I caved.

I caved.  I gave in.  Without even a fight.  It went as follows: 

On Sunday I declared myself fit enough for a quick trip to the mall to get some baby things (8x leggings, baby backpack, 2x receiving blankets).  On the way out Marko said to me “I just want to have a quick look at the home theater shop because they have some new stock in”.

Being the loving, understanding, perfect, goddess-like wife that I am I said no problem.  I stood at the entrance while he was wandering around the store.  Now Marko never asks for help, would rather walk around aimlessly for ages, it drives me crazy, so I called the chap over and asked him about the prices and models etc and then called Marko over and said “here, talk to this chap, they have a new model in, its blah blah (fucking expensive) etc”

And I sat down at a counter and waited.  Five minutes later Marko is back, bright eyed and bushy tailed, babbling ten times to the dozen about contrasts, and settings and technical stuff.  So I looked at him and said “well, what do you think” (big mistake), he said “I think we should get it”.  I said “are you sure?  Is it a good deal?”  He said yes.  I said “you better be sure, that is almost two months salary you are talking about there”.  He said yes again, more vigorously.  I tried the last stalling technique I had left, I said “well I trust you to do the right thing, and if you think this is the right thing to do, then do it”, but the fight was out of me, in fact I don’t think it was even there in the beginning.  I practically handed the TV to him on a platter.  I have been weakening for months.

Fast forward two hours later, brand spanking new Plasma TV installed, Marko acting like he had just won the lottery.  I said to him “I can’t believe how easy that was, I am amazed”.  He replied “believe me, no one is more surprised than I am”.

I was counting up all things he has managed to convince me were ‘good ideas’:  The latest cell phone (nothing wrong with his last year model), his sexy, black, brand new Mercedes with special sports suspension or whatever (nothing wrong with his three years ago model BMW), a brand new fancy DVD camera (already has a VCR camera, albeit from the Ark) and of course now the latest, greatest plasma TV (has a perfect flat screen TV, only four years old).  This all within the last few months!!!!  I think he is taking advantage of my mellowed hormonal state.  (It’s amazing how much money you have when you don’t have to do IVF, all this from my saved up ‘IVF fund’, besides the car of course.)

Yet, how can I deny the poor man his pleasure, he is such a winner husband (who hasn’t had sex in four months and is unlikely to until at least Feb/March next year).  I hope his TV makes him very happy.  May they live happily ever after.  Until the next new best thing comes along.

Seriously though, after denying ourselves for so long because of having to save up for IVF’s, I feel as if he deserves it.  And as he says, we don’t drink, gamble, go away on holidays etc.  This is what makes us happy. Him being happy makes me happy.  Me having babies makes me happy, which makes him happy.  Simple.

Am I not a winner wife???  Even if I can’t cook, have a maid to do the cleaning, have fucked up reproductive bits and am on anti-shag orders, at least I have a happy husband who has toys.  I rock.  If I were a man I would marry me any day. 

Comments

[Abby]

Boy, when you fold, you fold big time! But it does absolutly sound like Marko is a great husband, and a plasma TV is a small price to pay.
But I would like to suggest that if Marko gets one, the Julie's Paul should get...well, at LEAST a plasma TV! After reading their story I think that Paul at least deserves that! Wonder if Julie would agree...although at this point she's probably so delerious (worry about Charlie, lack of sleep, hormones, pain meds) that she'd agree to just about anything! Maybe I should just keep quiet here...

[Woodys Girl]

Wow. Glad it was *only* a plasma TV! By the title, I was expecting to hear that you were now on bedrest in the hospital. :-P

By the way, I hope you also got motion detectors for all Marko's newfangled gadgets. Twin toddlers and a plasma TV... hmm.... I can see PB&J smeared on the screen already! ROFL

Enjoy the splurge. I'm sure you'll be channel surfing at 2AM for many nights to come, whilst feeding A&K!

[Ellen]

Oh baby. Your husband and my husband should get together. Or maybe they shouldn't. They would probably own every gadget known to man in about three days.

