How could I describe my mother-in-law? Interfering? Know-it-all? Disapproving? Shit-stirrer? Obsessed about her son? Painful?
I could use those words, but I would be lying. I am very fortunate that I have a great mother in law. And not because she is like a second mother to me, I already have a mother who is the best mother in the world so I don't need a second mother. I actually just like my mother in law as a person, very much. I am really lucky. She doesn't interfere, she doesn't judge. She doesn't think I am not good enough for son. Or at least that I know of ;-) My mother in law accepts me as the way I am - a woman who is older than her son, a non-cooking, undomesticated previous infertile who doesn't speak the same home language as she does and who makes her bring her own food for Sunday lunch. Not exactly stellar credentials as a daughter in law.
I know I am lucky, there are many who have mothers in law who could easily fit the description in the first paragraph. My mother in law rocks.
Dankie Ma, ek is baie lief vir jou.
PS Naturally, I will be a fantastic mother in law one day. That is of course, if there existed a future partner for my children who could ever be good enough for my precious darlings. Highly likely.