I have a question.
But first I have a warning: 1.5 glasses of wine have been drunk in the making of this post. The writer is not responsible for grammatical accuracy, spelling or logical flow. No animals (besides my husband) were hurt in the process of making this entry.
I had a very interesting chat with someone close to me on Friday night/.
Hold on. need more wine. Be right back.
Back. Damn. Bottle finished. Don’t worry, didn’t drink entire bottle, opened it last night. So one bottle over two nights – not too bad. AND didn’t open second bottle even though REALLY feel like another little sip. Am model of restraint. Halo shining brightly.
Back to the point of my post.
As I was saying, had a v interesting chat with a friend of mine on Friday night. And it got me thinking. Tell me what you think.
Let’s say you are good friends with some one who is quite self-absorbed, not horrible or nasty, but just very wrapped up in their own life. Someone who is often neglectful of the relationship, or often does not-so-nice things.
Now, you know this person is not doing these things intentionally, or to be mean, this is just how the person is. Which is all fine, except that it is hurtful / annoying / a pain for you, not massively so, but annoying none the less. What do you do? Do you confront the person and risk hurting them by pointing out what they are doing wrong (because they really don’t have a clue they are being so selfish)? Or do you accept that this is just the way they are and that they don’t do it intentionally?
Is it ok to be an asshole if you don’t do it intentionally, and if you are recipient of unintentional asshole’ish behaviour, should you make a thing of it or do you just let it go?
Does this make sense?
Damn, really feel like another small, very small I promise, glass of wine. But that means opening another bottle. Should I or shouldn’t I….What’s the time now? 8pm. I have an hour to blog/drink/fartass around before shower and bed. Ok, ONE more half a glass and that is IT. Yay!
BTW, I know I owe a few of you return emails, plus I have some outstanding admin issues. I am going to get to it soon, promise. I have a deadline for my manuscript for two week’s time and then I should have a small window in which I have a bit more free time. Smooches to all of you for your patience.