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1. What do we have in common?

Motherhood


2. How did you find me?

I can't remember - probably through Julie's blog.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

No - I'm shy too! Plus, it's usually been said by someone else already.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
Your ability to be honest about the crappy stuff as well as the nice bits of motherhood.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
I'd like to hear more about SA

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
nothing really

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Brisbane, Australia

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Do what works for you, you're the one who has to live with it.

1. We have infertility in common. I am wickedly bitter, of course, gorgeous and divine, but not nearly so fucking funny as you.

2. Someone on Fertility Friend posted a link to Julie's page of photos/cards, which, ironically you can't get to from her blog (as far as I know.) So then after squirreling my way through and realizing the new door that had been opened to me, I read all the blogs she had linked to. She, you, and Getupgrrl were my daily favorites.

3. I have commented once or twice. Usually by the time I read your entries, there are so so many comments that I don't want to add one just to say "You are a genius, and so funny. I feel that way too" just like everyone else above me has done. There is usually someone who has already commented to the same effect that I would have, and it just seems redundant to add mine.

4. All of it. The fact that you make a new entry almost every day. The occasional pictures. The brilliant insights.

5. I think it's fun seeing the changes in the blog that have occurred during your changing journey.

6. nada

7. I live in Bastrop, Texas, USA, a small town outside the state capital of Austin. I feel like we have similar temperatures and seasons, but our part of Texas is filled with pine trees, oak trees, pecans, and walnuts. There is a huge walnut tree over the room where the computer is and sometimes I am startled by the huge thud of a walnut falling off the tree and onto the roof above me. It gets very dry and hot in the summer and all the grass dies. Spring and Fall are spectacular, if a little foggy.

8. It's quite appropriate that you do caveman conversions for us in the US, as we do not learn any other system of measurement. We tried, back in the seventies, but that movement was put down b/c it went against Christianity. Whaa? Yes, that's what the thought was. Scientifcally, we use it more and more, but in regular life, we use standard measurement just like Jesus did.

I believe it was you who also turned me on to Bad News Hughes - the funniest, peeing in my pants laughing writings on the internet. I thank you for that.

1. What do we have in common? Darn-- I had a choice? I wish it were G&D, but really, it's infertility.

2. How did you find me? Googled "a little pregnant" as a twisted joke for myself while waiting for my miscarriage and after someone at work actually and in full ignorance said, "well, you can't be a little pregnant, you either are or your aren't." Lo and behold, co-worker was wrong.

3. Do you comment? Sorry, I am a big fraidycat lurker--mostly because I don't always have something to say. But I love your blog and if there is anything to the power of collective positive thinking, you get a ton of it from me.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? I am constantly impressed and amazed by your openness, thanks for that.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? Whatever is on your mind is fine by me.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about? See answer to number 5.

7. Where are you from? Northern California, USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice? I tried to come up with an answer that didn't sound trite, but failed!

1. What do we have in common?

Sadly, that I have lost my triplet babies at 23 weeks into my pregnancy; that I have miscarried twins at 10 weeks and that I am currently preggo with one after three IVFs/FET and, by the way, scared shitless.

2. How did you find me?

I found you on JellyBelly.

3. Do you comment?

Yes, I do. Not every day, but I do read you every day.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

I like pictures of your divine babies and I like your honesty about all of the nuances of parenthood. I like that I can hope of having a baby and that I don't have to pretend that it is going to be easy or predictable.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

I've never left your site with a feeling of lack. I am so grateful when I see you have posted that I just focus on enjoying it or taking it to heart.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about? Nothing really.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

I am from Lanham, Maryland, USA.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

I do adore your life adventure and your toughness, resoluteness, and divineness.

1. Infertility and a love for the word, "asshole."

2. Found you through the VP and Julie's hilarious IM postings.

3. Occassionally, but I lack the mental fortitude to keep up with clever bloggers.

4. Love reading your posts and imagining the words in a South African accent.

5. Julie's undies!

6. Your undies!

7. The great white north: Minnesota

8. Too many to mention here.

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?


Infertility, loss and motherhood. not the gorgeous and divine part, sadly.


2. How did you find me?


Getupgrrl!

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?


from time to time....


4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

your underwear. okay, your thoughts too!

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

hey! its your blog!

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?


see #5

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?


New Jersey (or Joisey as we say here), USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Always wipe from front to back.

Hi Tertia
1. What do we have in common?
Womanhood, motherhood, using blogs to express our thoughts and fears.

2. How did you find me?
A link at mycrazylife.typepad.com

3. Do you comment?
Occasionally. Sometimes I'm hesistant because you are so obviously hugely popular and I think my post will get lost in the masses of comments you receive :)

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

I love your honesty, your humour and your hubby ;) But most of all I love that you are so real in your posts. Your blog is one of the first I read each day.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

I enjoy that variation in blog topics - don't go changin'.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Please don't ever shut up!

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Tasmania, Australia. Us Southern hemisphere gals must stick together and insist on the correct spelling of colour, humour and mum.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

I think you are doing an amazing job, I'm learning more from you every day. Thank you for this blog :)

. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine?

Infertility, motherhood and being gorgeous and divine.

2. How did you find me? A link in IVFConnections

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

I do occasionally but it's hard because I have a very demanding full time job and have very active 1year old at home (through my 3rd ICSI attempt)and he grabs the mousepad, wants to touch the keyboard...English is also my second language and I have to focus more than the rest to write something meaningful and I just don't have the brain power sometimes.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

I enjoy everything about it. You are of course my favourite blogger and you are the first blog I open every morning and check at night for updates before I go to bed.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

I will say what someone else said: It is just my honor to read it. I only wish I could hear your voice for once, though. To match with the voice I have invented in my head for you! I have some very wonderful imaginary conversations with you -- how very getupgrrrl of me!

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Nothing at all... please don't ever shut up.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

I live in the province of Buenos Aires, in Argentina. I skimmed through the comments above and I think I am the farthest? (sp), so far.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

I think you are strong, gorgeous and divine. You make me laugh, you make me cry and I love the way you write. You can turn pretty much anything it into an engaging story ... you are so gifted... please write a book someday, when you are not so busy with the twins and you will be a millonaire in no time (assvice, right there).

Dear Tertia, Thanks for asking! We have fertility difficulties in common, but I am at the other side of that now. I have a 16 year old daughter and 13 year old twin boys, all brought to me by the powers of Clomid, faith and perserverance. I wish I had known you then, but my husband and I told nobody anything. It was lonely and soul destroying to the point that my own kids know nothing of the struggles that brought them to me. I still can't talk about it, only to you and Julie. That tacit understanding between us is like gold to me. I found you on Julie's page while we were waiting for Charlie, but I found that I like you better (sorry, Julie, still luv ya!)I live in Sydney Australia and we share so many similar things, like language etc. We say 'nappies' and use gripe water, for example. I comment under my real name (Serina) now because I feel that I know you. I have used other names, but the thoughts always come from my heart. I will only use my real name now because you deserve my honesty.I love the way you write and the way you can make me cry. I love the way you make me laugh and sometimes I want to hug you for bringing out feelings in me that I can't share with anyone else in my world. Please don't change a thing, just be the same irreverant,fascinating,funny and human woman you are. I want you to swear more and worry less! Lastly, I appreciate this chance to 'chat' with you, my wonderful friend. Bye for now, love Serina xxx

Hi, I'm Irina and I'm a lurker. Ahem.
1)1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?
I'm not TTC yet, so I guess it leaves the gorgeous and divine part! ; )
2. How did you find me?

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

I'm not TTC yet, so I guess it leaves the gorgeous and divine part! ; )

Oops, sent an unfilled form by accident.

Hi, I'm Irina and I'm a lurker. Ahem.
1)1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?
I'm not TTC yet, so I guess it leaves the gorgeous and divine part! ; )
2. How did you find me?
I stumbled on Cecily's blog by accident, and decided to check out the links...
3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
I don't, simply because I don't know anything about pregnancy or babies, and don't like saying things just for the hell of it.
4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
All of it! I love your style, your independence of thinking,and the photos!
5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
No special preference. I like variety.
6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
See above! ; ) I like everything!
7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
I'm from Brookly, New York (though I was born in the Ukraine)
8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Love your blog! Keep it exactly as it is!

I'm not TTC yet, so I guess it leaves the gorgeous and divine part! ; )

You get tons of comments and I am lucky to get one but I will answer anyway on the off chance that mine may be one of the few you have time to read lol

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

Motherhood and being gorgeous and divine :)
I have never suffered infertility though I very much believe that it is horribly painful.

