Spit or swallow or No Thank You, not for me

I know this is a little risqué, but its not as if you are a bunch of blushing virgins, now are you!

A friend of mine (truly!) wants to know the answer to this question, and I said I would ask all of you. Because, besides the one or two assholes that lurk on this blog, I would say you probably represent the ‘average’ (incredibly good looking, witty and charming) woman out there.

My friend’s (seriously, it is not me who wants to know, I really do have a friend who wants to know this stuff) husband is trying to convince her that there are women out there who really, truly love giving copious amounts of oral sex to their husbands and who, according to him, actually love like don’t mind swallowing.

So dear average woman, is my friend’s husband a lying bastard, or does he have a point? (no pun intended)

Edited to add: My friend and her husband were laughing and teasing each other when they asked me to post this question. It was more about teasing each other than him making her do something she didn't want to do, promise. It was a tongue in cheek (penis in mouth?) type of thing.

Comments

[stephanie]

Wow, first to answer! Umm, well, I personally enjoy giving, and do enjoy swallowing- can be very sensual. BUT, doing it that way can leave the woman feeling rather unfulfilled, and really, who likes getting all worked up and then being left hanging?
We tend to incorporate it into our foreplay prior to sex, so that both can enjoy it- but all be fully satisfied in the end;-) A bj to the finish, so to speak, is a rare event in this house.

*Blushing* The things I tell the internets!

[sagewinna]

Oral is usually a warm up activity. Love to give it (and get it), but we never finish that way.

[Skippy]

From my very non-scientific survey of friends and their surveys of other friends and so on, it would seem that there is a strong correlation between those who likes olives and those who like to swallow (this works for women and for gay men). I'd be interested in another poll for some more data. However, for those of us in the know, it's fun to sit at parties and watch who keeps going back for more olives...

[Anonymous]

I am a beiever, I have to say. I don't particularly love to give them, but I don't mind the giving of them really. I am not particularly fond of the "big finish", but I do it anyway, all the way, because it seems to be a really big deal to him. In fact, I have a sort of "committment" to myself to do it, all the way, and usually in and of itself, at least once a month. I think it makes a happier husband, at least at our house. I will be very interested, indeed, to read your other comments...

[Tertia]

Skippy! hahahahaaaaaaaaaaa!!!! omg, i am so glad you shared that with us. will never look at those olive eaters in the same way again.

ps I think you might be right. I am 'so so' about olives. Don't hate them, but wouldn't miss them if they weren't around. Which pretty much sums up my attitude towards BJ's as well.

[Wendy]

what is other?

[Orange]

First of all, whether other women like to swallow or not is completely irrelevant in this case. She doesn't want to swallow, and she is his partner. End of story.

Sounds like he's picking up his "knowledge" of women's sexual likes from porn. I recently read this terrific roundup, from a woman in the sex industry, of the inaccuracies of porn. She says porn is not good for sex education, and viewers shouldn't assume that what they see reflects people's habits and preferences out here in reality. You can read it here. (Warning: it uses explicit terms.)

[Melody Brown, Cape Town]

Right now, I am gobsmacked that 25% are swallowers. I have not yet met a woman (you know how we talk) who has admitted to swallowing. wow. And I have only recently started enjoying olives.....maybe I shld try again? Um, no.

[Orange]

Wendy: Perhaps "Other" means gargling. That's what I'm gonna type in there!

[Tertia]

These are the 'other' answers so far:

get out of the way really quickly
Both are awful, so I sStop before it becomes an issue - too bad for him
Pre-Pregnancy = Swallow, Post-Pregnancy = No Thank you Never again
oral but not to climax

[Type (little) a]

Who is answering "No Thanks"?

How do you avoid giving blowjobs? Can we really do that? Is that an option? I used to HATE them, but that was when I was with a very selfish partner, and otherwise, ahem, very inexperienced sexually. Now, I actually enjoy it. Sometimes I even ASK for it. And I LOVE olives.

[Julie]

I LOVE olives
(....and that's all I am prepared to say on the subject - other than to add that hubby REALLY likes the fact that I love olives.......)

[DebbieS]

"Olive" the comments on this post! I won't voluntarily buy olives and eat them but I won't scrape them off the pizza, either. So to speak ;) Oral is a warm-up, mostly, that I enjoy very much, but I don't really end up finishing him off that way often enough to make a deal about not swallowing. My BFFE from college gave me the best advice ever when I was worried about it (long before I ever had to put it into practice!), and said that I would have so much saliva in my mouth at that point that it wasn't worth worrying about. And she was right! Although, don't ever try it with a guy who's been eating shrimp or lobster, even if you like seafood. BLECCCCH!

Diet peach Sn*apple is the best post-oral beverage, btw!

[Jess]

I am definitely a "no thanks" gal. We rarely do it to the finish because it hurts my jaw (and is good foreplay!) but when we do, he is Not Allowed to come in my mouth. As in, I would be very pissed if he did.

I agree though, that whether or not other women do it is irrelevant - if she doesn't want to, she shouldn't.

[Amanda]

Don't like olives, but don't mind the big finish. I have found the longer I am with my husband, the more I like giving, I'm not sure if it's because I'm better at it, or they are rarer (and therefore more appreciated) or what.

[Amber]

i agree with the first comment. enjoy giving, don't finish that way. the idea of spitting completely grosses me out, i mean the texture of that stuff isn't really conducive to easy spitting. have swallowed a few times, absolutely hate it.

[thrice]

Can anyone really say they enjoy the taste of semen? Come on....

Tertia, you are absolutely right! "Pre-Pregnancy = Swallow, Post-Pregnancy = No Thank you Never again oral but not to climax"

And Orange is right too. Men need to lose there porn ideals. Silly wankers, and I have to raise three of them. Ack!!!

[Sam]

*delurks*

If it is already in your mouth I believe swallowing is the quickest way to get rid of it. However, I prefer to finish it off by hand if you know what I mean.

[Abbie]

I don't particularly enjoy the finish, but I've always found that swallowing is quicker and more pleasant than trying to hold it in your mouth and run to the bathroom. Not that the question comes up much in our house... I'm happy to go down, but to actually get him off with oral alone is really, really time consuming and more of a special occasion thing.

I find it sensual and fun for the first five minutes and then I start thinking "Damn my jaw hurts, is that library book overdue, the cat is staring at us, the little pervert, I should really make a start on that paper tonight, hell let's just have intercourse so we can both get off and I can get something else accomplished before bed."

[Sam]

Also- I do NOT like olives. Ew!

[Amy]

I spit in the shower, because I can without making a mess, but I swallow outside the shower, because who wants to clean that up?

We do oral about as often as we have sex, mainly because I'm just too tired for regular sex right now. I'd say we average sex once a week and oral (for him) once a week, too. How sad, but that's the price of having two small kids who don't sleep through the night.

[Abbie]

And olives are delicious:)

[Beret]

Love Olives, hate swallowing. I will do it just up to the point of climax, then use my hand. TMI?

[kristylynne]

I don't particuarly enjoy giving a BJ, but I do now and then out of a sense of obligation, and I do enjoy being on the receiving end. As long as it's squeaky clean, it's not bad, but good lord if anything comes out I just gag.

[natt]

I adore olives and would eat them every day if I could.

I'm so so about BJs though, and have never swallowed. However, DH dislikes giving back IYSWIM, so he's been on a BJ ban for over a year - hey, if I dont get it, neither does he!