This is the heartbreaking, exhilarating, devastatingly funny story of Tertia Albertyn’s battle with infertility. Tertia wanted a baby so desperately, that she went through nine IVFs. Most people give up after the third.
I don’t think I am being brave at all. I am just too terrified not to try again.
In her worst nightmare she could never have imagined that making a baby would take her four years, each treatment bringing her and her husband Marko closer and closer to making a family.
During Tertia’s journey everything that can go wrong does go wrong. Until, finally, everything goes just right.
Tertia is as hilarious as she is irrepressible, as approachable as she is knowledgeable. If you are struggling with infertility, have triumphed over infertility of have felt empathy with someone who is going through this experience, you will find a friend in Tertia.
The Amazon Reviews
**This is an amazing, poignant book that will make you laugh and cry as you go with Tertia on her sometimes heartbreaking journey through infertility. The book, adapted from her very popular and wonderful blog, "So Close," is not just for people who have suffered infertility, stillbirth, miscarriage, or the death of an infant. It's for every parent who has had or is thinking of having a baby. It's so important for people who have never grappled with infertility to know what others are going through, and for those of us who have been there know we are not alone.
**This is a beautifully written, hilarious and heartbreaking memoir. Sure, it's about infertility and would be a great choice if you or someone you love is grappling with that. You'll definitely be cheered, inspired, and you'll learn a lot. But I haven't had fertility problems and neither has anyone I am close to. I was nevertheless delighted to discover the acerbically funny Tertia and to go through her long, agonizing journey to motherhood with her. You'd think a memoir like this would be all warm and fuzzy mixed with earnest longing and sadness. You know, important, good for you, but ultimately kind of deadly. Not with Tertia as narrator, all prickly bad attitude with Chardonnay in hand and wisecrack at the ready. Somehow she manages to be snarky and sincere at the same time--how perfect is that? "So Close" is just a terrific book, funny and tragic, full of hope and, ultimately, joy. You'll wish, like I do and like her thousands of blog fans do, that she didn't live so far away (South Africa) so she could be your BFF.
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5.0 out of 5 stars beautiful story!
I couldn't put this book down and I read it in one night. I found myself laughing and crying throughout the book. Read more
Dr Sheila Faure, specialist in perinatal psychology:
‘So Close is a compelling and inspiring book for couples who are struggling with fertility difficulties. It is also an invaluable guide for those who care about them. With unflinching truthfulness, Tertia Albertyn describes the crushing cycles of hope and despair entailed in infertility treatment. At the same time, the book resonates with a wicked sense of humour and is an extraordinary testament to the power of mother love.’
‘Dr D’ (Dorianne Weil), well known clinical psychologist:
It is rare and an honour to witness and participate in a journey written from the point of view of participant and observer. It is only with the highest level of self awareness and insight that it is possible to BE your story, open your heart and mind and invite others in.
This is a ground breaking documentary for anyone who travels this route and anyone who wishes to understand. Most of all it is for everyone who feels they can’t do it again. Not again, whatever the ‘it’ is……. usually another IVF or some invasive treatment that has taken its toll financially, emotionally, socially and sometimes spiritually.
It is Tertia’s story - but it’s everybody’s story about possibility even probability, courage, tenacity, determination and the undoubted value and healing power of support.
Dr Sulaiman Heylen, MD, Cape Fertility Clinic
Infertility treatment is different from other medical interventions, the stakes are so high and the results so unpredictable, which makes it all incredibly difficult to deal with. Tertia Albertyn's book gives an accurate, first person description of the ups and downs of infertility treatment. It will provide great help and inspiration to couples struggling with infertility, and is also a source of information for those wanting to understand people affected by it. Tertia's book is a harrowing reality show between two covers and will appeal to anybody who appreciates a real story that comes straight from the heart.
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