2. How did you find me?

Its been a while but I think I find you from Julie

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

Occasionally but when I dont its usually because you get so many comments and whatever my thoughts are on your entry are redundant of what someone else has already said.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

I love reading about the twins and how you are adjusting to your new mommy role

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

I like it just the way it is.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

see #5

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Southern Oklahoma, USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

nope :)

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

Motherhood. :)

2. How did you find me?

Julie, I think.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

Yes I do, and you're welcome! :)

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

Your humour and honesty.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

Boobs and vaginas! (that's all I talk about)

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Nothing :)

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Toronto, Canada. A cold and desolate place. ;)

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Can you adopt me? Oh, and document your babies every move because it goes WAY TOO QUICKLY. My daughter turns 7 months old today and I woke up wondering where the time went.

1. What do we have in common?

Erm, lets see, how about colour, labour, aluminium, jewellery, nappies, Woolies...stop me please, I could go on... Not married and no kids as yet though, so just here to learn for now.

2. How did you find me?

Through a little pregnant

3. Do you comment?

Nope, because no personal experience from which to offer any words of wisdom.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

Your humour and spirit, your talent for writing and your total honesty. You have the courage to tell it like it is, even when it's not pretty and I think you're doing people like me, who as yet have no personal experience of ttc/infertility/pregnancy/motherhood, a great service. 'Forewarned is forearmed' as they say! I enjoy seeing women from all around the world supporting and encouraging each other, cheering for each other in times of happiness and doing what they can to comfort in times of sorrow. I know not everyone who comes here brings something positive but I see a great deal of warmth, humour, compassion and a real sense of community that must be of great benefit to those in need of knowledge or support or just to know that they're not alone.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

I like it just the way it is, just you sharing your thoughts and experiences and asking questions, so we can all learn from each other.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Don't be daft woman!

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Highlands of Scotland

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Just keep doing what you're doing, you'll probably never know how many people you've helped...and I get the impression it's good for you too :-)

Well that wasn't supposed to be all bold. heh.

:)

Just about me: I'm 28. I'll be a doctor (phd, not medical) in 3 weeks. I'm also an anonymous egg donor, and my 5th retrieval will be in 2 weeks (I'm starting stims today). I don't want kids ever, and my husband and been surgically corrected to this end. I have no passion regarding children, and by my own definition that would make me a BAD parent. This is also why I like being an egg donor and reading your blog - anyone who is willing to go through IVF is pre-screened to be a great parent (who else would go through that much crap?!)


1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

Gorgeous and divine....and experience with lupron, gonal-f, repronex, injections, swollen ovaries, etc.

2. How did you find me?

When you started posting updates on Julie's birthing saga.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
yep

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

You are witty and honest. Both are great, and the honesty keeps me coming back.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

I love what you have. Don't change a thing.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Nothing.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Washington, DC, USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

My Assvice to all parents: There are family friendly places and non-family friendly places. A nice restaurant after 8pm is not family friendly. I have no problem with you bringing your children there - infants, toddlers, or elementary schoolers - unless they are crying/loud/obnoxious/climbing on things/etc. If they want to do that, take them to Chuckie Cheeze or leave them at home. There are places that I should expected to put up with that crap...and if I'm at Chuckie Cheeze, I will consider myself on your turf.

How's THAT for assvice?!

1. Motherhood.

2. thru Julie's blog.

3. Very occasionally I'll comment, usually only when I think I have something practical to say

4. Your honesty, and that you've got your babies at last. I enjoy all the VP blogs actually... I found ya'll first when trying to be supportive of several friends and relatives with fertility problems. I wanted to understand more about what they were going through, and the VP blogs (and others on Julie's list) have been so helpful to me as I try to understand and support them in any way I can. I've learned so much from you all.

5/6. Enjoy it all--would love to know more about SA.

7.Pennsylvania, USA.

8. Assvice: trust your instincts, they're better than you think, I promise. I think you're doing a fab job.

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

Motherhood, and loss. I'm neither gorgeous nor divine. I'm working on divine--you inspire me--but I think gorgeous is too tall an order for me.

2. How did you find me?

Through grrl's blog. I remember a post or two in which she kept calling you an asshole. I'm enough of a git that it took me a moment to realize it was a term of endearment.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

Yes. I like hanging out with you and the other women who frequent this blog.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

Like so many others, I cherish your honesty, both about your losses and about motherhood. And, damn, girl, you're funny. And I love pictures of those gorgeous babes.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

I can't ever recall wishing that you wrote differently or about different subject matter.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

See answer to #5 above.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Just outside Detroit, Michigan, USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Embarrassing, this, but I think your wedding picture is just gorgeous. Whenever you talk about caring for the babies, I never picture a raggedy, spit-up stained wraith, I imagine this vision in white with a perfect coif lovingly tending to the twins.

Only tip is this: no one knows your babies like you. Trust yourself and don't let anyone give you any sh*t about what they need. You know what they need.

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?
*Oh, all of the above, daahling!

2. How did you find me?
*I found your blog through Tess' blog, and have been following for a long time now. I have my own blog, but it's boring.


3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
*I have commented before. But you have a lot of traffic to the site, so I feel if I did comment it would get overlooked.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
*Your assholiness.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
*This is your blog, not ours. We love to read about your daily life.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
*Again, your blog!

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
St. Louis, Missouri USA!

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
*Wonderful blog. Good job with the twins.

1. What do we have in common? Motherhood.

2. How did you find me?
Honestly, I can't even remember. I think Dooce may have linked Chez Miscarriage who linked you. Perhaps.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
No, not much to say.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? I love the baby pictures.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? I wish things were easier for you. But that will come...

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Nothing I can think of offhand.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
I live in North Carolina.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Keep it coming...

1. We have motherhood and being devine in common. The longest it ever took me getting pregnant was 10 months.
2. I originally found my way here by A Little Pregnant right before your babies were born.
3.I comment occasionally/rarely. Why? Because one more post on top of 150 seems excessive.
4. I keep coming back because you are "real".
5. Don't have any problem with what our conversations are about.
6. See #5
7. I am from northwest Georgia, United States.
8. Trust yourself, Tertia. You can learn as much or as little as a book or another person can communicate but the instinct and the answers are right within you. No one knows better how to love or parent your children better than you do. No book, no blog visitor, no one.
Oh...and in case I win, LOL. Where will we go? LMAO

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

Motherhood.

2. How did you find me?

A Little Pregnant

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

I think this may be my first comment here. I really haven't had much to add to the previous discussions.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

I just enjoy you being yourself.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

Things are fine as is.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

See above.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Arkansas, but moving to Argentina later in the year.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

I think you're doing a great job of being a mother. No assvice at the moment.

. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?
-Motherhood, and being a mum who worries about doing everything right

2. How did you find me?
-I think from EssentialBaby.com.au

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
-Yes I have a couple of times

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
-all of it, but especially your honesty. I cried when I you had your babies!

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
-I like what we talk about!

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
-Nothing

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
-Perth, Western Australia

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
-Listen to your heart - it's always right!

Okay, a lurker delurking here...

1. Motherhood is the easy answer now but I read your blog before you were even pregnant with Adam and Kate, so probably not much. I found you interesting regardless.

2. Either Julie's blog or Grrl's but I don't remember which.

3. No, not anywhere. I don't know why. I'm just not much of a participant on things online. I lurk at bulletin boards too. The urge to post -- just not there. I'm a spectator at heart.

4. YOUR HONESTY and your openness. I am constantly amazed at how you will accept views from your comments. You are actively engaged in a community, rather than just standing on a hill shouting out your point of view.

5. No preference here. Although I also must say that I would be interested in your life in South Africa.

6. NOTHING. Its your blog anyway and IMHO you can say whatever you like. So far I haven't minded anything and I do visit daily!

7. Ohio. Not much else to say about that.

8. No assvice here.

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

Infertility, Motherhood to twins!

2. How did you find me?

I think that Chez linked you at somepoint. Went to her blog because of habitual misscarriages.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

Not too much. I should more

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

Your humour and honesty.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

I love the information shared on your blog. I would love more pics of the twins though.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Nothing :)

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Phoenix, AZ

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Love your blog and your style. Your children are beautiful miracles.

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?
Infertility... I've been at this game for 18 cycles, and just found out (after 4 miserable cycles on clomid) that i'm fine, and my husband has dorky sperm
Oh yes, and I'm gorgeous and divine.
2. How did you find me? through reading Julie and the Vagina Posse

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t? I haven't... only because I feel lame. I've only been in the infertility game for a short while, and although I have definitely had my share of sad stories, I just don't feel I have much to offer. (as i said, lame!)

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? You're funny. YOu're honest. You're beautiful!

