V busy. Apologies.

 I have no idea what is going on, but I am hectically busy. Work is hectic. My days are absolutely full, no time for even the quickest of blog updates / Bloglines reading. V annoying when work gets in the way of one’s personal life.

 Speaking of which, my non-work life has also been extremely full. Busy busy busy. The filming thing really threw my schedule out. I have been unable to answer any emails, check my fave blogs or do anything! No quality time with myself. And I love my quality time on my own. Plus having unanswered emails in my inbox really stresses me out.

 So, before I dash off and try and wade through the backlog of emails, here is a quick update on things Tertia-related:

 Firstly, thank you for a (mostly) very civil conversation on the same-sex marriage debate. Thank you for being (mostly) respectful of each other’s views. 

 Secondly, someone posted this article in the comments section, and I didn’t want it to get lost.  It is a really excellent article that sums up my feelings in a way I wasn’t able to articulate with the required amount of eloquence.

 Thirdly, to add my general work load / stress levels, both kids have been sick for the last week.  I took Kate to the Paed last week and she was diagnosed with a sinus infections.  She had gunky eyes and a runny nose. I was convinced she had pink eye and had visions of myself being interviewed for the TV show with pink, swollen eyes. Nice. Of course as soon as I thought it might be pink eye, I was overcome with the itchiest eyes ever.  When Adam started with the same symptoms I knew it must be something else.  I took them both to the Paed on Tues. They had the Adenavirus. Can you believe it?! Where they pick this shit up, I have no idea. Anyway, it passes by really quickly and they are both very perky and fine now.  But it was a long week.

 Fourthly (is that a word?), I had Adam’s second OT appointment this week.  Which I would love to tell you about but now I feel all self-conscious about the whole ‘blogging about children’ thing.  I feel like if I talk about it you will all judge me.  Only joking. Half joking. It has made me worry about something I wasn’t ever worried about before.  But I asked the question and I got the answers.  Just not what I wanted to hear ;-) Will talk about it soon though, because I need to do what *I* think is right for me and mine, not what is right for other people. Blah blah. Anyway, will tell you about it soon.  When I have time.  Is v interesting. 

 Fifthly, and most excitingly, relevant only to the locals, I think I am going to be on this Sunday’s edition of Carte Blanche.  I say ‘think’, because I am still not sure whether the insert will be ready for this Sunday’s show.  But just in case it is, please watch Carte Blanche this Sunday, the 19^th on MNet at 7pm.  Am v v nervous about it. I have no idea how it will come across. But watch anyway. And if it is super-kak, don’t say anything. Just pretend it was divine.

 Sixthly, AD’s are working well with one minor problemo.  Which I will tell you about soon.  A side effect that I have not quite managed to overcome.  Am giving it another month to settle in, and if not any better might have to change pills.  Am v happy and skippy, just a slight little side effect.  Not worth even contemplating going off them though.

 Seventhly, there is no seventhly. Well, there probably is. But I can’t remember and I better try and get through some of my emails. 

 I’ve been a crappy blogger and an even worse emailer.  Apologies. I have, however, read and appreciated every single comment on my blog and email, I just haven’t had a chance to respond. I hope to get my burnt-out ass into gear shortly.

Comments

[Judy]

Sorry to hear about the kiddos being sick lately - that can throw off an entire household, can't it! I'm glad to read you whenever you have the chance. Thanks for being so open and honest in your posts!

