This post is in support of the "Blogging for LGBT Families Day". Click here for more info.
Unlike racial discrimination (which as a South African I am very sensitive to), discrimination against gay / trans-gender / lesbian or bisexual people hasn't really ever been part of my life's experience. Perhaps it is because South Africa has an amazing constitution that protects the rights of ALL people. Perhaps it is because the kind of people I hang out with are mostly accepting, non-judgemental people. Whatever the reason, before I started the egg donor and surrogacy program (www.nurture.co.za), I had no real idea about the type of discrimination LGBT people face when making choices about having a family.
The first few times I got an email from a gay person that started with "I am not sure whether you help gay people to have a family....." I was all like "huh? What do you mean? Of course we help gay people!" It just didn't enter my mind that there would be people that WOULDN'T help gay people in the same way they help straight people. In hindsight, I can see I was very naive. Gay parents face enormous discrimination and challenges in their desire to have a family.
I am PROUD to help gay people to have a family. In the same way I am proud to help straight people or single people or married people or whoever longs to have a family. Being a good parent is not about sexual orientation. It is not about one's marital status. Once you take everything away, it is about love. About love for the children, about love for each other. About love for one's self. And about love for your fellow humans - gay, straight or anything in between.
I am proud to be a supporter of the rights of ALL people to become parents.
For more information about egg donation and surrogacy, visit Nurture Egg Donor Program (www.nurture.co.za)
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