Hello chickens, miss me? Apologies for being so scarce but there is no peace for the wicked. Can you believe I am only blogging about once a week now, atrocious. And to think for 4-5 years I blogged nearly every day. Can't think where I found the time. Just shows you how much time my business takes up, I don't have five minutes spare.
Speaking of blogging - you know how when you are single, you can't find a boyfriend for love or money and yet as soon as you are taken, there are a million guys interested in you? Well, the same thing seems to apply to my blog lately. Most people when they start out blogging are very keen on driving traffic to their blog and would do anything for some free publicity, high profile links etc. Now when I don't have the time to focus any energy on my blog, I am suddenly inundated with offers of free publicity - TV interviews, radio interviews, magazine articles etc. I had a TV show beg and plead for me to do an interview, they would fly me up to Joburg for the day, in and out, promise etc but I had to say no. I have been working so hard, and travelling so much that I don't want to be away from my family for even one day extra. I felt bad because they were so sweet about it, but I just can't. I missed my family terribly on my last trip away. And I am going away AGAIN next weekend for a conference, and then again two weeks later to London and Vienna for more conferences. Wonderful opportunities and I am really grateful for them, but oh my goodness, I miss my family terribly when I am away. I am such a wuss.
Moving on, yesterday was supposed to be our first school outing - a trip to the beach. The kids were SO excited, we have been counting the sleeps to the big day. All the kids were going to go in a bus and the parents were allowed to join the kids at the beach. Which is a nice idea as I can't imagine sending my kids on a school trip WITHOUT ME!
Cleverly I had arranged for my laptop to go in for some maintenance on Wed night / Thurs morning which meant I wasn't missing any work time. Unfuckingfortunately my laptop decided to break down completely and the effing thing is in for repairs UNTIL MONDAY!! I am without my work email for SIX EFFING DAYS. I didn't even take six days maternity leave and now I am expected to survive for six days without my business email? I am devastated. Anyhooooo...
Well, we woke up yesterday morning to rain but it was still warm and the forecast suggested that the rain would burn away. Alas, the school had to make a decision and they decided to cancel the trip. The children were SO disappointed. They have not been clingy at all at their new school but on hearing the trip was cancelled, they wrapped themselves around my legs and just about climbed up my bum. I felt so bad for them that I said I would take them out of school for the day and take them to the beach myself. GREAT excitement. Or as Adam would say "I am so incited Mom".
We had such a nice time there. I am afraid to say that I so seldom do things like that. I always have so much work to do that I seldom get the opportunity to devote 100% of my attention to them. Bad, I know.
We had a fab time, we walked along the beach, (they) swam in the rock pools, (Kate) collected rocks, (Adam) pulled along big pieces of seaweed. Lots of fun.
We then went do collect the air tickets etc and had a walk around the mall. Where there was a kids party expo happening, with lots of jumping castles, rides etc everywhere. GREAT excitement. The kids had so much fun and I was a lovely mom, waiting patiently for them to go on everything.
Then we came to the coolest thing ever - those big see-through plastic balls that you climb inside and roll around in the water. The reaction of the twins was so typical - Kate immediately ran forward and started yelling "I want to do it, I want to do it" and Adam ran backwards saying "I am scared, noooooo..." Then he started crying for Kate out of worry for her. Very different, my two children.
Kate was excellent in that ball. It is actually exhausting doing it and you keep falling over but she carried on and on. I was laughing so much my throat was sore. Everyone was looking at this little five year old rolling around in this huge ball.
I then bought them biltong, juice and a blow up dog. BEST mother in the world.
Except for the part where they decided to disobey me by (Adam) not coming out the jumping castle and by (Kate) hiding away from me and I shouted at them in front of all the staff inside Incredible Connection. But that incident only lasted a few minutes so on a percentage basis, it was a fantastic day and I was the best mother ever.
To end, you know how you sometimes have those moments where you look at your life as if from the outside - taking a mental snapshot of the moment and you think "wow, I can't believe this is my life". I had a moment like that this morning. I was walking the kids to their classroom and they were skipping ahead of me with their blow-up balloon dogs on a ribbon, backpacks on their back. I had Max on my hip and in the other hand I was carrying a cake (store bought (Woollies) not home baked, obviously.) I thought 'wow, here I am - mother to three children. With a cake. And lucky enough to be able to work from home allowing me to drop my kids off at school myself and fetch them at midday'. I am so so so lucky. I am lucky and so filled with gratitude that this is my life. Quite sappy I know.
Speaking of sappy, I did a terrible thing the other day. My husband was being really nice to me, saying the most wonderful things about how much he loved and missed me while I was away. Which is a big thing for him as he is not the biggest chatter in the world. And then he paused and said "I really mean that, I know it sounds quite......" and then he paused again, and assuming that he was struggling for the right word, I offered up "Sappy?" He was horrified! He said that he was trying to be loving and romantic and I called it sappy! But I thought that is what he was going to say! I didn't think it was sappy, I thought it was sweet and lovely and I was really touched. I don't think he has quite forgiven me yet.
