aka Tertia’s Blogging Rules
I thought it might be a good time to have a little chat about the way things work around here. Not for any particular reason other than the fact that Typepad have introduced this cool new thing where you can make a post ‘sticky’, keep it on top or something like that. Anyhow, I have been thinking about this for a while and I’ve decided now might be a good time to talk about this.
Firstly, a little bit about how I blog, the style of my blog, so to speak. I write about all sorts of stuff. Mom stuff, babe stuff, infertility stuff, South Africa stuff, life stuff. I often write about how I am feeling at any particular point in time. I am completely open and honest about what I write and about how I am feeling. This often gets me in trouble and opens me up to all sorts of judgement and criticism. Initially that used to bother me but I am doing my best to develop a tougher hide. I am open and honest, warts and all, because that is just the way I am. It takes too much energy not to be so, and I simply don’t have the energy to pretend or make stories up.
Just about everyone I know reads my blog. My best friends read my blog. My sisters and brother read my blog. My husband reads my blog. My in laws read my blog. My co-workers read my blog. My effing CEO reads my blog. Oh, and so does my cooter doctor and my shrink. It is very difficult for me to bullshit on my blog. Which is good on the one hand, because you know you are getting the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. The bad thing is that I am unable to have a good old fashioned bitch about anyone because, well, they READ MY BLOG!!
I try to be sensitive to people’s sensitivities and beliefs and morals etc. However, having very few of my own, it is not always easy. Only joking. Mostly. I do have some morals, promise. They are just deeply hidden and mostly self-serving.
I swear / cuss,
quite a lot. I can’t help it, I really
am trying not to, but it is so fucking hard! I keep forgetting. If I call you an asshole, I mean it in the
nicest possible way. It is my term of
endearment. I also drink. Quite a lot. In fact, about 90% of my posts are written when I am
slightly tipsy. But I do my best work
then. I’m a fun drunk; it’s ok! I am trying to drink less. Actually, that is lie. I am making no effort to drink less. I’d drink
more if I could, but two glasses is my limit. Things go pear shaped after that.
I love joking around, and I love teasing. Some people don’t like that. I once teased the Americans about not knowing their dialling code. They got very cross. I try not to tease the Americans any more. I stick to teasing the Australians because they are fun to tease. And there is always so much material there.
Ok, enough about me. I thought about giving a run down of the ‘cast’ here, but I’ll stick it in my ‘About’ page.
Now to the important bits: how I would like YOU to participate in this blog. Because it is all about YOU. (Not really, but I am trying to make you feel all important and loved).
BTW – I hope you appreciate how difficult this is for me to type, I accidentally broke the ‘N’ key on my keyboard. Do you have any idea how often ‘N’ appears in words!!
Back to you. I love love LOVE comments on my blog. Having you participate in the way of comments makes me feel all important and loved. So, please do leave a comment, even if you are saying the same thing someone else has said. I read, and appreciate, every single comment. Even those that perhaps do not agree with what I have said.
Which brings me to a very important point. I often receive emails from people who are too afraid to comment with a dissenting view because they are scared of being lynch-mobbed by my loyal supporters. And that is wrong. I welcome dissenting views!! I often ask for your opinion, and in doing so am fully aware that some of you might not agree with me. So, please please don’t attack anyone who says something that you don’t agree with, or that disagrees or takes issue with what I have said. I appreciate you wanting to defend me, but you really don’t have to.
I am formally stating that I welcome everyone’s opinion, even those who disagree with me. It is fine! That is the way I learn. Please disagree or tell me where you think I am wrong. I might not do as you say, or take your advice, but I will take account of what you say. And for the rest of you, please do NOT attack other commenters or dissenting views on my blog. Or else we will all be one flavour, one world view. How boring would that be!
On that note. I’ve decided that I will allow anonymous comments. Because even though I’ve said that I welcome dissenting views, I understand some people will still be too nervous to comment. So, comment anonymously if you want. I hereby officially promise that I won’t ‘out’ you. If I break my promise, I will only be able to do it once, because you will know that I am not sticking to my word. And I probably won’t even look up your IP address because I honestly do not have the time.
However. What I won’t stand for are comments that are offensive in any way. I wont ‘out’ you, but I will delete your comment. And any other comment that says something nasty about someone else. You can be nasty about me, I’ll leave those (as I have always done), but I will delete comments that are offensive, or that attack other people. I’ve only ever delete two comments, one that was particularly nasty about a fellow blogger and another that was disparaging about someone in my life. Sorry folks, you can attack me all you want, but not other people who aren’t there to defend themselves.
For those of who are scared you will get spammed if you leave your email address, you have the option of leaving a fake email address (although that means I wont be able to respond to your comment, and I do try to respond to at least some of my comments), or you can put NOSPAM in the middle of your email address.
If you do email directly, please be patient about getting a reply. I really do try and respond to every email I get, but I am sometimes just too overwhelmed by life / mothering / working / writing / blogging / drinking that I am unable to. Plus, the longer I leave it, the shitter I feel and then I end up NOT responding because I’ve left it so late.
Hmm, can’t think of anything else for now. To end off, I would like to say to those who are new, welcome! Have fun, please participate if you can. I love hearing what you think. To those who have been around for a while, thank you. For as long as you want to keep reading, I will keep writing. I write not only for myself, but also because I know you read. And for that I thank you. For those who hate me and think I suck / can’t write / am whatever horrible name you want to call me, all I can say is ‘byeeeeeee’, don’t let the door knock you on the ass as you leave.
I’d write more, but it is bed time. G’night.