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? Well, I enjoy reading you everyday... but you should talk more about me. :D

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Nothing.. you're fun to read! and your fucking fabulous!
7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Currrently from Portland, OR... orignally from San Diego CA
8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?No assvice. although I love the term assvice. Thanks for teaching it to me!

I have a blog where I chronicle my trials, tribulations and traumas, but it's currently a friends only LJ, as I have had too many assholes comment. I hate assholes.

1. What do we have in common?
Motherhood.

2. How did you find me?
Julie sent me over to you, asshole. ;-)

3. Do you comment?
Occasionally. More since the twins arrived.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

The thing I love about blogs is that they invite me to look through the windows of someone else's life. I find the infertility/adoption blogs to be compelling in part because I have not experienced infertility myself. I have friends who are struggling to conceive (or struggled to conceive) but I don't really feel like I can ask questions -- it would be far too nosy. Anyway, I found the IVF and infertility information v. v. interesting, and more recently, I've enjoyed reading about your early days of motherhood.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

I'd love to hear more about South Africa, and what it's like to live there.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Nothing. It's your blog. There are posts I don't find as compelling, and I move on, which is fine.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Minneapolis, Minnesota.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Your babies are gorgeous. I love the photo of the two of them looking into the mirror, because you can see three different angles of smiling baby faces.

1. Infertility, being Gorgeous & Divine.

2. Met you when you started posting at IVFConnections (I was there since Jan 2000)

3. A couple of times...but LOVE your blog.

4. Every aspects. Absolutely all of it.

5. I like the way it is. I wouldn't change a thing.

6. Nothing.

7. Sao Paulo - BRAZIl

8. Keep doing what you are doing! You are touching so many lives around the world... And I love the photos.

1. All of the above?

2. How did you find me? - IVFC

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t? - yes, on a few occasions I have commented.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? your sense of humor is terrific!

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from? Chicago Illinois USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
You are doing great - keep it up and God bless your family!

Are you still reading??? This is very interesting, but wow have you got a long reading assignment tonight! Here I go:

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

All of the above. Especially being gorgeous and divine!

I have a 12 year old, it took three miscarriages, two years and a miracle to get him but we did it. Never concieved again, adoption did not work out. It's been a long painful process. We wanted three kids and it took a long time to accept no more kids were coming. I'm pretty okay now but it still breaks my heart that my son doesn't have siblings.

I wish very much this community had been around then. Like Serina, we told no one. It was one of the most difficult times in my life and I felt very, very alone. It's helped me a lot to work through some of the lingering pain by following along with the blogging community.


2. How did you find me?

From Chez Miscarriage to A Little Pregnant to you!


3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

Sometimes. I usually don't when I see a lot of responses and I figure there is no way you'll get through them all.


4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

All of it! You are a smart woman with a smart mouth. In otherwords, we're from the same tribe.


5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

I like reading about what you want to write about. And I always love pictures of Kate and Adam!


6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Please do not shut up. Ever.


7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

United States. I was born in New Jersey but as an adult I have lived in Virginia, Florida, Texas and California. My husband is in the Marine Corps (military) and we move around a lot.

Oops, I cut off the most important one!

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Keep listening to that inner voice. You're the expert on Kate and Adam. I believe that even if I suggest something you're not doing!

Thank you for sharing your life with me. I've learned a lot and it's helped me even more.

I'm a 24-year-old Phd student trying to cure cancer. I found you by finding Julie who I found by clicking on "next blog" from a friend's blog. I am going to be married in a month, and have no children but look forward to it at some point. I'm fascinated by the human body and find myself watching Discovery Health quite a bit - on that channel I've seen a few shows about people who are experiencing infertility, and I tend to like movies with happy endings, so I read what you're up to from time to time.

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

Gorgeous and divine.

2. How did you find me?

see above

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

No, I don't. I have extensive babysitting experience, but I'm sure other people with actual children can be more helpful to you than I can.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

I like hearing about how you're adjusting to motherhood. I'm curious about how I will handle it.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

It's your blog, who cares what I think.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Nothing, see #5.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Originally, Louisiana, now the East coast of the US.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Try to retain your ability to laugh at yourself. Lots of people I know lose their sense of humor when things get hectic with kids, and that's the time you need it most.

1. What do we have in common? Uhh, i dunno but your divine and gorgeous.
2. How did you find me? I found you through A Little Pregnant.
3. Do you comment? No. why? i dont know. its kinda embarassing.
4. What aspects of my blog do you enjoy? All of it.
5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? Anything.
6. What do you wish i would shut up about. Nothing your blog its just great the way it is.
7. Where are you from? USA- Arizona
8. Any tips, suggestions. etc. You are a great mother Tertia

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

Motherhood and being gorgeous and divine. Although, your beauty surpasses mine, being a Momma of twins and all.

2. How did you find me?

I found you from A Little Pregnant's blog.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

Not until today. Honestly, I never felt worthy. You seem like such a talented writer and woman, I just didn't feel like I could comment. But, I will start doing it more often now. =)

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

Your honesty is amazing and refreshing. And you are funny!

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

I do not think I would change anything. I love checking in to hear about you, Marco and Kate and Adam.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Nothing. I love how you write about everything! You are very brave.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

I live in Texas now, but I am originally from Maryland. Lived in the USA all my life and have never been anywhere outside of it.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Keep up the great work. I really do love your posts and you have cute kiddos. Congratulations!

1. What do we have in common? Motherhood.

2. How did you find me? A link from another blog, but don't remember which one.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t? No, I guess I'm a lurker.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? I love hearing about Adam & Kate and your struggles with motherhood because I've also found it to be a lot harder than I thought it would be. Also, it's interesting to gain perspective from another part of the world.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? Nothing different.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Nothing.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Springfield, Illinois, USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice? None.

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

All of the above--4 years of IF, numerous procedures, and then a natural miracle--a baby boy, 2 1/2 months old--born December 21, 2004------ OH--and I'm writing this with a sleeping child in my arms


2. How did you find me?

alittlepregnant.com


3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

Not normally--but I guess this counts right?? Normally there are so many comments by the time I get here that whatever I have to say has already been said--


4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

I like knowing that someone else out there has the same worries/ fears/ questions/ problems as I do


5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

You're doing great the way it is--I wouldn't change anything


6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Not a thing


7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Sioux Falls, South Dakota USA


8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

I'm too new to motherhood to know any more than you do---

1. What do we have in common?

Infertility, IVF, twins. My girls were born 5/04. Also, my husband and I both lived in Africa while younger. My parents spent about 10 years in Zimbabwe, but were evacauted during the war when my mom was 8 mos pregnant with me. He grew up in Zaire (when it was still the Congo for the first time).

2. How did you find me?

Julie from A Little Pregnant

3. Do you comment?

I do now. I feel like I may have something to offer since I'm just a few months ahead of you.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

I love the insight in S. African life. Love the slang.

This may sound kinda mean, but I love hearing about how hard it is and thinking, "Hey, I remember that! And I made it through!" then "Ooh, poor Tertia. I remember that." It's still hard now, but in a different way, I think. Just like parenting a 5 year old is different than a 5 month old.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

I love hearing about parenting twins. I feel a kinship towards other moms of multiples. Of course I relate to moms of singletons and vice versa, but there are some situations unique to multiples.

I'd also love to hear more about your normal daily life. Once you get back to a normal daily life.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

I'd hate for you to censor yourself because of me. I think it's more interesting if you don't.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Michigan, USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Enjoy that blazing hot weather you're always bitching about. We just got 6 inches of snow last night.

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?
Motherhood. Gorgeous and divine.

2. How did you find me?
By way of Julie's blog

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
Sometimes.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
All of it, particularly the baby pictures!

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
I know you'll be returning to work at some point. Since I'm a work-outside-the-home mom, too, I'd like to hear more about how you feel about that.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Nothing really.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Texas.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Love the babies. And really, unless you're just out-and-out abusing them (which you're not), they will grow up fine. My oldest slept in his vibrating bouncy chair until he was 18 months old. I was sure I was damning him to never sleeping in a regular bed. Nope. He's almost 6 now, and goes to sleep by himself in his own room in his own bed. He wakes up at the freaking crack of dawn, but he does go to sleep by himself.

Tertia, I'm from Wayne, Michigan, USA a suburb of Detroit. I have twins (boy/girl age 10) born 5 weeks early 1yr. 8mts. after a stillborn girl (@34 wks) and a 4yr old boy. My sister had twin girls @24 weeks (http://micropreemietwins.blogspot.com/) and told me about your site after she got me addicted to blogs. I don't comment because I can't spell:) I read because you say the things I think and say them so well. My only advice I have is to remember "this too shall pass", if it's something you enjoy make sure to enjoy it as much as possible because it will pass way too fast and if it's something that makes you nuts ignore it as much as possible because it too will pass. The fun is in the journey! You're in it for the long haul!

