My husband’s online addiction

The whirring of the computer gives him away. He is online again, surfing those sites. He tilts the screen away from me so that I can’t see what he is doing, but I know that look in his eye – part lust, part guilt. Full on longing. 

As image after image downloads, I see his eyes dart furiously across the screen, looking, lusting, searching. Searching for what? He knows he can’t ever get it, but perhaps the thrill lies in the fantasy, the wild dream of what could be.

“Why do you do it to yourself?” I ask. “You know how I feel about it; you are only making it harder for yourself.” He says I don’t understand, I’ll never understand. It’s a male thing, he tells me. It’s part of their DNA. No matter how much they love what they have; there is a part of them that always wants more. 

He says it is harmless, he is just looking. It doesn’t mean anything, he says, but how can I be sure? How do I know he won’t take the next step? How do I know that in a moment of weakness, all that lusting and longing might turn into action?

I’ve told him I will leave him if that happens. We are NOT getting a new car, we can’t afford it and we don’t need it, I don’t care how much of a bargain it is. Damn you Autotrader for feeding my husband’s car obsession, damn you! 

Comments

[Jude]

My husband's latest online addiction is surfing for parts for our new 1980 Vespa! I call it "Scooter porn"! He gets absorbed for hours at a time looking for some obscure bit or bob. I feel ya!

[Mallix]

You guys should end it before this becomes YOUR obsession

[Gustav Bertram]

Hey Jude, (hehe)

Isn't "new 1980 Vespa" an oxymoron?

[Becky]

Hubby is obsessed with motorcycles - though he knows that is NOT happening. Now he's trying to convince me that their great gas mileage is reason enough to purchase one. Nice try.

:) Becky

[kristylynne]

Ha, this is too funny. My husband does the same thing, with Porsches, trucks and Airstream trailers. As if we need any of the above. I don't understand why he tortures himself like that!

[kbreints]

Great post! My husband too has this obsession.. however he comes home with new cars all the time. It isa good thing he knows how to re-build them! He buys them salvage and fixes them. I never know wht I will be driving!

[sheilah]

Heh...I knew it was cars...

Marko, you dog, you!

[Allie]

*sigh* Mine too, and he just bought a brand new Chrysler PT Cruiser. I feel your pain. Not three days after buying his new toy, not only was he online, he was devouring the cars section in the paper.

Guess it's a guy thing.

[Jan]

At my house it's boats.

[Nixgrim]

Nope - in our relationship, that's me you're describing! I want a new MPV. I have all sorts of good reasons why, but to be honest, I just want a cool car. So it's not just a guy thing, definitely not!

[Leslee]

At my house it's DVDs... and comic books... and CDs. I keep telling him that we don't have any more wall pace for bookshelves, but he DOES NOT LISTEN!

[Bottonz]

My house it is cameras and every possible thing that goes with it, I feel your pain T !

[angel]

mwaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahahahahahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

[Julia]

Oh, I hear you! I just finished "guiding" my husband into selling all the cars we weren't driving and emptying out the garage. Now he's been haunting the internet ever since, coming to me with stories of unwanted BMW's that are available for almost no money. "They just need a little work, honey".

If I didn't love him so much, I'd kill him.

[Jerri Ann]

I'm hurting from laughing...you do me so wrong girl!

[HH]

I'm doing the same thing but with houses. Love it!

[Dani]

In my house, it's porn. heh.

[Dani]

KIDDING!

(see above)

[Bianca W]

Waaaa ha ha Dani!!

T - seems you are not alone. I have the EXACT same thing in my house!

[Tripsmom]

My husband did the same and in the end HE BOUGHT THE DAMM CAR - and now I will NEVER be able to stop working as we have to PAY THE DAM CAR!!! Just a warning.

[jacki janse van rensburg]

i scour the web, looking for new blogs. oooh, more blogs. blogs, blogs, more blogs....

[morgan faulkner]

OMG you are farging hilarious.

Before the babykins arrived, I drooled over the websites with organic baby linen and posh baby clothes. I called it "infertility porn" !

Molls

[Annelie]

LOL, this is hilarious, in our house its Fertility treatments, i am permanently on my best friend "google" trying to look for new ideas and blends.