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Yup, I have the same "conversation" with my-very-self!! FRIGHTENING stuff - I'm one year behind ya babes and no kids - tick. Oh, I forgot to mention that he's four years younger than me - tick tick tick!!!

my wife told me when i turned 30 that she'd replace me with two 15 year olds.

i said that was okay, when she turned 40, i'd replace her with four 10 year olds.

We have the same kind of talk at our house. Dang it. That's one of the few downsides that I've found to marrying a man 11 years my junior. He turns 35 next week but I can't even tease him about it because I did that a long time ago. We try to have a sense of humor about it. At my last birthday (45th) he told everyone I knew to wish me a happy 50th birthday (!!!). In his defense, he said, "Well, I was close." Dumbass.

except when you're 60, 40 will seem so very young. cheer up.
when we look at it by itself, aging seems a rather rude event.

however, when we see it as the trade off of the privilege of watching our children grow and learn, answering their questions, braiding their hair and reading their books, feeling their sticky hugs....breathing air, holding our husband's hand and realising that you love him so much more than you did when you married him...that you like yourself so much more than you did half your life ago.... aging is a privilege.

and especially when you get to look darn cutie patootie while doing it. and you know you do. that latest pic was a scorcher.

I'm 10yrs younger than my husband and I did that to him last year. It's fun for the younger one :)

Ditch him for the next model down. He's clearly defective.

I just turned 35, yesterday. I told Bob that I felt old, and he said what does that make him? I said, it's ok, honey, you're just ancient (he's only 37). I'll tell you what...having a teenager...that'll make you feel old...in a hurry.

Was going to say when you hit 40, you need to trade HIM in for two 20's. You'll be at your sexual peak, you know. You might need two 20's to handle it! ;)

I second Kay. It is true, you will get hotter and hotter, (although literally, too, with perimenopause) while many guys, ahem, slow down earlier. And after 50, easing out of menopause, as your biochemistry rebalances, you will be a handful. ... Promise! But do try to get into an exercise regime....

We have the same type of discussions in our house but it's the opposite for us. I'm three years younger than my husband and he's almost 30. He just loves when I remind that he's almost 30, in just about 7 more months he'll be 30, how I won't be 30 for 3 more years. I'm just a little mean like that. :-)

My beaux is 11 years younger than me and everytime he pulls that with me I gently remind him that he always falls asleep before I do...

that's why I married an older man

I'm two years from 40 myself but he's 46! That's almost 50!

Ah, yes, the younger partner. My SO is 25 to my 29, and I'm hearing ALL about the age difference these days. "Happy Birthday, sorry you're old!" "Wow, you're almost THIRTY. I mean, THIRTY!" "Wow, I can't imagine being THIRTY." It's a good thing I love her. ;)

My husband is 3 1/2 years younger than me and oh boy does he enjoy it. When I turned 30 he really teased me, but he's a smart man, because 2 months ago when I turned 40 he only pampered me...no teasing at all.

don't feel bad -- mine is only 9 months younger than me and he still rips on me being older. :D

Bwahahaha... My dh is just a few short months away from 40, and I delight in reminding him of it (I figure it's my right - I've got the gray hair in the family (happily dyed away), the least he can do is be *old*!)

Sadly though, I'm only 2.5 years behind him. I have to say though, 40 doesn't seem nearly as old as it used to... Besides, I'm just about the youngest of all our friends, so by the time I hit a milestone I get no sympathy from anyone, they've all done it years before!

I do hope you took out appropriate retribution in some sneaky way.

So......... how long DOES it take to process a divorce in SA?

I'm 46.

Let me tell you something.

Age is just a number. I used to think that was a stupid statement, but it's not. It's true.

At least you are two years away! I am only 8 DAYS away! DH loves to remind me that he is 6 years younger.....pain in the proverbial!

Yah, call me when you are turning 46 (like i am on my next birthday) beeeeyatch!

what's the age gap between you, tertia?

4 years between me and spacemonkey, which is only small beer in the scheme of things. except that i turned 30 this year and was a bit self conscious about it, especially as some of his friends (who are mostly even younger than him) seem to think that thirty = geriatric...

... which is why i've told them i'm 26...

My husband is 15 years younger than me and we just had a son 3 months ago... I am 37, he is 22. Age is only a number and as long as you love unconditionally, share the same morals/values and views on parenting... go for it! My husband actually looks older than me!! ha ha ha .....