Bold fix?

1. What do we have in common? Motherhood - my son was born on December 17th, 2004, so all of the things that you are discussing with your babies, I am either currently going through or I have just finished that stage. Oh, and the being divine part.

2. How did you find me? I was searching for pregnancy/fertility journals, and I ran across Julie's blog, and found you that way.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t? I have commented a few times, but I'm not an avid commenter.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? I like to hear you talk about the babies and the things that they do to make you happy. And about the things that make you happy that don't involve them, too.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? I'd like to have a better grasp of your day to day interests that don't involve babies, but I'm well aware that those won't pick back up for quite a while.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about? I wouldn't say that I want you to shut up about anything, but just to have more confidence that you're doing a great job with the twins.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from? Austin, Texas (United States)

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice? Nothing from me...I should probably be taking tips from the rest of the experienced mommies myself!

BTW - loving this post.

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above? Um, hmmmm, not much of that really. The infertility thing is kind of in the air though.

2. How did you find me? A web search for some topic you discussed long ago, but not one of THOSE web searches :)

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t? shy, not in a good position to say much, and i figure that 300 other people say it better usually before I get home from work.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? your total honesty about life and your humor

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? anything you want to say. I'm never going to have kids, (not exactly infertility but scary meds I can't stop taking but can't be pregnant on) and I love hearing about other people's. I love how much you love them.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
nothing
7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
The oldest permanent settlement in Ohio (how's that for an astonishing fact)
8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
not a word

Ok, now that bold is gone, I'll answer:

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

Fucking Infertility, Fabulous & Divine, perseverance, Perpetually waiting for the other shoe to drop. Did I mention Fabulous & Divine?

2. How did you find me?

Stealthful stalking....

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

Of course.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

Truthfulness.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

The freakish disappearance of infertility in the world. Zapp! Gone.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

HUGE thighs.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Planet Earth

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

xoxo

1. Not sure. I had a miscarriage so maybe loss...

2. How did you find me? through a little pregnant

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t? so many others comment, I figure you cant read them all

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?i like that you talk about your kids/infertility/anger

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? no suggestion, keep on keepin on

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?se answer above

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from? Raleigh, NC

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
no assvice for now, i might have some later

Tertia--

Is this the equivalent of a formal introduction?

I'm from New York City, by way of Cleveland, OH. I found your blog through Julie, whom I found from AB Chao of Hashai, whom I found from the Damn Hell Ass Kings.

I don't often comment--partially because I don't have children and I'm not planning on having any for about five years (and partially because sometimes the sheer number of commenters is overwhelming. I mean, after a certain point, my eyes just glaze over and I decide it's time to read a book). I do read every day, though, because I love reading the intimate structure of someone else's experience (and because when I started reading, I was bowled over that you and your friends managed to be funny in the midst of such horrible things. I still think that glow-in-the-dark dye is hilarious). I wouldn't change anything about your blog--it is you, which is fascinating. If you started to censor yourself, especially when you hit difficult and treacherous human needs and reactions, then what are you writing for?

The only thing that I would change, honestly, is a little more levity on the part of the Vagina Posse's commenters. Sometimes it reminds me of the women's studies section of a liberal arts college.

I, of course, am always, always funny. Especially in this post.

Which is why I don't comment very often!

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

gorgeous and divine, hopefully motherhood eventually, hopefully not infertility, although that is one of my biggest fears (without any real reason, I'll admit)

2. How did you find me?

A Little Pregnant, when Julie announced the arrival of Adam and Kate

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

This is my first (because I have no idea what you are going through and it wouldn't be right for me to comment on it)

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

You are a very moving writer (and I'm an English teacher) and I love that you still have a sense of humor despite everything.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

Whatever you want... it's your blog!

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Don't change a thing... if I don't want to hear about it, I won't read it!

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Saginaw, MI, USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

You are, of course, gorgeous and divine... good luck and kiss those babies for all of us.

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?
Infertility....nothing too bad...just clomid and IUIs, was lucky enough for kid number 2 (due in May) to conceive on our own.
2. How did you find me?
Yah know, I forget. But I'm glad I did.
3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
I have commented, but I don't do it that much. Mostly because I don't have time to comment AND get to everyone's blogs. Plus, most of the time someone has already said what I was going to say.
4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
The honesty you bring to it, not taking yourself to seriously, not being judgemental.
5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
Frankly, I like that it has evolved to more on motherhood (well, it IS what's going on with you know). No one can blame you for that.
6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Nothing, really.
7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Seattle, WA!!!!
8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Keep up the good writing!

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

Infertility, ivf, twins (I have 2 boys born 5/04)

2. How did you find me?

through alittlepregnant.com

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

I did once, I think about cio right after the babies were born

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

the humor, reminiscing about those wonderful first few weeks with twins (ha!)

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

hmm, can't think of anything. Guess that's why I don't blog

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

nada, keep talking

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

New York

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Just keep following your instincts!

1. What do we have in common? Infertility?...secondary infetility with mulitple losses Motherhood?...yes, I have two wonderful boys, ages 8 and 4 Being gorgeous and divine?...I wish I were half as gorgeous as you but I know I'm divine...LOL

2. How did you find me?...I found you through Grrl's blog.

3. Do you comment?...yes I do

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?...your sense of humor, the fact that you seem to have the same type of diehard, til death do us part, smartass friendship with Julie as I do with my best friend, your intelligence

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?...perfect just the way they are

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?...nada

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?...North Carolina is where I live but I grew up as an Air Force brat (my dad was military, don't know why we are called military brats) so I've lived in GErmany, Hawaii, Florida, and was born in Taipei, Taiwan

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?...be kind to yourself. Motherhood is quite daunting and it is all to easy to beat yourself up about nonsensical things.

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

Infertility, pregnancy after infertility and multiple pregnancy, being gorgeous and divine, of course.

2. How did you find me?
I don't remember...probably through Julie

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
I did...for a while...but since I don't have much advice in the kid department, since my twins are still cooking, I just sit back and enjoy.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
I love seeing pics of your little ones. Oh, and your use of the word "bits"

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
You've managed to keep my attention thus far, so I wouldn't change a thing.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
I have no answer...I'll sleep on it and get back to you...

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
SE Connecticut...USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Nope! Love ya just the way you are!

1. Infertility, ectopic pregnancy, IVF.

2. On google, search on ectopic, IVF, and Methotrexate, while I was going through my second ectopic.

3. No, I don't ever comment (till now) although I read your blog everyday. I don't comment because you write so well and are very insightful, as are many of your other readers. So, I feel the pressure to write something equally insightful and good if I were to comment, but I can't.

4. I love hearing about your story. You are so vulnerable and honest that I feel like I am getting a real look into what motherhood is really like. You are a wonderful writer.

5 & 6. I love hearing about your life and your babies. No wishes to talk about some things more or less.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
I am currently living in San Francisco

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
You are a wonderful writer. Thanks!

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?
New mother of twins (mine are 6 months old)


2. How did you find me?
You were actually listed in a conversation about mom-blogs at bulletin board: Indiebride.com, subsection Indiemoms.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
No comments, but faithful reader

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
I didn't start reading until after your babies were born. But, I've really enjoyed your perspective on twins.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
I just love hearing how much you appreciate your babies.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
I don't like to hear you feeling guilty about enjoying motherhood.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
California by way of Georgia and Indiana

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Love and kisses. You are truly fabulous. The babes are lucky to have you as a momma.

1. What do we have in common?  Infertility?  Motherhood?  Being gorgeous and divine?  All of the above?
Nothing, really.

2. How did you find me?
I read hashai.com for a year or two. She linked to Julie and Julia (alittlepregnant and Uncommon Misconception) and they linked to you.

3. Do you comment?  If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
Nope. See above re: nothing in common - I don't feel like I have anything of value to share with you.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
First and foremost, I enjoyed rooting for you when you were pregnant. I got excited about every Monday morning scan. These days I enjoy the baby pictures the most, and also learning little tidbits about South Africa.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
I think things are good as they are.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Nothing.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from.  Where are you from?
Minnesota, USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
I would never presume to tell you anything; you are much wiser than me!

