Let's say there is some one who has crossed your path in one way or another (ex friend / ex acquaintance / ex boyfriend / ex whatever). You do not get on with this person, and you've bumped heads a few times, but you've chosen to end all ties and move on.
The person either has a blog, or posts on a website / bulletin board that you used to frequent, but you've realized that every time you read what they have written, it either angers you or hurts you. You could, I suppos, tackle them on the things they infer or imply (all of which are blatently untrue), but it really isn't worth it. They are just being a bitch, and you don't want to dignify their irrational outpourings with a response. In fact you are hoping they will just get over themselves and find another victim/topic/drama.
So, here is the thing - what would you do? Would you keep going back to read what they have written, or might write, or would you just simply not look? Not go back to the bulletin board / blog?
I try not to look. I try take the logical approach of: I know they are totally in the wrong, I know that they are being irrational and unfair, and nothing I can do is going to change their minds, so I might as well not upset myself by reading the drivel.
And yet, I don't always succeed. I go back. And I get upset all over again.
I've done it in one situation. I have managed to click that little X in the top right hand corner for good, but in another situation, I find myself still going there every once in a while.
I should not care. I should brush it off and chalk it up to the person's craziness, but it's hard not to let the barbs slip through.
BUT! As often happens when writing up a blog post, writing this all down has just been good therapy for me, and I am not going there anymore. It really isn't worth it, THEY really aren't worth it. Life is too short to suffer assholes gladly.
(ok, but I still want to know from you - would you go back to see what they have written, if only for a while, or are you strong enough to look away? Is it easy for you not to 'care', or are you like me, you care too much at times. Marko can totally not care. If someone is being an asshole / unfair etc, he just doesn't care. I wish I had more of that.)