You underestimate him

I get the feeling that in light of my recent posts, you are feeling a little sorry for Marko. Please don’t. You are seriously underestimating him if you do.

Up until I met Marko at the ripe old age of 29, my longest relationship was 10 months. All my other relationships (bar one) had fizzled out because they ended up with me dominating the relationship, and the man, in such a way that I lost total respect for the guy. Until I met Marko.

Even though Marko is five years younger than I am, he is the first guy I have ever been with that absolutely does not take my shit. I am an old fashioned girl at heart; I need my man to be a take charge kind of guy. I need a man who is strong enough to deal with my forceful personality, and gentle enough to look after my fragile soul. Marko is all of that, and more. 

That stuff about making him stand there and do that when he is picking the kids up from school? Please don’t think he listens to me when I say stuff like that. (The man NEVER listens to me about ANYTHING!) It doesn’t worry him in the slightest. He does his own thing, no matter what I say. He listens to me when he knows it is important to me, but Marko has a mind of his own, and he does what he feels is best. 

It makes me cross sometimes; how stubborn and unpliable he is, but I secretly love it. I love that he doesn’t take my crap. I love that he is his own man and I can’t walk all over him.  Even though I pretend to moan, I need him to be just the way he is. He is perfect for me and I hope that I am perfect for him.

So, don’t feel sorry for him, at all. That man is the strongest man I know. He has to be, with a wife like me.

PS you DO know that I write for effect and I obviously caricature myself in a way that is far worse than reality? Right? I am bad, but not that bad. 

Comments

[Boulder]

Darling, you underestimate us - we'll always think you are an asshole!

xoxo

[blackbird]

I?
Have never and would never feel sorry for Marko.
You two are peas in a pod.

[JuliaKB]

Never doubted it-- after all these years and the road you two walked, I am pretty sure you are more or less (more, more) perfect for each other.

[Lindsay]

After everything you two have been through, I have not a shadow of doubt that you are PERFECT for each other!
A friend of mine gave me some advice when we started the IVF road- that was to look after your marriage because by their third IVF, their marriage was nearly over. It still hasn't recovered. It was good advice and we ave worked hard on it!

[maddy]

I think I remember you saying Marko was classified as a "field marshall" personality. My husband is the same type according to that test. So I totally get it. I read that the "field marshall" needs a spouse who is also strong or there will be trouble! I tease my husband about his often unyielding strength of mind, but I wouldn't change it (even tho' I complain!)

[Sue at eLuckypacket]

Maybe you need to have Marko do a guest post -- to set the record straight once and for all ;-) Of course that would be useless: "Hello this is Marko. Tertia writes here. Not me." The End.

[tess]

sometimes it's easier to be sarcastic about our spouses and their little habits because if we wrote about the love that just sears at our hearts we'd be a poor imitation of yeats.
we can see through you my darling tee, no worries.
xo

[Lisa]

I wrote before that Marko reminds me of my boyfriend. I was driving to work this morning, listening to some men on the radio talking about how their wives make them do things, and I thought, "My boyfriend would never take orders from me!" But then I thought, "I'm really glad he doesn't!" I don't think I'd like to have someone who I could just bark orders at and have him jump to fulfill him. He won't take orders, and he doesn't always do things that way *I would* but he will do anything for me as long as I ask nicely.

[Melissa]

I have no idea who took it the wrong way, but I never thought anything else. I think Marko is perfect for you. You're the talker. I am in our relationship. It looks like I'm in charge, but that's not remotely how it works. Marko cracks me up! I can totally imagine him with a wry smile on his face (slightly indulgent which would irritate the crap out of you at the time, but make you laugh later) as you go on about how to pick the kids up and where to stand, knowing that he'll do it his way and it'll all be fine.

He knows you need to be that way, and he loves you for it. BUt he's pretty happy to cruise along and get it done. Mine is the same. :)

[Kez]

Have always totally got your posts about Marko. It is obvious you have a magic relationship and he is the perfect bloke for you.

I *heart* Marko.

[robyn]

you have impecable taste(obviously)
of course you would choose someone that balances you in every way!
and on a personal note ,i dont know any girl that came out of "the valley" that was'nt a drama queen.
sometimes it feels like you are writing my heart(how did you know?)

[thrice]

OMG! You are NOT going to leave this post up? Are you? What happens if he reads it? Ack!!!

[Rebecca]

Wow, you and Marko sound A LOT like my husband and myself. I'm pretty sure I either scared away any man in my life or dumped them because they were too weak and I ended up dominating them (which I didn't like). In most areas I can say almost all the same things you say about Marko!

[Sister Mel]

Strong enough for your shit but careful with your fragile soul, thats pretty amazing. He does get points for his behavior this weekend, he is clearly not 'the jerk.'

[Melissia]

Of course he is perfect for you, that comes through in your posts. His strength is what brought you through the other side and gave you the courage to keep fighting the infertility battle. We get it. On a less squishy side, how would be happy with a stay at home wife who cooks him those horrible meat and bland veg meals? He would be bored silly and fat! He is perfect for you and you are perfect for him. It is nice to see.

[Wenchy]

That is TOTALLY my kinda guy also,.