OK, you've made me post a comment, my first ever on any blog. I came here from Dooce to Julie to you and now I'm hooked and read all of the VP blogs every day. I've cried with your losses and cheered with every scrap of good news. I'm a mom, too, and had it pretty easy getting there, we did have one loss on the way, though. You are smart and witty and you make me laugh and I really need that, every day. I know this time with Adam and Kate is wonderful and worrisome and difficult, and watching you go through it makes me realize I wasn't insane for feeling the things I did with my son. I'm from Los Angeles, California.

. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?
Motherhood, frustration, crying children, and the "I cant bear to let them cry" syndrome.

2. How did you find me?
Found you off Julies blog

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
Of course I do (sometimes) When I don't its because I don't feel that I have anything as witty and smart as you have.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
I love every aspect.. Sometimes I feel like a peeping tom peeking in your window.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
I wouldn't change anything bout the convo's

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Who told you to shut up? Let me at em

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
I live in the US in the midwest, bout fifty miles north of the gateway arch.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
I love your blog, and in turn sorta feel like I am really your friend, even if you don't know who the hell this stalker is.

Assvice, let it ride sweety, go with your guy. Mommy guys always know whats right for thier little ones.

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

None, but I am hoping to have a baby in the next year or so. Reading something other than "oh it's so great to be a mom" is refreshing. Sort of a little reality check.

2. How did you find me?

Chez miscarriage I think.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

I don't. I just found you a week or two ago and you get so many comments, I figure you don't have time to read mine.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

What I like is that you tell motherhood how you see it. It's not all roses, it's hard work and hearing someone actually say it is quite refreshing.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

No comment

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Nothing really. But I have looked through the archives and some posts are so long I don't have time to read them. That's all :)

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Salt Lake City.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

I have no kids so no assvice, but your blog is great. Keep writing.

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

Well, I have suffered from infertility at one point in my life... Took us 2 years and 7 months to concieve our first, but unlike you we couldn't go through any fertility treatments, due to the fact that our insurance didn't cover it, and we're poor! ;) I have also suffered many losses (6 misscariages).... But I am NOT goreous and divine! LOL! *wink*

2. How did you find me?

Through "A Little Pregnant"

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

I have commented a few times, but not on every post... Sometimes I feel like I wouldn't always be welcome in the infertility world of blogs, because my views differ from so many of you.... (I voted for Bush *grins*)

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

To be honest I am obsessed with all things about babies. Whether it's the struggle to get pregnant, being pregnant, having a baby, singletons, multiples, what-have-you, I am there to read!

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

I think things are great as they are!

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Nothing.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Portland, Oregon, USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Your babies are beautiful!!! Take lots of pictures, and videos... They grow WAY too fast... And once they start talking, write down all the funny things they say. It's amazing what you forget. I go back now and re-read my kid's journals, and I've already forgotten so much. Am very happy that I've gotten most of them written down.

This was fun!

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?
Infertility? The jury's still out on me--all we know is I've had two m/c's while on birth control, then went off it and tried and tried and tried and couldn't. We're on a loooooong break now. Oh. And being gorgeous and divine.

2. How did you find me?
Probably through grrl, though I'm not sure.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
rarely, because I'm quiet and shy and almost never comment on any blogs

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
I really enjoyed reading about the technological things that you went through--the descriptions of IVF, etc.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
What you talk about now is fine--I think all bloggers should talk about what they want to.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
see above

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Originally, Minnesota. Currently in Rochester, NY.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Don't let Marko get away with not being into the whole newborn thing!

How fun! With over 100 comments already, though...are you sorry you asked?

1. What do we have in common? *Besides* being gorgeous, and devine, motherhood. I tend to stay pretty quiet, but I hold nothing against you for being overwhelmed.

2. How did you find me? I stumbled across you after stumbled across Julie thru getupgrrl thru Mir at WouldaCouldaShoulda...darned if I haven't been absoluetly hooked on all ya'll ever since.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t? Every once in a while, yes. Sometimes, though, I'm crying much to hard to control my keyboarding.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? I love your writing style, your humor, and your honesty. Seriously, I laugh, I cry, I get in trouble at work.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? This is YOUR blog. You write about whatever you damn well please, as long as you pepper your musings with pictures of your beautiful babies.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about? See answer to #5.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from? I am from Minnesota, USA. I'm insanley jealous reading about your beautiful Summer in my dreadful seb-zero temps.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice? Don't change because people bitch about certain things you do or don't talk about. If they don't like what they see, they can get the Hell out.

1. What do we have in common?
~Infertility, & Being gorgeous and divine!

2. How did you find me?
~I cant remember, but I think it might have been via Chez

3. Do you comment?
~Sometimes, although I'm unsure that I've ever commented here. Why, I dont know, I guess I never flet I had anything to say?

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
~ALL, especially your complete and brutal honesty. Its nice to hear that even after the struggle, it was all completely worth it.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
~I dont think Ive ever had a convo with you, so n/a


6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
~If it aint broke dont fix it, so dont fix it. Keep on with what your doing, it works perfectly.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
~I live in Corn Country aka Indiana, USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
~A Family picture of all of you, thats my only suggestion.

1. Being devine and fabulous with a wicked sense of humor.

2. Can't remember

3. Once in a while if I have a strong opinion.

4. All of it.

5. Fine the way it is.

6. see above

7. Arizona, USA

8. Just hang in there it gets easier.

1. we don't have much in common (you're hot and I'm not) but our husbands would be best friends (Mark, Marko, coincidence?)
2. I think from Julie
3. Yes, in fact I was your first comment ever
4. I like all of it
5. Your tits, they're very nice
6. Nothing
7. Spokane Washington U.S.A.
8. I agree with Jamie, more pictures please

1. What do we have in common?
Being gorgeous and divine

2. How did you find me?
Through Julie's blog, which I found through another blog... it's just a bloggy world!

3. Do you comment?
I comment occasionally. As a single, childless student (I have no idea if I'm fertile or not, as I've never tried..) I don't have much assvice to offer, but I like to chime in now and again.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
I love all aspects of your blog! I'm going to be a physician, so I love reading blogs of people who are as articulate and honest as you are about your situation. It helps me understand where you're coming from, and hopefully that will help my patients some day.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
It's your blog - whatever you like!

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Nothing. :)

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
I'm originally from NY, though at the moment I'm in medical school in California. I'm fascinated by all the different locales your blog reaches too.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
You have a delightful outlook on life, even when you are sad or angry or otherwise feeling bad. I admire your openness and your ability to communicate your feelings so well. I'm also in awe of the whole being-a-mommy-of-twins thing. I'd like to have kids some day, but more than one at one time... well, that just seems so overwhelming. I also admire your good relationships with your loved ones, and your practical attitude towards mothering. So, in a nutshell, I love that you are gorgeous and divine. ;)

1. Infertility & Being gorgeous and divine
2. Found you through Jo and Jule
3. Sometimes, but when you allready have 100+ comments there doesnt seem much point.
4. I love it all, I love hearing about your babes, gives me faith that onedayit will happen for me to.
5. I think your blog is all good :)
6. Its your blog, write what ever you like.
7. I am from Wellington, New Zealand
8. If your going to be late home let your nanny know atleast
1/2 hour before hand, remember she has a life to, and by the time you get home she will be throughly sick of your kids (in a good way of course). Believe me I speak from experience (I work as a nanny to a 4yr old and a 2yr old)

1. Motherhood, not much else. I appreciate your sense of humor, and aspire to be as funny someday :).

2. Probably from another infertility-related blog. I found one (how? don't know?) and kept bopping around.

3. Sometimes (you're welcome, hope I'm not too assvice-ful). Other times, if there are already 50+ posts, I figure ... someone MUST have already said what I was thinking of saying.

4. I like your self-depracating attitude, and your crisp prose.

5. I like you best when you're honest. Less so when you are trying to be perfect.

6. What I wish FOR you is a little less stress and worry. I understand where at least some of it comes from, but I life had handed you less garbage, so it would be easier for you to "just be" more of the time.

7. I live in a suburb about 20 miles northwest of Boston, MA.

8. I'm just really glad you gave Marko a chance to be a Dad. It's really hard for most first-time moms to let go of control and trust the Dad to be the Dad. Way to go!

Ok, I'll bite...

1. What do we have in common? Loss (although mine was "only" a miscarriage),
twins (mine are identical boys), not caring what other people think (most of the time)

2. How did you find me? Not sure exactly, but I started reading blogs through Julia (of Uncommon Misconception) and just kept expanding the circle from there. I've been reading you for around a year.

3. Do you comment? I'm not a commenter. I love reading everyone's wonderful writing, but I'm just not that clever on the fly and I don't have time to work on it.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? Your openness - both sharing your real life and being open to other points of view

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? I love you just the way you are :)

6. What do you wish I would shut up about? See #5

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Oregon

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Keep writing! I love reading about you and your beautiful babies!

