A month ago, at exactly this time on a Friday morning, I got a call from my mother. She was crying so much I could hardly hear what she was saying. What I could make out were words that felt like a punch to the gut. "Your father's just had a stroke. I was talking to him and one minute he was fine and the next minute he was slurring and mumbling. They have just rushed him to ICU".
After having lived through a week of anxiety and fear that saw him have two heart attacks and open heart surgery all within 7 days, I thought this was the end. I was absolutely terrified to see him that day, but I knew I had to. I wasn't sure I would get another chance.
And it was terrible to see him. Here was my father, but it wasn't my father. It was a tiny, confused man who didn't know what was going on. Quite honestly, besides the death of my son, it was the worst time of my life. I thought that at best, my father would be permanently mentally and physically disabled. At worst, well.....it could hardly bear to think about it.
Well, fast forward a month and not only has my father made an amazing recovery, but he has embraced his second youth and bought a camper van thingy! Wooo hoooo!!! I am SOOOOOO proud of my dad and his erstwhile sidekick, Nurse Ratchet. Who, to be honest, should be credited for his amazing recovery as she refused to give up on him, or allow him to give up on himself for one single second. She MADE him get up every day and go for a walk to rebuild his strength, even though all he wanted to do is lie in bed. She MADE him eat even though he had no appetite. And of course, she was the one that MADE him go to the hospital that Sunday when he said he was sure his chest pains were just gas. Behind every successfully alive man is a woman who might be called bossy by her spouse, but whose love ensures they carry on living!
I am so so so so proud of my parents, and even though I was initially very anti them getting the mobile home*, I am also excited now and I can't wait to hear about your amazing adventures in your new van. Well done Pops, well done Mimi, I love you.
*I was anti the mobile home for a few reasons. Firstly, it is expensive. Secondly, I worry a little about my parent's health, especially if they are going to be far away. But to be honest, the main reason I was anti is that it meant THEY WOULD LEAVE ME for a few weeks and how would I cope without them. But them I remembered I was 40 and they were 60 and maybe it is time to allow my parents to leave me for a bit. But only a bit.
PS Dont go away for too long at a time. The fish will miss you. (ok, I really mean I will miss you)
The very impressive camper van
The bathroom. The spaz kids are an optional extra.
The main bedroom. (Kids extra, but the mother will pay for them to go with the grandparents)
Pops and Mimi sitting up front (excuse the plastic covering on the floor, I should have removed that before I took the pics, it was to keep the seats clean during the van's service)
My handsome, strong, brave, clever father and his beloved dog Nancy