So, moving! Yes, it is true. We are moving to a new house. I haven’t mentioned anything before even though this has been going on for MONTHS already because we weren’t sure whether it would all come together. It’s been fairly stressful. Also, I didn’t want to mention it because we are moving into the house next door! As in, literally right next door. Which sounds a little weird, right? It’s just that we LOVE our security estate and don’t want to stay anywhere else, but we needed more space. And the house next door is HUGE. It has everything we need and more. So, we are moving, yay! Very exciting. We have been doing LOTS of renovations and fixing over the past week or so because the house sorely needed some serious attention. We move in at the end of the month. We are so super excited and we are at the house every single day (a few times a day) to check on the contractors and also just to admire our new house or jump on the trampoline J Kids are super excited.
There are a few things I have learnt through this process which I thought I would share with you:
- They say moving is stressful, which is true. However even more stressful is having to deal with the horrendous admin involved re contracts, attorneys, buyers, sellers, certificates, bond applications etc etc. It’s like a painful jigsaw puzzle
- Property attorneys are effing expensive and not always very user friendly. It makes me not like them very much.
- Marko and I are frightening efficient (anal). Everything is done 100% properly way before it is due. Not everyone is like this. In fact, few are. It’s frustrating.
- There are some serious bullshitters out there. We got an offer on our house in December. From a guy who made huge promises. Signed everything. I googled him and saw that he is a serial, international bullshitter. Needless to say the deal fell through, but only after he had strung us along for a month, basically wasting our time. I have strong feelings of hate towards him for conning us. However, according to Google, he has conned far more people out of much more money.
- Marko and I take really good care of our ‘stuff’. You could buy a used car from Marko and EVERYTHING would be in tiptop condition. It would literally be ‘like new’. Our house is always clean, neat, tidy, fixed, in good working order. Other people are not like this. Some people are VERY not like this. It is shocking how some people live. How badly they take care of things. How dirty they are. But perhaps they just aren’t arsed about ‘stuff’?
- Packing is a pain in the arse, but it is also a GREAT opportunity to do a cleanse and a purge. I am cleansing like you can’t believe. I am giving away mountains of stuff. We have way too much stuff. Plus I am so very unsentimental. It makes for some pretty significant purging.
- It is really, really great to take the plunge and pay for an extra month’s occupation rent just to have the house empty before you move. We have used this time to have the whole house painted, the cupboards repaired, carpets replaced, new electric wiring done, air cons put in, paving done, floors sanded, lights changed…. All the things that make a huge mess and are PAINFUL to do if you have to live in the house while they are doing it
- Having the house professionally cleaned before you move in is a non-negotiable.
- My husband is probably the BEST husband anyone could ever hope for when it comes to house moving / repairing / renovating. He has managed the entire fixing up process. Project plans, contract negotiations etc. Every single thing is taken care of. He is there every day, a few times a day checking on everyone, making sure everyone is doing what they should be doing. Doing some stuff himself. He is a machine.
- Selling my house was a lot less painful that I feared. I put this down to working with one of the best realtors / estate agents around. Manja from Realtors International Durbanville is amazing. For all the usual things like having good buyers / lots of opportunity / having a good network of associates / good staff as well, but more than that –she made whole experience of buying and selling unbelievably (relatively) painless. I never felt like it was an intrusion to have people come and look at our house. She always did it in such a way that it was of no inconvenience or intrusion to me. I was dreading that part, but it was such a non-issue. And she has not stopped being helpful – she arranged quotes from professional cleaners, she gave me contacts for window cleaners, for people who service blinds etc etc. I speak to her almost every day and she just carries on being helpful to us. Long after the deal has been signed and sealed. And let me tell you, Marko and I (mostly Marko) are PAINFUL customers. Painful. Everything has to be done TODAY. He was on everyone’s case all day, every day. I actually felt sorry for Manja. But I can see why Manja is so successful. She is just so damn good.
- Lastly, I have struggled with how very fortunate we are, especially in comparison to so many others. We have so much. We are so lucky. Through my purging and cleansing, I have given truckloads of stuff to Happiness. TVs, beds, DSTV decoders, tables, chairs, pots, pans, toys, lots and lots of stuff. Happiness doesn’t have a car so I take the stuff in my big car and I drop it off at her house in the township. She has a tiny RDP house. A tiny house in a dusty street with a thin barbed wire around it. And I stay in this huge house. It seems so wrong that the difference is so huge. It makes me feel sick actually. I can’t fix it all for her, but I am committed to helping her improve her circumstances, not only through donating stuff to her and paying her a really good salary, but also by upskilling her and helping her with her child who has disabilities. I feel that we each have a moral and ethical obligation to help those who are less fortunate than we are, no matter how much or how little we have.
Only 10 more days until we move! Super excited.