Well, that's enough for now. In the absence of my work laptop (sob), I have decided to tidy up my study and do other general admin chores. Best I move my ass. Later dudes xx















Life has been busy around here. I just can't seem to find the time to work and I want to. lol
I keep counting down until the crew is out of school (4/30!!!) for the summer.
Trying to convince my Mom and Grandma to drive down for Spring Break...if they can't, will you send Rose? or would it be best to just ship A to you're house?
Miss you! xo
Posted by: In Due Time | 26 February 2010 at 10:51 AM
You are the best mom ever Tertia! (no I am not cynical - being supportive here)
Posted by: cat@juggling act | 26 February 2010 at 11:34 AM
It's just been valentines day, and as you are such a fan, I think you have full licence to be sappy!!! I also have the odd rare moment, in between killing my kids and burying a meat cleaver in husbank, that I also think what a lucky lady I am, and how much I love my life. And then i wake up and smell the dirty nappies... mwahahaha! I do really love my life x
Posted by: Kirsty | 26 February 2010 at 12:14 PM
You're adorable. Keep up the good work.
Posted by: Cris | 26 February 2010 at 03:32 PM
Hey Tertia - as the only remaining (as far as I can tell) person on Earth who has been reading you and the rest of the original Vagina Possee since day 1 who has not succeeded in having a child yet - can I steal some of your publicity? Though I'm not in SA, I am an attention whore who recently started blogging (after a 3 year hiatus because 19 IVFs, 2 surrogates and 3 egg donors later, I was shall we say "pissy"...)
I don't have any commenters. Please visit me. :*(
Posted by: Smumzie | 26 February 2010 at 06:22 PM
erm that would be commentORS. I can spell. Don't judge me!
sorry
Posted by: Smumzie | 26 February 2010 at 06:23 PM
moments of gratitude for the awe our lives have become. Its cool, isn't it??
hugs, Tertia!
Posted by: Suzi in Vegas | 26 February 2010 at 07:37 PM
I love those moments, when I look outside in at my life and love it, because there are more moments where I feel so stressed by my life. And don't you have a blackberry so you can check your e-mail without your laptop? Or an I-phone or something? I am shocked.
Posted by: Jean | 27 February 2010 at 12:46 AM
Thanks for the update Tertia. I look at my life sometimes and think the same thing - that it is wonderful and that I am really lucky. Except for the incredibly messy house...
P.S.
I wasn't trying to be an asshole on Twitter - I just sometimes think I am funny when I am not. Sad, but true!
Heather Ann
Posted by: Heather Ann | 27 February 2010 at 02:07 AM
Apparently you fell asleep at your computer. You are mentioned in my limerick for Weebles Wobblog Limerick Chick contest.
Posted by: Erica | 27 February 2010 at 10:26 PM
Sounds like a wonderful day!!! Sorry to hear about your computer.
Posted by: Heather | 28 February 2010 at 03:42 AM
You Won! Congratulations!
twitter.com/bloggies
Being announced now.
Posted by: Susan in CA | 01 March 2010 at 03:36 AM
congratulations on your bloggies win !
Posted by: Trish | 01 March 2010 at 03:52 AM
Oh my god, I must try one of those plastic balls NOW!
Posted by: Louise Sloan | 01 March 2010 at 06:28 PM
I've been having quite a few moments like you just described, looking in on your own life from the "outside". We just had our 3rd son two weeks ago today, and I STILL can't totally wrap my head around it all. (Ok, I guess that's a little different than what you were talking about, but I'm still amazed at my life now.)
Posted by: Rebekah | 02 March 2010 at 04:51 AM
you are coming to Vienna! That's where I live!
Posted by: AMH | 02 March 2010 at 12:40 PM
Hey T.!
You know, this is such a snug post, so unlike the usual sharp and edgy and witty ROFLMAO posts - and yet, you SO deserve it...
Today is a slow day at work (hate it actually - one could do so much mor with one's time than sitting before a PC on days like this...), so I've been on the internet for hours and also went through some of your old posts, like that special one on infertility reflections (and it still echoes with me, after so many years, though i'm also one of the lucky ones who've made it to the other side...)
And after revisiting those pages it reminded me just HOW MUCH you deserved a post like today's one!
Just thought I'd say so.
WELL DONE GIRL!
Posted by: Dido | 02 March 2010 at 03:25 PM
that is best ball I ve seen, real safe, cant wait for my lill wanker to try it
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Posted by: MURIELSargent21 | 08 March 2010 at 05:40 AM
Woah.. seems like a series of unfortunate events huh. :) Hmmm.
anyways it ended to be one of your best days and I'm very glad to know that. Your kids are very cute. God Bless.. :)
Posted by: medieval clothes | 08 March 2010 at 01:56 PM