Seriously, the same exact thing happened to me when I got pregnant. I don't have the will to fight anymore. In the past seven months, my husband has managed to procure two brand new digital cameras, a digital video camera, flatscreen monitor, a laptop, large screen TV and extended digital cable. Even he finds that I have a bit of fight left in me, all he has to do is say, "But it's REALLY for the baby."

Oh well. Let them enjoy it now, before the babies are shoving their juice boxes in the DVD player.

[susan]

Tertia, if I were a man, I'D marry you. You and your delightful "fat" thighs. (I can't wait to get my new site up and running so I can take some photos and show you what the word "fat" actually means, you crazy kid you.)

[virginia]

tertia, take it from me, cooking shows and renovating shows look fabulous on plasma, and Dumpling's Boobahs are even more mesmorizing when they are big and in surround sound...

[jamie]

How fortunate for him that you caved.

Of course my husband waited until I was visiting my mother to buy one in secret. He has since been shown the error of his ways.

I've been fighting the incessant requests for a digital video camera for at least a year now... "but honey, if we ever get pregnant, we'll need it for the baby..."

Seriously, congrats on your newest addition!

[Terri]

My hubby wants to know if you need a 2nd husband..he's good at car repairs???

A plasma would be a wonderful television. Enjoy it!!

[Socal]

I beg to differ. You CAN cook. You just tend to torch the kitchen a bit. Remember me from IVFC?

[Lioness]

I can’t cook, also have a maid to do the cleaning [we call them housekeepers though, we're more refined], don't know abt the reproductive bits though PCO doesn't sound so good does it, am apparently on anti-shag orders as well [alas], and no money to buy expensive [boy] toys. I suck rock. I'd marry you in a sec if only I didn't have the nagging suspicion we'd be wringing each others' necks in a sec. Plus we'd never see each other, I'd go to bed as you wake up. Nice thought though, thanks for asking.

(Yes, v nice to let him have his plasma TV, the poor thing. REALLY.)

[BIL]

Now that Marko has one, I also need one. I want toys as well.

Please speak to your sister immediately!

Thanks

[Boulder]

LOL @ BIL's comments. Tertia, I suspect that sister may not be too happy with you once she hears....

Ok, so I have recently been caught doing a few things that are contrary to my character: gave up my housekeeper (Lioness & I are v refined), have been cooking meals for husband, purchased the Plasma MYSELF for my husband's business (& therefore, not for my own enjoyment in any way), flat screen monitors for computers all around home & work (again no personal use, as I have laptop), secured latest *must have, impossible to get* $600.00 cell phone for same man, and, well, so.... do you think perhaps I might be.... pregnant?

hahahahahaha - sorry, making myself sick here rolling around on floor laughing.

So much for being the "voice of reason" in my home. I'm washed up before my time.

Hold your head high Tertia, you are in good company, if I do say so myself!

[Katie]

I loved the belly photos, I dragged my husband in, started pointing at the screen and saying "look look Tertia's belly and its got TWO babies in there!"
You do rock, Tertia. If you weren't already married (and me as well) I would deffinately marry you, well if I was a man.
Way to cave, everybody needs a plasma tv!

[Julie]

Sister. I feel your pain.

Signed,
New owner of a digital video camera, despite the fact that the kid doesn't even really move much

[Puppermom]

I should marry you !! I had to convince my dh that we needed a plasma TV. He tried to be all responsible and I kept saying that we only live once and now that I'm pregnant, we don't have to spend on IVF anymore !!

Serious question for you about your nursery. Please email me back if you can. I am also expecting twins (24 weeks, 3 days) but I was going to only use one crib for the two of them (b/g) because for the first 4 months I was told that they will sleep better together. What made you go with two cribs?

[Kim]

I have learned that I always lose when I try to let/encourage my husband make the responsible financial decisions himself. That's how we end up with books, yes BOOKS that cost a month's pay (each). He calls them investments, but it's not much of an investment if you don't plan to sell. Ever.

[blackbird]

Ah well, weak in some areas, strong in others. I will leave that to your imagination.
Unfortunately, as the wife of a man who works in television/film I can tell you that HE is holding out as "the technology on the plasmas is not up to professional grade." Which translates to: Marko will have to have a new one in two years.

