Why are we like that with our RE’s and hairdressers?

Isn’t it strange how you feel this (undeserved?) sense of loyalty to your hairdresser / RE? Even though you are paying them to do a job it’s almost like cheating on them if you consider going to see someone else for a second opinion / different hair cut. Why are we like that? Why am I like that?

An IVF friend of mine has been with her RE for 7 IVF’s, the first one of which resulted in her son. However six IVF’s later she still has only one child. She really wants two. So she decided perhaps she should get a second opinion from another clinic. The guilt! She feels like she is cheating on her RE. Will he break up with her if he finds out?

But before she goes for a second opinion she needed to get her files to take with her. So she phoned and asked the receptionist to put the documents together, hoping that her RE wouldn’t find out. Alas he did. She feels terrible. He is hurt. They are not sure if their relationship will survive the betrayal.

Ok, so it’s not entirely like that. I am not sure how he feels? Do you think our RE’s care if we go elsewhere? I must be honest I sometimes wonder if my RE wouldn’t like me to go somewhere else, I keep messing up his stats.

I too tried to go elsewhere once, somewhere between IVF#675 and IVF#4010. Or there about. But I chickened out and cancelled the appointment. I just couldn’t do it to him. I would feel like a IVF slut. Anyway, do I really want yet another man to see my cooter?

And then I have to ask, how much difference does an RE make? I sometimes feel like I set my entire protocol myself. I am very involved in my cycles. I decide on the level of stims, I introduce new drugs, new procedures etc. The only thing I can’t do is ER and ET. Oh and ICSI of course. Gonal F is Gonal F. Does it matter which RE you are at? Not sure.

I am not brave enough to leave him yet. There is something special between us.

Comments

[Jodi]

I had an easier time leaving my RE than I did leaving my hair dresser. I ended up lying to her and told her I was moving out of the city. I am such a wuss!

My RE just pissed me off when he wouldn't get aggressive with my treatment. It is much easier when you have an RE that lets you make suggestions regarding your treatment.