Before the babes, I wondered whether I would spank my children. Not beat them, not ever hit them in anger, but spank them, give them a tap on the bum as a form of discipline.
After they were born, and I saw how tiny they were, I thought I would never be able to give them a smack on the bum, they were so little. I couldn’t imagine myself ever doing it. I wondered if I ever would, if I ever could.
I asked my sister how old the child has to be before you can even think of giving them a tap on the bum. She said ‘you’ll know’.
Well, I already know.
Yes dear readers, be prepared to hate me, to report me to the authorities, to label me as a violent child basher, for Adam has already received his first firm tap on the bum followed by a sharp “NO”.
In fact, he has had three such nappy tapping sessions.
The thing is, he bites. Hard. I’ve tried the “NO BITING”, the distracting etc, but he sinks his teeth into either me or, if I am not quick enough, Kate. And it is bloody sore!
(bruise on my leg thanks to a bite)
So he has received three firm taps on the nappy and a firm “NO BITING” that goes with it. Admittedly it is not hard enough for him to actually feel any thing, especially through the nappy, but it makes a noise. Funnily enough, it seems to work as a distraction. He stops what he is doing and looks where the noise is coming from.
So it would appear that I am the type of parent who will use spanking as part of their approach to discipline. I am not sure whether I will use it with Kate, maybe not.
I know it doesn’t work for every one, for every child or for every parent/family. I also know some people are totally anti spanking. And that’s fine. Each parent does what they think is right for their child, for their family. What might work for my child might be a disaster for yours.
But I think for this dear child of mine, a little spank on the bum might be exactly what he needs.