[Diana in WI]

So sorry.

I am married to a technophile, too. When I was in my last week of maternity leave and doing some much neglected dusting of the electronic devices, I made an appauling discovery. We had 2 TVs but somehow THREE DVD players. This was 6 years ago. He still blushes when he tries to justify them. Now we have 3 TVs (a flat screen, a plasma, and a big screen in the home theater) and 5 DVD players, all hooked up. So very sad. It only gets worse. I, too, have given up.

Condolences,
Diana

[Stefanie]

You are such a good wife - Marco is so lucky! That plasma tv will come in handy for watching Barney, Telletubbies, Spongebob, etc. - Do you have those over there? If not, I'm sure some of your American buddies would be happy to send you some tapes (or DVDs). I have a truckload I'll send you myself!

[ValleyGal]

Here's my problem. When it comes to his toys (mostly televisions of all sorts, but with rather large price tags), it's a necessity. But when it comes to my toys (Playstation 2), they'll lead to wasted free time. Sigh. I wonder if I can put my DH on bed rest so that he'll finally break down...

[Scully]

Marry me. I want a plasma t.v.

Boy did you ever cave! So, again, marry me.

Plasma t.v.'s are the best and t.v.'s are the best invention at 2:00 in the morning when babies aren't sleeping and you aren't either.

You're such a wonderful wife.

And I'm going to take pictures of my thighs and put them on my blog and then let's see who has fat thighs. It's NOT you!

[Mandy]

Yes, you're a winner. I'd marry you if I was a guy, though I'd constantly worry about accidentally letting out a fart in front of you as you've said you two don't fart in front of each other.

In the end, I think you win. You got the baby stuff, got the babies coming...and you look damn good doing it.

[Pazel]

We've also been talking about how to spend our IVF savings (since the last one seems to have worked). This Christmas will include many toys that we've put off for a long time and no one could be more excited than my hubby.

[Stacey]

Tertia, can you be my Mom?

Thanks.

[bj]

You think you'll be having sex a little over a month after the babies come? I will be thoroughly and truly impressed if it happens.

(and notice how I'm assuming that the babies won't come 'til January)

bj

[Bec]

I think it would have been cheaper to hire the woman who cooks and gives BJ's, but a plasma TV will last longer.

Enjoy!

[Ute]

Amazing modesty, I must say... [vbg]

B.t.w., here's a little something to relieve any boredom you may still experience in spite of your new high-tech equipment:

http://web.okaygo.co.uk/apps/letters/flashcom/

;o)

[AyEnDeeAreEeAyAitch]

My husband would Jizz his jeans if he got all those toys, oh, and the cash to buy them... you do rock!

[Maria]

LOL!! I just learned from one of the comments above that you and your husband do not fart in front of each other. I don't fart in front of my husband and I make him go in the other room if he has to - I thought we were the only ones who did (or didn't) do that!

I say let the man have his toys! It's when they get the 2-seater car that you have to worry....

[Mollie]

Hahahahaha!

Reminds me of when Geo HAD to have THE LATEST AND GREATEST digital camcorder for our adoption trip to Vietnam.

I caved so quick. Hardly said boo. Same as you, "If this is the best thing, if it's a good deal (you should hear him justify a good deal; it's hilarious), do what you think is best, blah blah blah buy it already and just leave me out of it blah."

He is also decidedly metrosexual and requires many pairs of shoes, and jackets. Man has a serious jacket fetish. I give him all sorts of hell about it, but it's for sport. Poor son of a bitch. It's hell being married to me.

[Julia S]

So this is why you and Steve ended the torrid affair? Because you expect to actually be asked before the electronics show up in a van?

The mind boggles.

PS I love the nursery and you are delicious.

[Lioness]

See, according to my cute laptop clock [not cute, normal, I'm bored, I make things up] it is 3.28 am here which means it's 5.28 am there and why are you still in bed, dahling? Why are you NOT posting and entertaining me? This needs to stop, v v wrong.

[Charles (Tess DH)]

WAAAAAH!

I am crying like Jasper!