[Deb]

Tertia - Long time reader who almost never comments. I meant to reply on the topic of blogging about your children back when you first posted, but never got around to it as things are very, very busy with me as well. It is an interesting dilemma....a similar one is debated often among Single Mothers By Choice (SMC) who conceived through donor sperm or donor egg/donor sperm. I am a SMC and my son was conceived via a sperm donor. I have been open about this with family and friends. I blog and discuss it and him on that blog. Some IRL friends read my blog (mostly fellow SMC’ers), but family and other friends do not know about my blog (that I know of). I have not “announced” it at work, but I haven’t hidden it either and have discussed details with those who asked or I felt comfortable talking with about it. Some women feel strongly that this is their “child’s story” and as they get older they may not wish to have that out there. I like you, am “open”. I feel like it is the story of our family, a mom and child (and cat and dog) family. I am not, nor could I ever be ashamed of how my son came to be. He is only 15 months so he does not yet understand, but I have already started telling him his story. Good, bad, or indifferent, it will shape him just like Adam being “intense” will shape him. As mothers, we shape our children on how we react and deal with everything (discipline, sleep issues, etc.). Would it be more or less okay, if Adam heard you on the phone talking about him? Blogging may be more public, but could be less invasive (if that makes any sense). If/when Max ever finds and reads my blog, maybe he won’t like my openness or everything I had to say, or maybe he won’t like the fact that he doesn’t have a daddy and was conceived via sperm donor, but I hope he will know that he was wanted and loved. Anyway, FWIW, just thought I would post to say that while I am not quite as open as you are (in that most IRL people don’t know about my blog), I do post about Max and how he was conceived (which many would proably consider more private than what you discuss about your children). It is what it is. It is right for me. Deb

ps. No need to respond. One less thing to do. (smile)

[DebbieS]

I can probably guess what that little problem is (I'm guessing that overcoming isn't exactly the right term?!), and if it doesn't go away, definitely try and swtich to something else after a month of the original meds! Nice to be yippy-skippy in the meantime, though.

And whatever you do, don't give ADs up cold turkey...not that you've ever talked about doing that, but it's the boat I'm in this week, and BLECCH.

I'm so glad the dastardly, I mean, darling, duo is all better now! Sure wish I was a local so I could watch you on the show =)

[DebbieS]

Had to post again because it was too funny...after all your talk on this post about pink, infected eyes...the recognition code I had to type in to post a comment started with "sty"!

[Orange]

I don't suppose Carte Blanche posts video clips on the web after broadcast?

[creative-type dad]

I'm not sure where kids pick up all these virus's either.

Maybe they go around licking the floors of bio-labs when we're not looking. That's my only explanation.

[Heather]

I have been trying to comment on various posts and this is my first success! Ha! When I couldn't post, I put a link to your entry in my own blog and then posted my own thoughts.

ANYWAY. I hope things settle down so you get a chance to catch your breath!

I keep meaning to post re: AD's, etc. but have two under 2 who keep me too friggin' busy to even get a coherent sentence out most days.

Good luck! Sick kids are no fun!

[blackbird]

so busy!
can't wait to hear all your news in full...

xxo

[Mama Dramas]

I would love to hear what is going on with Adam. Your honesty helps others. Don't hold back!

[Jessica]

I too, have been wondering about Adam and I'm also interested in the side affect from the AD's that you are experiencing. Keep us updated!

Jessica

[V]

Well, you are certainly doing better than me! I think I need to put a pc with voice recognition in my car so that I can do blog updates on my way to work as I come up with so many great thoughts then, but by the time I get to the pc they are gone.

Will definitely watch CB on Sunday. They may put part of the broadcast on their website http://www.carteblanche.co.za/ or at least something about it for your overseas readers.

And I find it incredibly helpful to read about other mother's experiences online and as long as you consider that the child will probably read about it one day when you write it (so put things in a non hurtful way) or/and be there when they read it so that you can explain things openly to them, then it is ok to put it out there. I don't think you have anything to worry about in the way you have been writing about Adam and Kate.

[Lana]

Hi. Met Mel at Pen's wedding on the weekend and read your book on plane back to UK - cried my eyes out. Congratulations on the twins..... Do not know where you find the time to do all of this!

[mar]

Weren't your kids taking swim lessons? That's a good breeding ground right there. Hope they're better soon - you don't need to go into the holidays w/sick kids!!

Loved the pics with the sunglasses - too cute.