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?
Infetility and Motherhood

2. How did you find me?
I found A little pregnant, then found you

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
I think I commented once, but usually feel like there are a lot of people who comment so they usually have said everything I would want to say. =)

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
I enjoy all your humor and your personal experiences.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
I think your blog is always interesting.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Nothing

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Northern California

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
I like that you update your blog so often, there are so many good blogs but they don't keep up enough so it gets tiring to keep looking, I like that there is usually something new everyday.
I appreciate your honesty.

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?
The common factor used to be pregnancy. Hopefully, it'll be motherhood soon, in about 4 weeks' time. :-)

2. How did you find me?
By coincidence. I was surfing around looking for information about pregnancy in general.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
I do. Not as often as many others, though.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
Your openness, your sense of humour, your self-criticism.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
If I wasn't "happy" with the content of your blog to begin with, I wouldn't be coming back all the time in the first place. ;-)

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Being a bad mother. :rolleyes:

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Dortmund, Germany. 51.5 N, 7.4 E

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Nah - you get enough of that already. ;-)

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

Gorgeous and divine of course!! Must you even ask that question? And motherhood, IF, an original pps-er

2. How did you find me?
through julesmag's bb

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t? I comment once in a while, after I've had a few glasses

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? I enjoy it all, but I especially enjoy your honesty, and how you write from the heart.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? poop. I think now that you are a mommy, there definitely needs to be much more talk about poop!

6. What do you wish I would shut up about? nothing

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from? I'm from San Diego, Southern California in the US

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice? You are a terrific writer. I love how fair minded you are, and how understanding you are of others. Remember, no matter what asshole mistake you make in raising your beautiful babies, you are the only one who perceives the mistake. Your babies will always love you no matter what. Enjoy these crazy, sleep deprived moments. They are all too fleeting.

Much love...

1. Fabulous & Divine

2. Through hashai.com

3. Occasionally (not really alot to say:)

4. All - very funny and very brave

5. Ummmmmmm......

6. Ummmmmmm .....

7. Sometimes Sydney Australia, sometimes NYC

8. Ummmm..... post more photos of gorgeous chubby babies?

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

all of the above ~ minus infertility, plus holding a little boy while he died.

2. How did you find me?

grrl

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

I comment.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

You honesty ~ parenting after a loss is very different ~ you don't want to listen to crying at all. You don't want to put them down. Parenting after infertility and a loss - well, you deserve to be a train wreck (and yet you're not!).

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

You talk, I'll listen. (Although I'm thrilled you listen when we talk ~ hooray for leaving Adam's tinker alone :)

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Nuthin.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Northern Ireland - but I lived in Joburg (Sandton, posh doll) for 3 years, now I'm in Phx, AZ

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Yes, do Woolies still have braai bread? Buy some and enjoy it ~ I'd give my left arm for some braai bread most days. Also make Marko take you to Peddlar's on the Bend for chicken livers peri peri and a nice bottle of pinotage :)

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?
All of the above. Although I didn't struggle with infertility nearly as much as you and the Vagina Posse, I was a big chicken and gave up. So, I am one of those awful women who fell pregnant years later, after giving up on the idea.

2. How did you find me? I think through Julie's sight.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?I do, sometimes. Not every time, but sometimes I just have to!

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? All. I love your honesty, We think alike on several subjects. You crack me up!

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? I'm kind of liking them just how they are, thank you very much.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about? As above. Although, I have been dying to ask you for months....what the hell is "naff"??????????

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?Until 10 days ago it was Brisbane, Australia. But I have just moved to Airlie Beach, on the Great Barrier Reef.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice? Not really, just that you really will survive. The first few months are so difficult, but believe it or not, one day you will look back, and wish that they were that small again! Although, each age is amazing, you think they can't be any more delicious, and somehow, they are!

1. What do we have in common?
Motherhood. And blogging. Though I'm not nearly as funny (or gorgeous and divine) as you.

2. How did you find me?
I came here for updates on Julie when she had Charlie, and I got hooked. I've been visiting almost daily ever since.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
I comment occasionally, but not always, simply because I'm in a rush or because there are already so many comments, I feel you may not have time to read them all. I try to only comment when I really feel compelled to, rather than just commenting for the sake of commenting.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
I enjoy your humor, of course. The way you paint pictures with your words. And, now, the photos of your beautiful babies.
Oh, and your willingness to ask for (and accept) advice from other parents. That's very admirable.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
I don't know about this one. I just enjoy hearing whatever's on your mind.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
My feeling on blogging has always been...Hey, it's YOUR blog; you're entitled to write about whatever the heck you want to write about...whatever's on your mind.
But, now that I think about it, you could shut up about that great "Woolie's" store you have there. You're making me jealous.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
I live in a small town in Texas.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
The best advice I've ever gotten is to take each piece of advice with a grain of salt. Use what works for you, and ditch the rest.

Thanks for sharing your stories with the internet. I really enjoy your site.

God bless,
LadyBug

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above? Motherhood, I'm pretty sure I'm fertile and I'm thankful for my daughter. When I'm grumpy or down about something I read one of these blogs and I feel so blessed as I say a prayer for all of you. Well it started out like that - now I'm just an obsessive lurker. Checking for updates everyday.

2. How did you find me? Um...I was on a site called spinstartshere from there I found karma to burn - she had bugsy (not dead bug) who was an interesting read and from there I just started clicking away on interesting names/synopsis - I read all the archives of about 30 different women because I just enjoyed their honest often funny and gut wrenching accounts of their life.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t? Sometimes - I've commented a few times, most times I shake my head, laugh or cry silently/sob.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? Your honesty

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from? Brisvegas the Sunshine state in Australia.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

What do we have in common? Probably not much. Except for the being gorgeous and divine part.

I found you through some other blog. I forget where originally, but now link through alittlepregnant.

No, I don't comment. At least, I don't think I ever have. I don't know what you've been/are going through, and am not about to give you "good advice" about something I know NOTHING, NADA, ZIP, ZILCH about. Its not my place, and having been on the receiving end of, "I know how you feel" and "I understand what you're going through" when THAT IS ABSOLUTELY NOT TRUE (read my link for more info), I am not doing that to anyone. The most I'll do is ask, and mean, "How are you feeling today?" or "Are you OK?"

Whew. That was long.

I enjoy all of your blog. I enjoy hearing the experiences of others about things I haven't yet experienced. Furthermore, I think you're an excellent writer.

As for your conversations, well, you started this blog for a reason and those, and the blog, are yours. Anyone who doesn't like what your conversations are about can go elsewhere. No one's forcing them to read this. There is therefore no need to shut up about anything :)

As for where I'm from, I'm Canadian, eh? I live in Vancouver, BC.

No assvice here. You've been through a lot and anyone who can't appreciate how strong you are for dealing with what you have is stupid. Congratulations.

1. What do we have in common? - Infertility.

2. How did you find me? - I think via Julie.

3. Do you comment? - Not often. I think I used to before we stopped ttc and I got all cave-ish.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? - The honesty and the baby photos, of course.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? - I'm not picky.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about? - Again, not picky. I'll take what you have to say.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from? - Mount Pleasant, Michigan USA

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice? - Just that I hope you continue to blog for a long time to come. :-)

1. all of the above!

2. i just wrote a post about this, though i'm still revising it. i believe i found you through either grrl or julie. probably by clicking your name after a particularly astute comment. in the wixlet year 1 BCXE (the before cx era), i had more time to read comments, and that's how i found out about a lot of my now-favorite bloggers.

3. absolutely! i read as many other comments as i can, to be in step with the conversation, but i don't always have time (like tonight). i almost always have something to say. and even when i don't comment, i'm checking in.

4. you are an interesting person and i like hearing about your life. you write with a voice that is quite unlike the other blogs i read. i enjoy your frankness and find your confidence inspiring.

5. i would love to hear more about what life is like in south africa. i don't know--virtually or otherwise--anyone who is from south africa or who has even been to visit. i would rather have my perception of the place shaped by you than by what i read/have read in the media.

6. nothing, really, but i do wish you'd trust your intuition as a mama. i know it's very difficult in the first 2-3 months, and here at 10 months i can tell you that it's still tough but on different topics. even so, getting it right more often than getting it wrong builds your confidence, and by the time you're where i am, you'll know better what i'm trying to say now.

7. i'm a lifelong texan (USA)

8. there's nothing i can think of right now. i reserve the right to invoke question #8 whenever i feel the itch of the unstoppable assvice!

