As you might remember, Adam has been on a break from his OT sessions since our OT pushed us out the nest a year or so ago. As she was herding me out the door, assuring me that although Adam didn’t need any more OT sessions at the moment, *I* was welcome to keep bringing him if it made me feel better, she told me that although he was done for now, it was quite likely that he would be back every now and then for some maintenance sessions.
About two months ago, I noticed that he was being a little um, what’s the right word? Difficult? Needy? Sensitive? Slightly pain-in-the-ass'ish? All of the above. So back to OT we went, opting for twice a month sessions. Last week the OT said she thinks we should come once a week as his sensory issues seem a little high at the moment. On Monday she said she thinks we should go see a speech therapist as Adam might have mild oral dyspraxia (low muscle tone in his mouth). Sigh.
Isn’t it funny how when someone points something out to you, it all of a sudden becomes very noticeable. Just that morning my mother had asked me whether the OT had remarked on Adam’s lisp. No I said, I hadn’t really noticed.
Last Friday, all the kids were playing a game at school where you do funny actions with your tongue. You know, curl it up between your teeth, roll it around, wag it from side to side. Adam couldn’t do any of it. (BTW, Kate is absolutely brilliant at it. Me? Useless as well)
The OT said that she was just a bit concerned that Adam was drooling a little, and that his tongue sticks out quite a bit. Marko is forever telling him to put his tongue back in his mouth, but I’ve always thought it was kind of cute. You know how some kids stick their tongue out when they concentrate? Adam does that, but perhaps more often than he should.
The OT said it doesn’t seem very serious, but we don’t want the other kids to tease him at school and say ‘Hey Adam, why is your tongue always out!” so off to the speech therapist we go. Obviously Marko thinks it is all a load of bollocks, but I am of the opinion that it can’t harm to get it checked out, and if they can give him some exercises to help, then why not.
I don’t think there is anything ‘wrong’ with Adam, no more than there is with me (one could argue that there is LOTS wrong with me!), he has similar sensory issues to what I have, but if I can help him make his life a bit easier, then I am going to do whatever it takes. He will be fine, whether I take him to OT / speech therapy or not, but while I have the capacity to give him these extra boosts, I will do it.
But I have to say, it does make me feel a little heart sore and a little tired at the thought that any of my children might have to face even the slightest challenge or difficulty in life. We all want our children to have happy, healthy, non-challenging lives. And it does seem that for a sensitive, sensory child like Adam, life can be just a touch more challenging than for a take-no-prisoners child like Kate.
But it also makes me realize how very, very lucky I am that my child’s ‘challenges’ are so mild, when there are those who face FAR more severe challenges than any of us. One of my favourite bloggers in the world has twin girls who were very premature, one of whom faces some of these challenges and I am reminded in times like these of my friend’s grace and strength, as well the grace, strength and beauty of her daughters.
And then, I am also always amazed at how these two children of mine, who shared a womb, the same genetic pool and a very similar upbringing, can be so very different. They shared the same pod, but these two peas are very, very different. And I am grateful for that, because I am not sure what I would do if both of them were the same flavor, whether that flavor was super-sensitive or super-stubborn as it is with the two of them!
(PS Maybe I will strike it lucky and Max will be an obedient, well behaved child who always does as his mother says. But then again, based on previous experience, probably not.)
PPS Adam is wearing his sulky face because I let Kate hold Max first. What a little joy he can be sometimes.