I love my mother very much, she is an amazing person. A survivor, a fighter, a hero. She has stood by me through thick and thin, she propped me up when I needed it most. I have always appreciated my mother, but never more so since I have had children. How she survived having four children without killing any of them or herself is a true testament to her strength. Plus she never even drank wine! The woman is a saint. Or crazier than I realized.
As I posted on Facebook recently, now that I am a parent, so much of my mother's parenting makes sense. None more so than her regular refrain: "unless you are bleeding or on fire, if it is after 8 o'clock I do not want to hear you or see you!" By the end of the day, I HAVE HAD ENOUGH! I love my children dearly, but by 8pm I do not want to see or hear them either. GO TO BED.
The post on Facebook elicited quite a few humorous responses, including my sister reminding me about another regular refrain from my mom: "arms length" - my mother used to put her arm out as if she was a traffic cop at an intersection and tell us that we had to stand at arms length away from her when we wanted to tell her something. Can you imagine having four children climb on you, tug at you, hang on your leg all day!
I hear myself channeling my mother often - almost repeating her expressions verbatim. My mother absolutely loves it! She thinks it is hysterical that her daughers all have shades of her in them as parents. As I said, it all makes sense now!
I would love to hear what expressions, rules or traits you have inherited from your mother or father? Do you find yourself saying things to your children that you hated when your mother said it to you as a child? Are you like your mother (or father) or are you totally different?