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?
I can't truly say infertility seeing as to how I only dealt with 9 months of trying and only 1 m/c. I'm not dicounting them...I just didn't have quite a long time period.

2. How did you find me?
Julie's website...all of which was found on accident...
3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
Yes, on occasion...then if I'm on late and see that there is like a 100 or so assvice posts already... I don't see how you'll ever get to mine...I do know you read them though and I appreciate the fact that you reply when you get the chance.
4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
I love your frankness. Its your blog and do what you like, don't let petty Miss Priss's leave you feeling as if you're one teeny bit less of a mother. They're full of shit!
5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
I honestly enjoy your honesty...hehe...pun intended.
6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Feeling like you're the only mother that has ever felt helpless. Its a lonely world however, this thing called motherhood. And I can't tell you to actually shut up since I spend each waking moment thinking "What the fuuuuck?? I've never heard of someone's kid doing this!"
7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
I am from a wee town called Katy...a suburb west of Houston.
8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Has anyone told you to sleep? Perhaps, Looooooove every moment while they're quiet...and non mobile...
Or even...wait, stop me if you've heard it..."Just wait until they crawl...its a whole new world then, everything changes".
I think I've heard it all and apparently having a child wasn't life changing as much as the child actually walking, talking, doing anything like a milestone, etc...

Enjoy the joyful moments, hide in your hubby's arms when you get the moment, sleep like there is no tomorrow when you have a chance, dress up for no reason and lastly keep on being you!

I hope I was insightful, full of assed assvice and I hope you feel a warm ray of sunshine each time your heart is stolen with a gummy smile... ;)

1. What do we have in common? 
Being gorgeous and divine. I'm still single--have not yet met my Marko--and therefore have no clue as to my fertility status. I LONG to be a mother, but really only want to do so with a husband...I don't think I'm up for single-parenting.

2. How did you find me?
Blogrolling--my favorite way to procrastinate. Most blogs I click to from other people's blogs are only read for about five seconds before I'm bored and move on. With you, though, I got hooked. I've been reading you every day since last fall.

3. Do you comment?  If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
I think maybe once or twice. Mostly I don't because I don't really have much to offer regarding what you're going through.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
I love everything about your blog--your honesty, your wit. I'm a nurse in a NICU, so it's also really helpful for me to understand the hell people go through when they've dealt with infertility and the loss of a child.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
I'd love to hear some stories about your life pre-Marko and infertility. But I love whatever you write about.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Nothing comes to mind.

7. Where are you from?
California

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Just that you're FABULOUS and one of my v. favorite bloggers!

Your wish is my command: I will delurk.

1. So far, what we have in common is being gorgeous and divine (especially you) and cats who like to follow us wherever we go. (Been married 4 yrs, finishing a PhD, trying to figure out where trying to have a baby fits into that....fertility untested so far.)

2. I found you through AB (hashai.com). I fell for you immediately, and I've been reading you faithfully since September--whispering prayers to whoever listens for babies-in-January.

3. I don't comment--mostly because I'm an outsider and have no experience to draw from for advice. I have wanted to give the ol' smackdown to a few trolls before, but people seem to have it covered.

4. I love everything about your blog.

5. Whatever you want.

6. Your cellulite-free legs. Would that we were all so lucky. (Just kidding. But your legs do look great.)

7. From Oregon, living in sunny Palo Alto, CA.

8. Adoration: you are an amazingly strong woman. You can really turn a phrase. And that picture of you is truly stunning. Suggestion: May I suggest some portraits of the new family while the babies are still small? Or at least snapshots of the whole family--to be posted on the website, of course.

1) Motherhood.
2) A little pregnant, I think.
3) Rarely, when I have something to say that is both helpful and hasn't been said 20 times by the time I read.
4) I love your honesty. And everything sounds more interesting with the SA vocabular.
5) It's your blog.
6) I wish you wouldn't beat yourself up so much about being a bad mother.
7) Virginia, USA, just outside of Washington DC.
8) Do what works for you and the babies.

1. What do we have in common?
Infertility (that sucks!)

2. How did you find me?
I found Julie googling 'poor responder + IVF' and then I found you

3. Do you comment?
No. So many other people do. Everything is usually said before I get here.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
I like all of it

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
I like it as it is

6. What do you wish I would shut up about? See 5.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Copenhagen, Denmark :)

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?
Motherhood, not living in America like 90% of the internet seems to :) Spelling words with a 'u' instead of without.

2. How did you find me?
Linked from Julie, I think.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
I may have once or twice but not usually, there are normally so many other people speaking up and I don't do well with "crowds".

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
I like your honesty and your sense of humour, the way you can be funny and lighten the mood about things that aren't naturally funny. I like your tolerance for the various choices involved in motherhood.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
Nothing in particular. I'd love to come every day and learn new things about you, read your insights and opinions on different things.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
You don't necessarily have to shut up about it but I wish you could feel more secure about your handling of motherhood and the questions you have, it's all normal to feel like that and it doesn't by any measure make you a bad or not perfect mother.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Australia. I live in Brisbane which is about half way up the east coast. I have also lived in England.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Please keep sharing yourself with us and try to remember that as long as you approach every task and choice in motherhood with love and good intentions, it's very unlikely you're going to go wrong.

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

Motherhood. Rough Preganacies, preemies,

2. How did you find me?
from Scott's blog Husband's Anon

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

occasionally. . .I tend to lurk. . .I'm a bit intimidated by the 10,000 comments before hand and when I do have a thought or a solution to a baby problem at least 16 other wise women have already told you what I think :-) But I do enjoy your blog!

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

You express yourself well and I really empathize with youon the new mommy thing. And the pregnancy thing. You are very real and that is very refreshing.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

I'm really quite happy about them.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

lol, n/a

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

I am from Fargo, ND, but I live in California. I am an Air Force wife, so we move a lot.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Just keep writing! You are a daily stop for me!

1. IF/losses
2. Through Julie
3. Yes, recently started
4. Your honesty - some times you sum up some of the emotions of IF/loss so well - it is so nice to read my own thoughts expressed by someone else - it is such a validation...
5. Don't mind...
6. Nothing really...just keep writing...
7. Sydney Australia
8. I really love reading your blog...

Hi Tertia,

I ended up here through Julie's blog last year when TTC with PCOs. Coincidentally, I got pregnant almost immediately without treatment, and am now the proud mother of a seven week old baby boy. Which means that we were pregnant more or less at the same time, which again made your blog a very handy point of reference to compare my own anguish against. By the way, I'm not gorgeous nor divine, but my baby is. Does that count?

As your posts are always spot on, I very rarely feel the need to comment! Also, I think any comment coming from a "married -for-six-months-who-thinks-she's-infertile -but-is-already-pregnant"-type of person would be considered as bad assvice. Mind you, now that we're both mothers, I might reconsider.

My answers to questions 4,5 and 6 go along the lines of what has already been said: don't change anything.It's the openness, honesty and humour that make your blog special!

I'm from Finland but live in continental Europe.

Advice? I found Elizabeth Pantley's book The No Cry Sleep Solution really inspiring. There IS a golden middle way between letting them cry it out and coping with the sleep deprivation!

1. Motherhood.

2. Through my compulsive link clicking from other blogs.

3. Not really - I generally feel like I don't have much to offer.

4. All of it. The honesty about your losses, the honesty of being a new parent, and your sense of humour.

5. I like them just the way they are!

6. Nothing at all.

7. Perth, Western Australia

8. Assvice - you honestly can't hurt the babies by rocking them to sleep this young. When they're a bit older (like 9 months or so) *try* to get them to sleep by themselves once they're a bit dozy. I rocked my babe to sleep from the minute he was born. Then one day (when he was about 9 months old) I had to pee something chronic so I hugged him, shushed him, and ran out of his room. He cried for about 5 minutes before I went back in (I'm still WAY fruity with that - I never let him cry longer than 5 minutes still and he's 1 and a bit) but only just to pat him on the bum, and that was it! Now I just sing him 2 nursery rhymes, kiss him, tell him I love him and that it's time for bed and that's all I hear from him for the night. He either just goes to sleep or chats to himself for a while and drifts off.

That's all I have!

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?
Would have to be the gorgeous and divine part I think. Was married and never wanted kids (that's why we split up) but now I've met a lovely man and although I'm 38 and he's 10 years older, I would like to have a babe one day... maybe..

2. How did you find me?
From Julie

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
I only "found" you recently, but since I havne't been through any of the stuff you have, I don't feel qualified to comment, and often I don't read the other comments either.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? Love your open style of writing - and the frequency that you update your blog too! And LOVE the baby pics! But what do you and Marko look like??

