Actually, I am more interested in what you would do because I think I am a lot more like you than I am like Jesus. (Although apparently Jesus and I share a fondness for wine, we do seem to have a fair amount in common then)
What would you do if someone did something really wrong towards you, something that was unequivocally wrong. The person abused your trust and betrayed you. And you had the opportunity to expose them in a way that would get them into trouble for what they did. Would you do it? Would you invest the (negative) energy that it would take to expose them or would you walk away?
I am in that situation at the moment, and I am not sure what to do. 99% of the time when something like this happens, I walk away. Being a naturally anxious person, I am extremely reluctant to add even the slightest bit more anxiety to my life and taking revenge / getting someone back / exposing them would make me very anxious. Actually any negative energy makes me anxious. (actually, everything makes me anxious!)
As an example, those who have been reading this blog for a while might remember a little spat I once had with another blogger. In a nutshell, this person was really nasty to me, completely unprovoked. She said and did a whole lot of ugly things that really hurt and upset me. I exposed her for what she did which resulted in quite a severe backlash (for her). She had to close her blog down and lay low for a while. And you know what, I still feel bad for her. Even though she was really horrible to me and even though I didn't do anything to her myself, I still worry about whether she felt hurt, or whether she was sad. Still today. I am an asshole.
I have been in many other situations where people have done me wrong, but I have never taken revenge. Even when someone is horrible to me, I just can't be deliberately nasty or horrible back. Not because I am a good person or because of any moral / ethical reason, but because i feel other people's hurt/shame/embarrassment/pain so keenly, even when that someone else is someone really horrible. I feel bad for everyone. It is actually quite exhausting.
But this time I am really cross. I am cross because I trusted this person, took them on their word and they lied and betrayed me. I am so pissed off about it. It has cost me dearly. I have the opportunity to expose them, but even thinking about it makes me anxious. Do I waste my precious time on this? So I was taken for an (expensive) ride, just write it off as a lesson learnt. Except - aarrgghh! I can't believe this person lied and cheated and abused my trust!
This is the longest I have ever deliberated about a situation like this. I hate that I have wasted three weeks of my life thinking about this. I have written to the person, telling them how disappointed I am, giving them the opportunity to make it right, but they are ignoring me, hiding from me. It wont be hard to expose them, to track them down. I am *this* close to going public on this, to shaming this person publicly. But do I want to go there? Aarrgghhh!!!
What should I do? What would you do? Would you pursue getting justice? Would you invest the energy it took to expose them? Or would you write off to experience and just move on with your life. Do you take revenge and if so, does it make you feel better? Or do you just feel worse afterwards?