When Sister Mel had her first child 13 years ago, she was quite an ethno-bongo (tree-hugger / granola type). She said that her son would not play with guns and there would be no toy guns in the house. However, it wasn't long before he was fashioning make-believe guns out of old marijuana branches and shooting pow-pow at imaginary baddies.
I have much lower standards and looser morals than my sister and the toy
Adam came home from Mimi and Pops the other day with a REAL
My children started an annoying habit last year where they want to take something to school every day to show the rest of the kids. Something new / exciting etc. It's annoying because they are not allowed to bring their own toys to school so I have to schlep it to the class, and then schlep it all home again.
Anyway, Adam obviously wanted to take his 'weal gun' to school to show his friends and I had to tell him he couldn't because some moms don't like guns and would judge his mother for allowing him to play with a gun and then they will talk about me behind my back and label me etc. Well, I just said that some moms don't like children to play with guns. A conversation we have had to rehash a million times. "But why don't some moms like it when their children play with guns?" "Which moms?" On and on. Anyway, I've stood firm. The gun can come with in the car, but it can't come out. The gun has travelled to and from school every day this week and last week.
Then, yesterday as I put them in the car after I went to fetch them, my phone rang. I was standing next to the car with the door open chatting to whoever was on the phone. Next thing, Adam is by the open door, proudly showing his gun to the other kids (and their moms), saying "LOOK, I GOT A WEAL GUN, AND IT HAS GONE WEAL BULLETS IN IT". I couldn't get off that phone fast enough. I giggled nervously and said in a falsetto voice "oh, haha, don't be silly Adam, its not a REAL gun and it certainly doesn't have REAL bullets in it, nowputitawayandgetinthecarimmediately".
OMG! Now they are all going to hate me. I saw the look the one mother gave me (only has girl children who clearly don't have weal guns with weal bullets in them). Sigh.
I don't know. I don't think it will do any harm for Adam to play with the gun but I am obviously not 100% convinced about it because otherwise I wouldn't be so anxious about other people seeing.
I really don't think that playing with a toy gun is going to make him any more or any less violent. In my gut, I don't feel this. I am not sure what it is about toy guns that upsets some mothers (and I am sure I am about to be enlightened why), but I am actually way WAY more concerned about violent computer games and TV programs where 'baddies' explode / have their heads chopped off / fighter planes shoot each other out the sky etc than I am about toy guns.
How do you feel about toy guns? Do you let your boys & girls have toy guns in their toy box? Is a water pistol in the pool allowed? What about those squirting water tube things? A sword? Where do you draw the line?