine. Good work, Tertia, really.

[Graeme]

I love reading your entries. Such cute kids... :)

[Rachel]

Tertia -
Lucy is here!
www3.caringbridge.org/mo/babylucy
Rach

[katie]

SEX. I thought (harhar) that I was ready about four weeks post partum. AHEM. There does seem to be a reason why docs tell you to wait about six weeks. Yeah, we won't go there. Suffice it to say, take it easy, momma. After ten months and three days, I'm sure Marko is chomping at the bit....but maybe be like that pointer sisters' song, o.k.?

[j]

The babes are absolutely gorgeous. Do I see red hair? My Clare has red hair, and I am v. partial to redheads. They are looking to grown up!

You must post pictures of the babies in their cute wedding outfits. What does naff mean?

[Marin]

I love that picture with A & K on their tummies. They are shaped like a heart! It is so sweet to see them always touching. I bet they will be great friends.

Marin