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? Hard to say - love to hear what's going on in your life - I have a friend whose boyfriend is from SA so I'd love to hear more about the country from you, I guess.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
Nothing - love it all.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Edinburgh, Scotland

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
Just keep being yourself, and lovin' those babes! Keep up the good work, girl!

Wow, 190 comments already - you're an international star!

Here are my answers:

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above? We both started out at TLOL and now we've got motherhood in common too. Oh, and neither of us are in the US :).

2. How did you find me? TLOL, I used to mod the TTC>30 board way back when (still mod the Moms>30 board now).

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t? Sometimes.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? Love it - I love your honesty, your sense of humor, of irreverence, and most of all I love watching you become the mother you've always wanted to be.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? Anything you like, it's your blog. I'm just along for the ride.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about? See above ;).

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from? I'm an American living just outside of Tel Aviv, Israel. I grew up in NY but have been here for about 16 years now.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice? I told you my best assvice the other day - throw out all the books and try not to drop them on their heads and you'll do just fine LOL.

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

Motherhood, and as I identify myself on business/medical forms as domestic goddess of course I'm gorgeous and divine like you!

2. How did you find me?

Through Julie's website

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

All. the. time. I have a big mouth and tons of opinions to go with it. I can't shut up.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

You are genuine, T. The real article. I love the personal way in which you address your posts. You have a lot of chutzpah, too. The pictures don't hurt, either.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

More of the same.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

nothing. really.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Florida, U.S.A.
small town, big oak trees and citrus

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Don't be so hard on yourself. I can hear it in your writing voice. You are doing a fantastic job of mothering, I can tell. It's fun to see you doing it online. I have walked through the rooms in your house in my mind. I have seen you up in the middle of the night at the computer tapping one-handed. Never mind that you are always in that wedding frock we see above :). Thanks for being an internet friend. I can ALWAYS use another friend. I wouldn't have gotten this far without them.

1. What do we have in common?
- Infertility, but also the sense of humour.

2. How did you find me?
- I found a link to the brillant "How to be Good Friends with an
Infertile" on a Norwegian IVF-webforum.

3. Do you comment?
- No, but only because of the language! I do read English quite well, and I also speak it (but not very well, I'm afraid). Writing it, though, is a bit of a challenge for me. Especially being quick-witted and fun (which I really am in Norwegian, I promise ... ;)) is almost impossible - and then I become boring, which I hate ...

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
- All of them! The way you write, the balance between humour and seriousness - everything!

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
- Any other subjects won't be necessary, thank you very much :)

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?
- Nothing, really.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
- Oslo, Norway.

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

All of the above :-) I'm a recovering infertile with 2 girls under two. Lucy (IVF) is 23 months and Eliza (natural) is 9 months. And note, just this once, I'm even using their names. Feel special yet?

2. How did you find me? IVFC. I was a frequent lurker on the vets board but by the time I got the courage to post there I was pg with Lucy. I posted on a few other boards as "Georgia" (my name, funnily enough).

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t? Sometimes, but mostly lurk. I guess because I don't have my own blog and know so much more about you than you do about me I feel a bit awkward. I do read often though.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? I like your willingness to tackle all the issues, even (or especially) the controversial ones.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about? your blog, your call I say.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about? As above.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from? I'm in Australia.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
You're ASKING for assvice? Really? OK, twisted my arm - this aplies more to babies 6+ months though. PLEASE don't be one of those Mums who let the kids run the show and dictate their life. I have one SIL with 3.5yo twins who must sleep 3 hours a day, it must be at 12.30 and it can ONLY be in their own cots. So "lunch" at the in-laws always starts at 10.30... Another SIL's little princess needs absolute quiet to sleep, she has to sit outside and can't make a noise. No TV, no washing machine, no kettle, nada. Heaps of others, but you get my point. Sure, their needs are important, but if their nap is half an hour late or dinner is a little early etc they'll live - you'll be much happier - and I think they'll grow up to be nicer, more adaptable people.

1. What do we have in common?

pg loss. And we were pg this last time together due only a day apart

2. How did you find me?
Through Julie at a little pregnant

3. Do you comment? Sometimes, but usually someone else has said what I would've

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

Your fabulousness. Pics of the babes. Your writing style. The v. for Very.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

Me. Duh. ;-)

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Uhhhhh....drawing a blank here.

7. Where are you from?

Radford, VA, USA

1. I used to be gorgeous and divine before having 10 pregnancies in a six year period of time, 10 baby losses and one healthy beautiful 2 year old boy and possibly another on the way (I am 14 weeks pregnant). Luckily my husband still tells me all the time he thinks I am beautiful. It helps.

2. A Little Pregnant

3. Mostly I lurk (and cry a lot) but every once in a while (esp recently) I have made a comment. In old BB's, I had been "flamed" on comments I put up and it has since caused me to only lurk. I realize this is a "safe place" but it is still hard for me to put my feelings "out there."

4. I love everything you write. You are funny, brutally honest and it seems you have the same reactions to situations that I do and I have been thinking I am the only person that feels that way. It is comforting. A lot of my friends have no idea where I am coming from and don't understand my feelings at all. I kind of consider you a friend who does get it :).

5 & 6. I like it just the way it is, don't change (or do and I will still like it). :)

7. I am originally from Florida and now I live just outside NYC.

8. Nope you are doing just fine :).

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

I have been told that I am infertile but as my husband and I aren't exactly trying yet we don't know for sure. I'm trying to educate myself about the ups and downs of assisted reproduction. I also seem to have the same attitudes about respect and honesty that you do, Tertia. And yes, I'm divine.

2. How did you find me?

Through Julie (a little pregnant). I found her site a week before she had Charlie.

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

I have once, just a note of support when you were really struggling, but I don't feel qualified to comment about most issues as I am not undergoing fertility treatment at the moment and am not a parent.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

Your honesty, your regular updating, your humour, and the pics of your beautiful children.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

Can't think of anything - I enjoy it as it is.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

I'll be perfectly honest here - I did go through a stage where I thought, sheesh, just put the kids down and let 'em cry themselves to sleep, for Pete's sake! However, as I said above, I am NOT a parent and I have no idea what it's like for you. Your comments the other day about how your babies' cries seem to go right through you is something I have also heard from my friends who have kids so I'm glad I kept my mouth shut!

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Melbourne, Australia. Apparently very similar climate wise to SA. Hot at the moment, that's for sure.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Plenty of adoration. A woman who has gone through so much and is so busy at the moment still manages to provide a site that gives so much pleasure to so many people - I tip my Aussie cork-dangly hat thingy to you!

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?
Motherhood!

2. How did you find me?
I am not sure...

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?
Occasionally. I usually don't because I sort of feel like I will accidentally offer assvice, and because I am fertile so not sure if I should say anything.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?
Everything about it, I have been addicted since the day I started reading. I talk about you to my Mum.

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

I wouldn't change a thing. Actually that is a lie, I wish you trusted yourself more, and realised how good a job you are doing with those babies. But I wouldn't change the fact that you tell us about it, because I think people need to hear what it is really like.

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?
Adelaide, Australia.

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?
If you are having unexpected visitors, and don't have time to sweep the floors, just sweep along all the walls. That is where most of the dust and stuff collects, so if that part looks clean, it gives the illusion that all the floors are clean.

1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

Infertility...now currently 34w4d pg with twins...on bedrest now due to PTL (I looked to your blog for how your pg went at about this stage). Oh yeah, of course gorgeous and divine!

2. How did you find me?

Through IVFC


3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

No...it's usually been said by the time I read :(, but I often think of doing so!


4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy? At first I loved following your pregnancy because that's when I found the blog and I was in my early stages of my twin pgcy, now I just love listening and learning about life with twins! they are beautiful children!


5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?
I don't wish anything to change about it.

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

Nothing...it wouldn't be you if you held back about anything.


7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Michigan, USA


8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Keep the pictures of the beautiful babies coming!! It's great to see how much they have flourished over the past couple of months!


1. What do we have in common? Infertility? Motherhood? Being gorgeous and divine? All of the above?

Infertility, late loss, IVF's, being a new mom, divine

2. How did you find me?

Through grrl's link

3. Do you comment? If yes, thanks! If no, how come you don’t?

Sometimes, when I have the time and my little guy doesn't require my attention.

4. What aspects of my blog (if any) do you enjoy?

I enjoy it all!

5. What do you wish our conversations were more about?

see above

6. What do you wish I would shut up about?

nothing

7. I am fascinated by all the different places we are from. Where are you from?

Long Island, NY

8. Lastly, any tips, suggestions, adorations or pieces of assvice?

Keep blogging! I look forward to reading your journey daily and can always relate.

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