Marko works incredibly long hours and has been away from home quite a lot lately. If I wasn’t such a lovely domesticated wife who gave him lots of sex and home cooked meals, I would be worried he was having an affair. Oh…wait….
Anyway, the poor guy works really hard and so it is really unfair of me to get just a tiny bit cross that he sees so little of the kids. But I can’t help it. I want him to tell his employer that he has a FAMILY, a young family at that, and he can’t spend 12, 13, 14 hours a day at work. Marko says that is just how it is and employers don’t care about the fact that you have a family at home. I think that’s BS and there is no way on this earth that I would accept not seeing my kids.
I know, I know, it isn’t always as easy as that, and I am very lucky that I can work the hours I do, but dammit, I think that sometimes we (read him) need to put our foot down and say ‘this is my family’s time’.
I am going away for two days soon and my mom can’t fetch the kids from school. Which means I am going to have to ask Marko to do it and I am already stressing about asking him because I know how stressed he get about it. If it was me, I would say “listen Boss, I have to fetch my kids from school. End of story.” But I know Marko will get all stressed about the fact that he has to actually take a lunch break that is longer than five forking minutes.
I know I shouldn’t get cross about it, it isn’t fair towards Marko. It is just that I miss him and I know the kids miss him too. Am I being an asshole? I probably am, right? Blech. Don’t you hate it when you are cross about something when you know you aren’t really allowed to be cross? It makes you even more cross!
some companies and countries are better at work-life balance than others. IBM
for example is really great about it, and I think it works both ways – it benefits
the employees AND it benefits the company. Gone are the days where you were expected to give up your whole life for
your job. Well, at least for me.
Tell me what your work / life balance is like in your home / job / company or country. It is good? Bad? Fair? (Apparently the Americans only get two weeks paid vacation time a year? The horror! We get at least four weeks. So perhaps I should stop complaining about how hard my poor husband has to work.)