As you know, I took him to the OT on Monday and it didn’t go so well. He was having one of his moments (probably brought on by the lack of sleep) and didn’t want the OT near him. Sigh. Anyway, we are going to take it very slowly and build it up to a point where he happily interacts with her.
Then on Tuesday I went to go see my lovely Paed. He is such a divine guy. I wish there was an award I could nominate him for or something. He is the most hardworking, dedicated doctor I know. He is always working, always. Love that guy. Adam was actually so funny. Because he can sometimes have a bit of a freak out with doctors and OT’s and hairdressers (i.e. anyone who wants to fiddle near him), I try to prepare him as much as possible. So all the way on route to the doctor, we go over the story of what is going to happen at the doctor.
“We are going to the doctor and he is going to make us feel better. He is going to look in the one ear, and the other ear, and then he is going to listen here, and listen there. And then he is going to feel under our chin, and then look in our mouth. And then we get a lollipop!!! YAY!!! We love that doctor, he is so kind”
The kids LOVE that story. We have to say it over and over.
So when we got to the doctor, Adam made the doctor go through the process exactly as described. He pats the doctor’s chair and says “Sit here doctor, Adam sit here”. And then through the whole spiel.
Anyway, nothing overtly wrong with Adam that he can find. His tonsils are very enlarged, but not infected. Adam always has huge tonsils. He did have a slight ear thingy (too much negative pressure on the one Eustachian tube), for which he prescribed some meds that can be given at night because it makes him drowsy, praise the lord!
So our sleeping thing has been a little better. Only one or two night wakings, and not too restless sleep.
I am going to take him to the ENT though. Many of you have suggested it, and I really think that his adenoids might be enlarged. He is just too noisy and nasal at night for things to be normal. Problem is, the ENT is so booked up, that it is going to take me a while to get an appointment. But I’ll wait. I have one for three weeks time, hopefully I will get in sooner.
Then yesterday was the psychologist appointment and this woman was absolutely divine as well. She made me feel so much better about things, and about myself. She was positive and very reaffirming and basically said that I am doing the right thing, which is always nice to hear.
She said that the main focus for the moment should be the sensory stuff, and that one of the coping mechanisms I should employ to help him handle his environment is to prepare him for what he is about to experience. By doing the story telling stuff I had instinctively been doing already. “We are going to be going here and then we will be doing that etc”
She also said that I shouldn’t put him in a crèche before 3. Which took a lot of pressure off me. Silly huh. That I feel such pressure by other people’s expectations. The OT has also given me ‘permission’ to keep Adam’s dummy for as long as he wants it, as he needs it for self-soothing and regulation. Yay!
Anyway, I feel much better about everything now. I feel as if I have a team of people behind me, supporting me. It is hard not to doubt yourself, especially when people around you are saying “oh, there is nothing wrong with him, he’s fine”. Yes he is fine, but with some intervention he can be even more ‘fine’.
So, that’s the update re Adam. He was a total enema yesterday afternoon, and I lost my cool with him. Which is really fantastic. Good mother, huh? Wonderful. But as the psychologist said, some things are due to his sensory issues, and some things are just normal two year old pain in the ass stuff. Well, she didn’t use ‘pain in the ass’, but you know what I mean. Yesterday we had a wonderful combination of both. Precious moments. NOT. Plus he headbutted me by accident. On the mouth and my teeth went through my lip. Now I have a swollen lip with a lovely scab on it. French kiss anyone?
The joys of parenting. And I want another one? I must be mad. Actually, I got a note from another one of my doctors (I seem to collect doctors as friends) who had read my blog for the first time. He emailed me to say that he has changed his mind about ever having kids after reading my blog. My kids as birth control. Yip, can see that.
and because I am a total weakling, I gave Kate her new duvet this morning. She was in heaven. Couldn’t help myself, I felt so bad that Adam
was dragging his new duvet around everywhere and loving it so much. Please pray that I haven’t just completely
ruined all chances of keeping her in the cot in future.
Update: As I posted this note, I got a call from the ENT to say they had a cancellation, could I come in now. So of course I did. Adam has glue ear again, which means grommets (tubes) for him. The operation is booked for next Tuesday! While he is under anaesthetic, they will check his adenoids and tonsils and if those are problematic, the doctor will remove them. Am beyond nervous. My little baby under the knife. Shudder.