You know how it never seems to work out that you hit a lucky double - you really dig the parents of the child your kid really likes or your kids really like the child of the grown ups you really like? Well, I have scored a rare lucky double. My kids have a school friend who they BOTH like and who happens to have a mother and father I really like too! Yay!! The mom and I have become good friends. What is great is that both Adam and Kate like the friend. She is the perfect friend for both of them - cool enough (ie not too girly) for Adam to be friends* with and smart enough not to let Kate boss her around too much. The three of them play so nicely together. Except when Kate tells Adam that he can't play with them because it is for girls only. Such a sweet sister she is.
Anyhow, K (the friend) came to spend the evening with us last weekend as her parents had a function on. K was going to have supper at our house, bathe and go to sleep until her parents fetched her later.
Suddenly, after giving the issue very little prior thought, I was faced with the dilemma of whether it would be appropriate to put them all in the bath together. Adam and Kate bathe (btw, we say bath, not bathe. The 'e' is for you foreigners) together, but would K's mother be upset if I put her daughter in the bath with a boy? I didn't think she would (and I asked her afterwards, she said she would have been cool with it), but I didn't want to take the chance. One never knows what might upset other parents. I've become a bit paranoid about it especially as I know I am a bit of a free-for-all parent (certainly compared with the no-sugar / no-TV / no-anything-not-organic-granola-tree hugging brigade). So I said the girls could bath together and then the boys (Adam and Max) could bath together. Which worked out just fine.
I am interested to know what you would have done? Would you have let the three five-year-olds bathe together or not? Is it ok? And if you were the mother of a daughter (or a son for that matter) who was sleeping over at someone's house (therefore assuming a level of trust in the parents of the other child), would you have been ok with your daughter or son bathing with a child of the opposite sex? Or am I being over paranoid here? I think it is ok, but I've realized that my ok might not be another parent's ok.
Lastly, from what age would it no longer be appropriate for friends of the opposite sex to bathe together?
*Adam decided that K could be his girlfriend, but she regretfully informed him that unfortunately she is already spoken for. Adam took the rejection remarkably well.
The kids eating the nutritious meal I prepared for them with a little help from KFC
The girls freshly bathed and in their PJ while the boys are still in the bath: