Breaking up is hard to do.

Wow. Breaking up sucks. Especially when you have a dump a really nice guy. I broke up with my RE today. I felt like crying. We’ve been together for so long. Through thick and thin. (literally). He has seen my cooter more times than my husband. He has seen my insides. He has done laps (x2), HSG’s, D&C’s (x2), C sections etc on me. He is an amazing doctor, he is so sweet and caring. And he is handsome. I am distraught.

He is a funny guy. He has a great sense of humor. He looked at my cervix (which has a kink in it) and said “wow I am good to get the embies through there”. And he was good. Very good. My cervix knew him and liked him.

I would have stayed with him but he is just too far away from where I live. I’ve moved and I just can’t do bedrest for two months so far away from home. The new hospital I want to go to has the best NICU in the region, which is unfortunately a huge consideration for me.

He was so cool about the break up. I had warned him by sending a Dear John email a week ago. He was so sweet and understanding. He agreed that being near a top class NICU was important to me. He even offered to phone my new guy and give me a glowing reference and background history.

I can’t believe its over. I feel so empty. He even kissed me on the cheek and said in his soft voice “good luck Mrs A”. I nearly wept. How am I going to survive without him. He was my rock, always there for me. And I was his special patient, I know I was. *Sob*

On a brighter note, the babies are fine. All looks well. Growing nicely. Have some pics which I might post later. I have had annoying meetings at work all day. I hate it when work interferes with my personal life.

When I have time later, when I finished my meetings, I am going to be really happy and excited.

Comments

[eM]

"the babies are fine. All looks well. Growing nicely" Wooooooohhoooooooo. Tertia this should be the lead line silly not all that blabber about the man. Wooooooooohoooooooo. Have a lovely, glowing long weekend.

[Janine]

Yay for those babies! And ja, I'm almost teary at your break-up. v. handsome that chap. Thinks: Maybe I should break up with mine and switch to yours...
Loved: "I hate it when work interferes with my personal life." Exactly where I am right now.

[Aurora]

Love to hear that the babies are okay. Sorry about your breakup. You're right, breaking up is hard to do.

I'm with you on work interfering with personal time. I mean, how important does work think it is? What right does it have to interfere with my personal life?

Still, so happy happy happy about the babies...and would love to see pictures if you are comfortable posting them.

[Lindsey]

Good for the babies!

Now I know just what you mean about the doctor. I'm already having a nervous breakdown about my OB retiring and that probably won't be for at least 10 years. Yes, I am a freak, I know.

[Kristine]

I reccomend a clean break...drawing out the goodbyes is just going to make it more difficult for everyone. Are you going to call your new doctor "Dr. Rebound"?

[Emily]

I'm so happy to hear that everything is o.k.

I wish I could have sent my RE a dear john letter, but as usual in my life, he beat me to the punch. I am continually drowning those sorrows in ice cream (the forbidden food).

[Jen P]

So glad to hear things are going well with the babies and I hope the new guy can live up to your good RE.

[Julie]

I am sending your RE a flaming sack of poo to be deposited on his doorstep. "With love from Tertia."

That will assure that he doesn't pine away for you.

[Menita]

Wish I'd known you were going to do this - I'd have pointed you to http://gottabreakup.com/
They will help break up for you for free, or you can have a customized breakup (for "that personal breaking up touch").
Could have saved you a lot of anguish, girl.

[Danae]

It's so good to know that you're finally feeling really happy and excited.

Please post pictures!