I have dated younger men a lot. Currently the guy I'm dating is technically 15 years younger though I've been saying I'm 3 years younger than I am for the last 3 years. I know, I know, it's silly...but...It really is my TRUE age. I'll be 45 in October in "reality", (ugh! it hurts to say it), but 42 in the recreated world. he turns 30 in August. WE both giggle about how we don;t feel the age thing AT ALL! he's always telling me how beautiful and sexy I am. his father married a woman (2nd marriage) 10 years older and HER son married a woman also, 10 years his senior, so I guess, my guy sees it as normal. He's mature and fun and the BEST boyfriend I've ever had and that's saying a lot! His wheels are spinning as we get closer, I see it. He's thinking about creating a life with me and even asked if I ever thought about freezing my eggs. I'm not really scared about the outcome, except when and if he finds out the true age difference. Is there a difference between 11 and 15 years?

I have dated younger men a lot. Currently the guy I'm dating is technically 15 years younger though I've been saying I'm 3 years younger than I am for the last 3 years. I know, I know, it's silly...but...It really is my TRUE age. I'll be 45 in October in "reality", (ugh! it hurts to say it), but 42 in the recreated world. he turns 30 in August. WE both giggle about how we don;t feel the age thing AT ALL! he's always telling me how beautiful and sexy I am. his father married a woman (2nd marriage) 10 years older and HER son married a woman also, 10 years his senior, so I guess, my guy sees it as normal. He's mature and fun and the BEST boyfriend I've ever had and that's saying a lot! His wheels are spinning as we get closer, I see it. He's thinking about creating a life with me and even asked if I ever thought about freezing my eggs. I'm not really scared about the outcome, except when and if he finds out the true age difference. Is there a difference between 11 and 15 years?

I have dated younger men a lot. Currently the guy I'm dating is technically 15 years younger than me. I've been saying I'm 3 years younger than my actual age for the last 3 years. I know, I know, it's silly...but...It really is my TRUE age(I look about 5 years younger). In "reality", I'll be 45 in October, (ugh! it hurts to say it), but 42 in the recreated world. He turns 30 in August. WE both giggle about how we don't feel the age thing AT ALL! He's always telling me how beautiful and sexy I am. His father married a woman (2nd marriage) 10 years older and HER son married a woman also, 10 years his senior, so I guess, my guy sees it as normal. He's mature and fun and the BEST boyfriend I've ever had and that's saying a lot! His wheels are spinning as we get closer, I see it. He's thinking about creating a life with me and even asked if I ever thought about freezing my eggs. I'm not really scared about the outcome, except when and if he finds out the true age difference. Is there a difference between 11 and 15 years?

i've been dating my main squeeze for 8 years now. he is 10 years my junior. there is no difference between 11 and 15.

Hi ... i am in love with a guy who is 3.5 yrs younger to me ... we are fighting with our family to get along soon ... can you tell us on the medical side of the profblems ... i am 28 plus and he is 24+ ...

Hi ... i am in love with a guy who is 3.5 yrs younger to me ... we are fighting with our family to get along soon ... can you tell us on the medical side of the profblems ... i am 28 plus and he is 24+ ...

I dont usually ready these post. For some reason today I wanted to see if there was anyone else like me out there. I am 34 years old female, my fiance is a 24 year old male. We have been together for 3 years now and became engaged for Christmas. I also lied about my age said I was 2 years younger at first. As do many of you, many people think I am much younger than I am. This is the best relationship I have ever had and we are so in love with eachother. This guy is the first one who is my very best friend. But, I struggle about the age difference because alot of people have some rude comment to make about it. I get tired of the jokes and little remarks from everyone all the time. Our good friends and family they are ok with it because they see how good we are together. Coworkers and other friends, relatives find it quit funny. I just wanted to say that I have realized life is so short who cares. They would all be happy if I was with a 36 year old man even if he was abusive or something. That is because society tells them that is what is right. I am happy and if no one knows our age they usually think he is older than me. I am trying to learn not to be so sensative and look at the bigger picture of happiness with someone you really click with. I noticed many of you mentioned well what about in 20 years. Sorry to say that no one knows if your going to live past tomorrow so you should probably just live in every moment. I hope this helps some of you.

i m 30 now and i m in love with a 23 yr old, i m madly in love with him, though i understand or thats what i have understood from the people around me that its bad to marry a younger one, but still i m not getting convinced to leave him, bcoz i feel i want to share my life with him and only with him. Request to please advise me whether this relationship is good or bad for marriage.

You are very fortunate. I am 40, lonely and alone. I have not been in a real relationship for 3 years and it hurts. People are always suprised when I am reluctant to reveal my age. I think I feel very self conscious because there is so much more that I would have liked to have done. At least I've kept myself trim and I am not fat.

I married a guy that is fifteen years younger. I'm fourty one and he is twenty six. We are so happy!!!!! Life is wonderful now that I have found him. It feels like I'm dreaming because it seems to good to be true!!!! I'm so happy!!! Age is just a number. True LOve last forever!!!!

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